This hasn't happened to me, but...

If your g/f or b/f cheated on you with a one night fling and they felt horribly bad about it and they told you about it, would you take them back? I mean, you two are in love and they don't want to end it with you. they actually accepted their faults for it and everything. What would be your response to it?

 

Too many variables to answer this.

 

vote on it

oh the last option should say, " No, I love ya, but I gotta 'leave' you alone." Mods, please help me out here.

 

I would fuck her, then dump her.

 

This smilie would be what i would look like if i was in front of her and she told me that...



It happened to me but without the sex involved or going out on me... and i'm still deciding if i should take her back...

My Theory on this situation though...

If you were drunk and threw up in/on the car... What would be easier to clean... the interior of the car (vagina) or the exterior of the car... (male gen.)???

Thats the way i see it... buuut... it goes either way... if you were to cheat on her on a 1 night fling... would she take you back... 99% chance NO... i say the same for the girl... if she was to cheat on you... would you take her back... make it equal and say 99% chance NO... If you have a partner... and intend in staying with that partner... and you've had sex with that partner and only with that partner... you are pure to eachother... buuut... if one of them goes and has sex with someone else... you are unpure to the partner you were with before...

Unless you wouldn't mind having sex with the other guy... which basicly that is what it is... once she goes with someone else... and then you go with her again... you might as well have gone with him and left her out...

Point: What that commercial says (don't know if you guys seen it) If your partner has had sex with so and so other people before you... by having sex with that person, you are having sex with those other people too... that is how diseases spread etc...

so... my answer is... NO!!! but since you said if we loved her... so its NO!!! I love you but i have to leave you alone... In other words... you love her but she's dirty now... can't have that...

 

Everyone can have one fuck UP. But I would get the same chance

 

I'm kinda in the air about the situation myself. I would be fucked up in the head if me and my girl were in love and either of us fucked it up like that. If I did mess up and I was in love with my girl, I would have to tell her.

 

So she wants to come back now...or you are just deciding in case?

 

With my ex, I would consider it but as time passes that becomes less and less of a thought and I turn more towards fuck her...

There would definitely need to be some issues worked through though.

 

Spooky, I'm wondering this, too. This is news to me.

 

Nope. If they cheat, it's over. End of story.

 

I'd tell dat bish to scram.

 

No.

 

he did cheat...twice...and I forgave him and stayed.

 

I say if she cheated and wants you back... cheat on her and ask her if she wants you back... only fair...

still... if she cheated... i'd say no... in my case... nothing has gone on... she just left me... no cheating... but has disrespected me... i don't know if i should take my girl back... I know for a fact... 100% sure if my girl went with another guy... i'd say F#$% YOU!!!

In this case... i suggest you listen/download the following song... it'll tell you what to do if she cheats...

"The Rain" by Orange Juice Jones...

Here are the Lyrics if you don't want to download it... its pretty cool if you are into 80's Funk...

The Rain
Oran "Juice" Jones

CHORUS:
I saw you (and him) walking in the rain
You were holding hands and I'll never be the same.

Tossing and turning another sleepless night
The rain crashes against my window pane
Jumped into my car didn't drive too far
That moment I knew I would never be the same.

CHORUS

CHORUS

Now here you are begging to me
To give our love another try
Girl I love you and I always will
But darling right now I've got to say goodbye
'Cause

CHORUS

CHORUS

(I saw you)
Hey hey baby how ya doin' come on in here
(Walking in the rain)
Got some hot chocolate on the stove waiting for you
Listen first things first let me hang up the coat
(You were holding hands and I'll)
Yeah how was your day today
Did you miss me
(Never be the same)
You did? Yeah? I missed you too
I missed you so much I followed you today
(I saw you)
That's right now close your mouth
'Cause you cold busted
(Walking in the rain)
Now just sit down here, sit down here
I'm so upset with you I don't know what to do
(You were holding hands and I'll)
You know my first impulse was to run up on you
And do a Rambo
(Never be the same)
I was about to jam you and flat blast both of you
But I didn't wanna mess up this thirt-seven hundred dollar lynx coat
So instead I chilled -- That's right chilled
I called up the bank and took out every dime.
Than I cancelled all your credit cards...
I stuck you up for every piece of jewelery I ever bought you!
Don't go lookin' in that closet 'cause everything you came here with is
packed up and waiting for you in the guest room. What were you
thinking?
You don't mess with the Juice!
I gave you silk suits, blue diamonds and gucci handbags.
I gave you things you couldn't even pronounce!
But now I can't give you nothing but advice.
Cause you're still young, yeah, you're young.
And you're gonna find somebody like me one of these days . . .
Until then, you know what you gotta do?
You gotta get on outta here with that alley-cat-coat-wearing,
punch-bucket-shoe-wearing crumbcake I saw you with. Cause you
dismissed!
That's right, Silly rabbit, tricks are made for kids, don't you know
that. You without me is like corn flakes without the milk! This is my
world. You're just a squirrel trying to get a nut! Now get on outta
here. Scat!
Don't touch that coat...

