I think stripped my oil pan. I was being a knuckle head, and not thinking, and was going the wrong way with the wrench... yes, not smart, and was going to fast, half way through the push it gave, and I said..... daaaaaaaaaaammmmmmmmmmmnnnnnnnnnniiiiiittttttttttt .. took it off, and there were some shaving around the tip of the bolt. drained the oil, replaced the plus with some grease, and got some more shavings. did it again, and no shavings. the plug itself is fine. I was able to get a decent seal with a new crush washer (does not appear to be leaking), but I need to know what to do from here. I read a few threads that mentioned an oversized plug? should I go that route, and do another change to be sure I got all the shavings? do I need to replace the oil pan? what happens if I didn't get all the shavings? am I completely f'ed?

If the bolt tightens up fine without leaking i wouldnt worry about it.

it doesn't really tighten down all the way like it should. if I go any further it will just "let go" or loosen an bit. I put a paper towel under it last night, and there were a few spots from it dripping. nothing major, but it definitely leaked a little. thoughts?

throw some hondabond on the tread, wait a little for it to start to dry, then put it back on. Then see if it holds. the hondabond should make it fit more snug.

might be a stupid question, but where do I find hondabond?

googled it, and found this comment
"HONDABOND HONDA BOND HT SEALANT HI-TEMP LIQUID GASKET. USE THIS GENUINE HONDA SEALANT TO SEAL CRITICAL AREAS AS SPECIFIED IN THE SERVICE MANUALS. IT CAN BE USED FOR MOST GASKETLESS APPLICATIONS EXCEPT ENGINE OIL PANS. NET WT. 1.9 FL. OZ."

is there a different product I should be looking @?

If you use any kind of lock tight, you should replace it with Fumoto Oil drain valve. It is temporarily okay for now, but it is totally unsafe to have a loose oil plug.

so I went with an oversized plug, and it tightens down without an issues. it re-threaded nicely, and is defintely snug on there. the problem now is the oversized came with a rubber washer, and after inspecting the washer it looks like it has warped or become mishaped after I tightened the plug down. I want to switch back to the metal crush washer, but the ones I had for my previous bolt didn't fit. Does anyone know the spec for a soft metal crush washer that will fit an oversized plug?

same thinke happen to my car by canadian tire auto service i was sooo mad and they had to retap the thred and it's working fine

Take the drain bolt to an auto parts store and match it. I've seen various sizes of them at Oreilly, Auto Zone, etc.

I agree- autozone has a rack of drain plug washers in different sizes
stock was 14mm if that helps narrow the choices

Visually inspect the threads in the pan plug hole. Make sure there aren't any slivers of metal in the threads. You can get them out with a pick if any are in there.