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Well.. just fuck twank slags then.. no emotional connection.. just slob on this knob
I'm honestly not interested in one night stands, or anything of the like.
Originally Posted by kurtatx
30s? you need to broaden your horizons.
Eh, I've tried. Minimally. On tinder. I couldn't match with a single girl under 29. At the same time, I don't think i'd be interested in anyone below 27 anyway. Just different priorities in life and stuff. I mean, yeah, if someone showed up and they were all good, I wouldn't say no. But I doubt that happening. On the other hand, going older? I'm 32. I'd go as far as 37. Beyond that, I dunno, man. It would have to be the perfect person, of which I have yet to see one of. I'm looking at a 10 year spread... I don't think I really want to go anywhere beyond that.
Oh, and all of you should consider yourselves lucky for being tied down. Online dating is a whole world of WTF. Friends are kind of useless in that regard... not many single people left, anywhere near the 30s. I don't know many divorcees either. They're all settled down with families, and all their friends are all families, so not much hope in that regard. My other option is just doing my thang, getting out there, doing events, sports, etc. and maybe finding someone myself.
I had this co-worker from Malaysia
50s.. short.. ugly AF..
Anyways, he'd tell me he'd go on church excursions for singles
I'm like.. how did it go.. you fuck?
He'd be like, oh they're all divorced, or have kids..
and I'm like...
i think when you meet the right one, you'll feel inspired and not like a slouch. that last one just brought out the bad in you.
not like you should find your self worth in someone else but there's something to that whole "behind every great man, is a mustache, a racecar and a great woman".
I also happen to think there's a balance, like with everything.
should you "settle" for $120K? That's up to you...but also, at what point are you successful enough to enjoy the now? When you have a ton of stuff?
I don't know, I feel like I had all the toys, we had a good joint income (dispensary?) and I felt pretty uninspired and empty.
Need less and you'll have more?
All my points are moot because I have too many cars and am still working on practicing what I preach.
i think when you meet the right one, you'll feel inspired and not like a slouch. that last one just brought out the bad in you.
not like you should find your self worth in someone else but there's something to that whole "behind every great man, is a mustache, a racecar and a great woman".
after all the shit I've been reading of late, I highly disagree with you. A man only needs a woman for 1 reason. Procreation.
Literally, men are capable of doing everything else themselves. It's women who need a good man. It's men who fix their cars, change their oil, fix anything that's broken. It's men who protect them. It's men who they go after for all da monies when divorce happens. It's men who build their roads, their houses, etc. And guys get fuck all. It's guys who've invented 95% of the shit around the world, not women, etc.
dont get me wrong- there is the odd woman that can turn a wrench, change their own oil, etc. But it's rare. For every 50 guys that do the same, there's maybe one woman who can do the same. Without men, women would be fucked. Even in construction, women are generally given the shit tasks the guys don't want to do, like holding signs or sitting on a piece of equipment in the blazing sun.
As for men? We don't even need female companionship. We want it. But we don't need it. Guys can just chill with other guys, drink beer and be happy. Besides procreating, we literally need nothing from them. I used to define myself by the woman I was with. Not just the ex. But going back even a decade and a half. Same shit. Because society told me I needed to. And now that I have none of that, my happiness level has been higher than ever.
I know.. you're like "this guy is crazy!" I would have said the same thing, 6 months ago. Funny how our perspectives change over time.
after all the shit I've been reading of late, I highly disagree with you. A man only needs a woman for 1 reason. Procreation.
Literally, men are capable of doing everything else themselves. It's women who need a good man. It's men who fix their cars, change their oil, fix anything that's broken. It's men who protect them. It's men who they go after for all da monies when divorce happens. It's men who build their roads, their houses, etc. And guys get fuck all. It's guys who've invented 95% of the shit around the world, not women, etc.
dont get me wrong- there is the odd woman that can turn a wrench, change their own oil, etc. But it's rare. For every 50 guys that do the same, there's maybe one woman who can do the same. Without men, women would be fucked. Even in construction, women are generally given the shit tasks the guys don't want to do, like holding signs or sitting on a piece of equipment in the blazing sun.
As for men? We don't even need female companionship. We want it. But we don't need it. Guys can just chill with other guys, drink beer and be happy. Besides procreating, we literally need nothing from them. I used to define myself by the woman I was with. Not just the ex. But going back even a decade and a half. Same shit. Because society told me I needed to. And now that I have none of that, my happiness level has been higher than ever.
I know.. you're like "this guy is crazy!" I would have said the same thing, 6 months ago. Funny how our perspectives change over time.
well, if you need any help letting your parents know, we're here for you. or just buy rollerblades (although being Canadian, might not be overt enough).
seriously though, society doesn't tell you that...physiology does.
but then again, we can just buy you a volleyball and occasional drake ticket and you'd be alright too.
we bros! remember what Matt asked us about last week?!? You are getting it!
after all the shit I've been reading of late, I highly disagree with you. A man only needs a woman for 1 reason. Procreation.
