Ive tried everything to get this connector apart. Pb blaster didnt m work, ive tried multiple picks and pliers. Id appreciate any good feedback on what else to try

 

If this is the connector you're trying to get apart I struggled with it recently trying to get to it from behind the engine. I finally found a small opening to see the connector tab that needs to be released from above the engine and used a long screwdriver snaked through to the connector tab release, see photo. The connector slides onto and locks onto a flat metal post and you have to press the tab to get the connector to release from the metal mount and then the connector itself can be pulled up and away from the mount and then separated. Spent way too much time trying to do this all from behind the engine, it was a real pain. Have a good light to help you see the tab from above and disconnect the VTEC oil control valve green connector shown in the photo and move the wiring harness to the side some if necessary to see the tab.