So last Saturday I went to my friend's kid bday party, there they wanted me to meet this single chick.

I did my due diligence and had some conversations with her and it was ok. Not too much spark going on or chemistry. Maybe because it was due to the pressure of having to hook up with each other who knows..

Anyways at the end I asked for her number, she paused then asked for my business card instead. Told her I didn't have one so she gave me her # and made sure I spelled her name correctly in my phone and then asked me to dial her cell right away so that she has mine.

I wasn't sure what to think of since that she asked for my # instead of giving me hers at first.
So anyways I called her last night, left a message and no call back.

At least I found out right away instead of waiting around

On to the next one..

End of rant

 

might of waited too long to call....or maybe she is just busy never know...i say call 1 more time on friday if you get an answer move on from there if not...leave message and keep it moving....

i hate when people force you to meet someone...its never good to do it that way because you dont have that initial attraction...your kind of thrown into it.

 

text her and say "WHY ARENT U RETURNING MY CALLS?!?!?! TRICK!"

 

one time is an "incidence", two times "coincidence", 3 times is "enemy action"

translation

If you get no call back after the third message, move on.

Of course, if there was no chemistry then one call and you're "off the hook".

 

There wasn't chemistry but I think at least on my part it was due to the pressure of hooking up with her and not having the chance to really be in a relaxed environment.

In any case I'm not sure if I want to get any further. I think one call is good enough, she has my number, I left a vm so it's unlikely that this was a miscommunication.

I assume that her asking me to dial her # right away at the party was for her to be able to ID mine.

 

I did that maybe that's why she hasn't called back!


hehe j.k

 

the reason she asked for u to call her number is for her to save it so she would know when ur calling so she wouldnt answer!

call her blocked one day... i bet she'll answer!

 

That's why she asked you for a business card rather than exchanging numbers- it's a graceful way to avoid giving out a number and getting unwanted calls. If there was chemistry or she was attracted to you, she would have given you every one of her numbers and her e-mail.
You've got the right attitude- "On to the next one" is the way to go.

 

Stalk her. She will be yours.

 

Yeah, if she refuses, give her the crazy eyes and say "I WISH I KNEW HOW TO QUIT YOU!"

 

my thoughts exactly...........

 

Ok update guys..

She did actually call back yesterday and we had a pretty good/ fun/ interesting chat.

I guess I wasn't the only one being nervous at the party, she also felt the same.

So far so good fellas, taking it one day a time.


Just wondering why it took her a day to call back and she didn't explain why but I guess some people are just busy and don't explain everything.


So she's not available to go out this weekend and has friend coming into town. Not sure what's my next move..

P.S. No I'm not 12 but I've just got out of a 4 years living gf relationship, I'm almost like a virgin with this stuff again..

 

She didn't call you right back so as to not seem desperate. Sounds like she's interested.

 

you seem to be in the right mindset, i'd say you're going ok.....just go with the flow

 

 

The best advice I am able to provide is to look at this as a chance of making a new friend. This way, you don't think about how many calls you're making to her a week, how many times has she called you or when she's returning your calls. Present yourself as a friend and if she's interested she'll bite. If something develops, let it happen naturally. Think that getting ASS is just an icing on the cake. If you end up not getting any, at least you gain a new friend who possibly have some hot friends you can hit up later on

Here's another tip, it's a bit silly but whatever: Try jacking-off before talking to her. This way, it prevents the penis from taking over the conversation when you're talking to her. (Unless, you know, it's a late night call and you sense that she's interested on getting rammed as much as you are about ramming her).

Good Luck !

 

LOL that's some great advice! True I should take the "friend" approach but it's hard not to think about banging her..

I can't help but wanting to flirt with her..

Ok need to control penis..

 

Hey man, it's ok to flirt!!! Do it moderately. I don't want you to take my advice and end up in the "He's a great friend" zone...


I just realized that I was not fully clear on this...sorry...I don't want to sound like I'm going back and forth, but what I meant is that....Have the mindset of meeting a new friend BUT know that she is of an opposite sex thus anything can happen (Give her some hints on this here and there causally throughout your conversations and outing with her....)

Reason being, you want her to feel comfortable on talking to you without feeling obligated on hooking up, yet it leaves that door halfway open with the possibility that your penis is there for her in case things ever develop that far.

 

Cool, I got what you meant! I do want to make her feel like she's trying to get my approval.