Literally, men are capable of doing everything else themselves. It's women who need a good man. It's men who fix their cars, change their oil, fix anything that's broken. It's men who protect them. It's men who they go after for all da monies when divorce happens. It's men who build their roads, their houses, etc. And guys get fuck all. It's guys who've invented 95% of the shit around the world, not women, etc.
dont get me wrong- there is the odd woman that can turn a wrench, change their own oil, etc. But it's rare. For every 50 guys that do the same, there's maybe one woman who can do the same. Without men, women would be fucked. Even in construction, women are generally given the shit tasks the guys don't want to do, like holding signs or sitting on a piece of equipment in the blazing sun.
As for men? We don't even need female companionship. We want it. But we don't need it. Guys can just chill with other guys, drink beer and be happy. Besides procreating, we literally need nothing from them. I used to define myself by the woman I was with. Not just the ex. But going back even a decade and a half. Same shit. Because society told me I needed to. And now that I have none of that, my happiness level has been higher than ever.
I know.. you're like "this guy is crazy!" I would have said the same thing, 6 months ago. Funny how our perspectives change over time.
Pretty sure J had this exact same quote a few months ago
LMAO, definitely not. I think Women are incredible...especially after one made me a baby.
We handle the brawn and think we are the brains too...but that's part of their genius plan.
Adam, I can understand your perspective. But why do you seem angry about your opinion?
I also happen to think there's a balance, like with everything.
should you "settle" for $120K? That's up to you...but also, at what point are you successful enough to enjoy the now? When you have a ton of stuff?
I don't know, I feel like I had all the toys, we had a good joint income (dispensary?) and I felt pretty uninspired and empty.
Need less and you'll have more?
All my points are moot because I have too many cars and am still working on practicing what I preach.
For now, I'd be happy with 250k a year. Ultimately, I want to hit 1M per year, every year. It's just a goal. I think I'd be able to do anything and everything in life that I want at that point. If I get to 850k, and I'm working 18 hours a day, etc., I won't push to that 1M mark. I will scale back, if anything. I'll scale back to 500k and enjoy it.
You were also unhappy because of who you were with. Not because you had it all and it brought you no joy. I agree, objects don't bring happiness in themselves. But true friends and my family does.
I was at the computer store a few weeks back and the guy working there brought my PC out to the car, to load it in the trunk. He's like "whoa, tell me you're driving that Nissan!!" And i was like "yeah, that's it". And he starts rambling off about how much he wants one and how lucky I am and how happy I should be... and I was like "dude, it's a fucking car. I'm going through a shitty divorce right now and this car doesn't bring me limitless joy. Anything but. By the end, it would be the same whether it's a Chevette or Lambo"
also, 120k in Canada is not even close to being the same as 120k in the US. 120k in the US seems like it'd be a very healthy salary... here... journey men working trades can pull off 120k. Granted, they work 12 hours a day, but they're still making bank. Our tax system isn't setup for people to get ahead. It's setup to create socialism. No, we aren't communists, but if you make more, you lose a good chunk of it to support those who can't. "Free" healthcare isn't actually free. We just pay for everyone, rather than individually. Etc. Here, salaries are high because cost of living is high. That's all there's to it.
LMAO, definitely not. I think Women are incredible...especially after one made me a baby.
We handle the brawn and think we are the brains too...but that's part of their genius plan.
Adam, I can understand your perspective. But why do you seem angry about your opinion?
angry? Not in the least. I'm guessing tone and context are lost yet again, because of typing.
I was gonna say, sounds like you're describing Murrica there...
shiet, one mil a year. that sounds cozy. i bet i could live okay with that too. i mean, i wouldn't have everything i want. but enough that i'd be somewhat almost content.
Nowhere did I say I hate women and will never speak to them again. Rather, it's how I treat them and approach them. No, I won't be an asshole. That doesn't work out well for anyone. That's not my direction whatsoever. I'm thinking the likelihood of me eventually meeting someone suitable is decently high. But I won't do it because I need it. Ill do it because I want it. There's a fine difference between the two. In essence, my needs first, before anyone else.
As someone wise recently told me- you're either working towards your own agenda, or you're working towards your partner's agenda. There is no middle ground.
I also know it's easy for outsiders to laugh and criticize those like me. Save quote to mock me later when I stumble. Whatever. I'll be the first to admit I don't have half of this shit figured out yet. But I can't give up either. I'm fully expecting to stumble along the way and make shitty mistakes. Such is life.
11-01-2017, 11:45 AM
Friends are kind of useless in that regard... not many single people left, anywhere near the 30s. I don't know many divorcees either. They're all settled down with families, and all their friends are all families, so not much hope in that regard. My other option is just doing my thang, getting out there, doing events, sports, etc. and maybe finding someone myself.
