This is sad, I thought my first pic posting would be of my car... but nooooooo... I hope this works, its my first time doing this.

 

If it was, would you share some photos?

 

no...that just points to him being the :ghey: in the relationship

 

ok, fixed it.. I am a girl dammit!

 

Your relationship with this guy started 7 years ago. Thats too damn long.

Move on, just hang it up before it gets ugly.

 

MSZ its already gotten ugly. We've said all the cursewords in the books at each other, he's seeked therapy, been on suicide watch, taken meds for depression, have a therapist write an entire chapter of her book on him, and tons of tears have been shed on both sides, and yes we still love each other. We've even mutually agreed to stop talking to each other and to leave each other alone. But somehow we have found our way back to each other. My friends have given up on me and him. Last time I told him that he was gone for my life from good, they all took bets on when he'd be back, even though I thought he was gone for real!

The funniest part is my best friends tell me he's the most normal guy I've ever dated. Scary huh?

What can I say, except I my psycho.

 

No you can abosultely love each other but not stand living together.

For example, my best friend and I could never room toegether. Our ideas of how a house should be run are simply too different.

However, the wifey and I seem to get a long. There is of course some healthy friction from time to time, but we manage.

I am a whole hearted proponent of living together before marraige. You need to be sure you can cohabitat without too much trouble before making that commitment.

Good luck.

 

So you love yourself?

 

If you're not sure, just ask the tooth fairy if love is enough.

 

No we're both psycho..

 

That's a Negative Ghostrider! Dark and I were totally in love for more than 3 years....and that wasn't enough to keep up together...didn't scenario though...when you let other people dictate your life, love will never do!

 

Thanks for all the advice. I think I need to see him in person and talk things out with him. Hopefully that will happen tonight. There is only so much porn I can watch to keep my mind off things...

 

Oh yeah...which ones have you been watching?

 

Nope, your nuts.

 

Not necessarily true Nick. Not everyone is looking for marriage, some are completely content in a healthy relationship. It's not like marriage is the law, peoples minds are free to be content with whatever they choose.

Just my

 

interesting

 

I watch non-fobbish asian porn. Teanna Kai, Charmane Star & Kaylani Lei are my favorites. GG kicks ass!

But there's only so much porn this girl can watch. I need the real thing

 

could be, but marriage is a commitment. a relationship is not.

 

Right. My point exactly, some want comitment, and others (like myself) do not

 

yeah honestly.. I could not see myself getting married at the age of 21! Shoot I'm 24 and I'm not sure if I'm fully there yet. I think I need to be more financially secure first.

 

marriage is a great thing for those that are sure of their relationship. Anyone that has any doubts at all have no business getting married! Love is NOT enough to save a relationship if both parties are not committed to making it work. If you have personal issues those need to be dealt with first. (especially if medication is involved). I'm not saying medicated people can't have fulfilling marriages, I'm saying that both people in the relationship need to understand all the ramifications. It sounds ike you two are not so good for each other.

 

Sucsessful relationship = Love + Trust + Patience + Sacrifice + Physical Attraction

 

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what does piitb mean?

 

:Ibpsychogetsmultipleoffersfromtheleghumperstoshow herwhatitmeans:

 

first step to that is moving out of the Bay Area

 

hahaha yeah right. I'll die poor before I leave the Bay. Born and raised baby! I can't stand to go anywhere else IMO its way too ass backwards if I were leave the bay. That and the fact I already have property here sure isn't motivating me to go anywhere.

Now can somebody tell me what piitb means???? Tell not show please!

 

I lived in the Bay Area for 13 years then moved to SoCal with the family. While I still love going up to the Bay Area to visit family and friends, SoCal is nicer, IMHO.

As for piitb...




















Put It In The Butt

 

Good thing I didn't ask anyone to show me. That shit hurts! I would never consider it unless I got to poke the guy in his first with my 10"

 

First rule....always do the guy first!!!

 

Don't worry, it'll only hurt about half as much as the 10"er.

 

Even with God leading it for you, there is gonna be some trouble...we're humans!

 

I don't care if its only a fifth (yes I've seen one that small, think the first joint of your thumb...) nothing goes near my asshole! Well maybe a tongue, but don't expect me to kiss yah afterwards! :wink:

 

 

Ok I'm doing a bump here cause now I'm rethinking my actions here. I saw the ex again over the weekend and spent all of Saturday with him just hanging out and whatever. He tells me that I'm one of the few people that he can open up to because as I already know he tends to put up a wall when people get to know him.

He then starts bitching about his ex he was seeing last summer and how he's heard that she loves him blah blah blah, and he didn't realize that at the time and if he did he would have probably moved in with her instead of breaking it off.

After hearing that, I'm starting to question what exactly he feels for me. I know he loves me, but he doesn't say it. Same goes for me, I love him, but I never say it to him. Stupid yes I know. However at this point it seems a bit lame for me to be like oh yeah BTW I love you too! Does that change anything? Common sense tells me to turn away and not look back.

Am I better off not saying anything for the risk of just asking for more trouble then its really worth? Part of me is telling me I should atleast talk to him about it to get peace of mind, but both of us have been busy and we haven't talked. more please.

Oh yeah and to add to the drama. He might be moving back up to the bay area soon, which is where I'm at. Right now he's in southern cali where it was easier to tell him to fuck off and I wouldn't have to see him...

 

Sounds like a man seeking a warm saucer of milk. His ex loves him, move in if he knew it, you love him and your conveeeeeeeeeeeenient, move in with you. Sounds a bit too pat.

probably a very lonely guy who hates the experience of coming home to an empty apartment with nothing but his dirty clothes in the corner....... and would prefer some form of companionship than what he's got. Men get like that; lotta talk about the delights of throwing beer cans in the corner and peeing in the sink, but most men prefer some context of domesticity because being by yourself with those damn beer cans and crap all over the place is really frightening after a while. Is that enough for a solid base?

If you both love each other but don't speak the words, what's with that? And, when I take "I love him but I don't say it" and shack that up with the sentence"....where it was easier to tell him to fuck off and I wouldn't have to see him...." it doesn't exactly spell high romance. It spells convenience and habit. Is that enough to base a ltr on?

 

Very right. I was thinking about just shooting him an email, however I don't have a current address for him, so I would still have to contact him to get his email addy and talk to him, which would make my attempt to just send him an email kinda obvioius.

Plus that's how he decided to stop talking to me last time, he shot me this e-mail.
The only reason I would tell him to fuck off is because this drama has gone on 7+ years. There needs to be some resolution. I honestly think he's not sure exactly what he wants and part of him is considering me to be part of his life. I'm just tired of this game him and I have played and I want some kind of answer or result. This shit has gone on way too long now. Either way I'm fully prepared to handle any scenario that comes up.

 

As you advise others in the other threads. Why not forget about him? On and off for 7-8 years obviously didn't get you nowhere. What makes you think it will in the next 7-8 years. There are plent of fishes in the sea, if you continue on with this relationship, you're bound to have issues.

 

Point well taken, and I have tried to move on. I just discussed this with one of my best friends and its in her opinion that I need to talk to him about this and get this off me. I think that's the only way I can possibly move on. I've dated other people and so has he. but we keep on coming back to each other. Now the only thing I gotta do is find a way to talk to him in person since he's in south cali right now.

 

I find that relationships that need to be worked on will always be broken. better to not try to get healed in therapy to continue spending time with this person who obviously causes you so much stress, and go find someone else who will treat you good. I didn't get married until I was 35, so it IS out there, you just gotta screw a lot of people to get it. Not like that is a BAD thing.