But in any case I'll just go with the flow..

 

now that she called and yall talked...let her lead...but also let her know your Interested not just friendly....also sometimes test the waters in the late nite convos...but not like will you bang me...but...how many boyfriends you've had...showing your interested in her relationship status and if she is pushing away...you might become a friend...if that happens...just ask if you can be friends with benefits...

quck question to figure out where you going....ask her what she thinks of you....if she says nice guy and cool to talk to...you still can hit it....she says friend at anytime...you in DA ZONE...slowly back off...and ask about her friends...

 

LOL I cant help thinking about what would happen if she found this thread

 

By then, it would be too late

 

My advice is to overeact to each and every single thing she does or does not do.



Then come back and tell us the stories

 

Is this missing the red text in error? This is a variant of the "Something About Mary" scene.

If she waited a day to call you back ... dom is right ... she likes you but doesn't want to seem "needy", just like you not looking needy. It's a sick game we play ... but rules be rules.

Since it is Easter weekend, I think this person is telling the truth about meeting up with a friend. Maybe give her a call on Tuesday to see what's up. I haven't been on a first date in over 4 yrs ... so I'm out of the loop as much as you are ...

PS Since you had your phone out to take down her #, did you take a pic???

 

I agree. tell her its so you can post it online for all your internet buddies.

 

Ok, now I'm confused, I thought Red Text are reserved for sarcasms?

Just to clarify, as silly as what I've said may have sounded, I meant it.

 

Man this thread just shows how much games are played in stupid fucking relationships...There should be an int ital screening, then just skip the BS and fuck. Thats it.

 

I agree..

nice sig!

 

Sounds like a gold digger. She wanted to see that "Vice President" title. No business card = no play for you.

 

^^^Nah, i don't think so. if she was a gold-digger she would have been perseverating about your occupation and stuff when she first met you. asking for a business card is all good as long as long as you don't mind her calling you at work. as far as her waiting a day to call you back, 24 hours is acceptable when you're just getting to know someone, that wouldn't be acceptable if she was your steady girlfriend otoh. i'd say just go with the flow and don't fight the fun, sounds like you got a good handle on the situation. whatever you do DON'T have expectations, that always seems to be the deal breaker. if you get ass on the first or second date then that's a bonus!

btw, that's why i hate setups. the best situation is to tell one person you're setting them up, and then don't tell the op and see if the sparks fly. that way both parties aren't all pressured out. that's what i like to do when i'm setting people up, seems to work better, less stress.

good luck.

 

Yeah good advice, go with the flow, no expectations and losta fun!

I'll come back to this thread later..



BTW I'm really starting to love my just purchased TSX!!

 

 

 

What about the car or the girl?

 

so any updates?

 

both!

 

Second that

 

Ok here's an update..

last week was going pretty fine, we exchanged a few fun/ interesting phone calls.

I still wasn't sure about her intentions even though she seemed interested to really know me by asking a lot of questions.

SO Friday I leave a her voicemail and then no call back till now. I know she's busy with her friend from out of town but unless the friend is the ambassador of a country, nobody is that busy.

So I've come to the conclusion that I'm not going to call her anymore. If she's wants to play game go buy a freaking Wii. Im in no mood to for that kind of stuff. I deserve way better than that. (Enculer #$@$!! PUTE!!)

Am I upset? Yeah a little because of the mixed signals she's sending. I guess she liked the attention but isn't willing to be mature about it.

I've done similar things to other girls before BUT! From the beginning I layed out my intentions to be fair to them.

Can't expect the same from everybody I guess.


I'll post pics of my new baby TSX soon. I just love that thing now.

 

I won't write it off as a total loss yet. It's not taking anything out of you to keep talking to her. Especially since you seem to enjoy it. I think you need to maybe push a bit to have some face to face time with her.

How old is this chick? Shouldn't really matter a lot. But to me women that are closer to 30 seem to have went away from the Bull Shit and are less likely to play games.

IMO, and limited experience, if you're on the phone with her a lot, eventually you run out of things to say. Take her out for a meal or something.

Good luck.

 

Yeah I'd like too but I just think that it's rude of her not to return my voicemail. I mean what are the chances of missing on a VM? I'd like to save face by not playing into her games. I just don't have the energy to chase after her, she is not worth it.

I think she's at least past 25, she did mention two of her ex's were younger than her.