 

I wouldn't give her a second chance. It would always be in the back of my head. I could NEVER trust her again. She wouldn't be able to go out alone, without me thinking that she's cheating.

 

Off topic... but yeah... she talked to me today... I did exactly what that song i just quoted from "Juice" said... I took everything from her... her phone... credit cards... i was going to take that promise ring from her too and hang it from my necklace since i wasn't going to be able to keep the promise to her... i was going to take her car too since its my Accord... going for it this Monday...

But last night, she called me... said she wanted to talk to me today... so we went to Denny's for lunch... i knew this was going to happen that is why i put the other thread up of what should i do... So far you guys are telling me to take her back but for her to prove herself to me... i don't know... i might take you guys up on it...

Back on topic and to MisterMehoff's question...

I just have to say... let her go... she wanted the other guy... let her have him... if he doesn't want her... and wanted to just f$%# her... then thats her problem... laugh at her for that because thats str8 dumb what she did...

Now... if wldchld is her... all i can say is this... if he cheated on you twice already... don't you think you should have moved on??? but i'm thinking you stayed with him because you love him etc... but this one time you done this was to make him feel how you felt when he did it... (I'm guessing here...) because thats what i did once... my girl went out on me 3 times... (no sex... highschool stuff: movies, out to eat... etc...) so i did the same to her once... went out with another girl... took her to the movies... (again, no sex... i could have because i had her on the bed already... but NO... i couldn't...) I did the whole date thing and she found out... i wanted her too... so she could feel my pain... the way i felt... after that she understood... so thats when i promissed her i'd marry her... then we had my daughter...

anyways... this is about you two... i say stay with her if you cheated on her twice... but if its a lie that you cheated on her... then leave it as is... dont take her back...

Summary:

1. If you cheated on her twice... and she did once... Take her back... she wanted you to feel her pain...

2. If she is lieing you cheated on her and she did it with this guy... F@#$ her...

just remember... it also has to do with the love you two have for eachother... i say talk it out... take her to a public place... where you two can not scream and yell at each other and talk about it...

 

^so what are you looking for her to do so she can prove herself?

 

blowjob... threesome with another hottie... and then have them have lesbian sex... while i tape the whole thing...



















i don't know... i guess i'll know when she does something equally to what i have done for her... when i came to her... saying i love her ... after driving a 6 hour drive which normally is a 10 hour drive... and i left everything for her... she goes ahead and tells me that i shouldn't have done that... I was like don't i mean anything to you... She said she needed her space... that she can't come with me because she had to work...

in either case... i don't know what i expect from her... i think its just going to hit me in the face... thats what i expect... something she'll do for me regardless of the consequences...

 

once the trust is gone the relationship is over. Even if you take her back there will always be that doubt when you are not around her and it will eventually kill the relationship. You will ask tons of questions and it will annoy both of you to no end

 

the only remedy to spooky's situation is if she starts steppin up her game and being mature about the situation.

 

but the way around that is to work it out... talk about it... try to trust one another... if you both feel you can't trust one another again...

with 1StGenCL... it will annoy both of you to no end...

:print: :save: :sendtomygirl:

 

a lot of variables like someone said before.
it's one thing to be with a girl but do you really love her?
another thing is how long have you two been together?it's easier to break up with someone who you've been with 2-3 months vs 2-3 years.
also have you yourself messed up in the passed and did she take you back.
do you have any kids togher.
here's my opion:
If you really loved her, been with her for awhile (like my fiancee and i been together almost 2 years) and I've never cheated on her. I'd take her back. usually when they admit their in the wrong they are will to correct it and make it better. it's when they don't tell you and it goes on for awhile and their sneaking behind your back with your buddy thats bad.
the thing is I know I'm not perfect. I'm not the brightest person in the world. by cheating she showing she isn't either . but you have to accept her good faults with her bad faults.
Now I'd express to her that i'm disappointed in her and it's gonna take a LONG LONG time to trust her again and she can't mess up again. if you look deep enough into you or even your partner's personality or dating past history your bound to find something that you don't like.
I also think couples who overcome challenges like this one or one of the spouses has cancer or in a bad accident they grow closer together eventally.
by now means I'm saying cheating is "okay"or "acceptable". I'm just saying give the girl another chance. but let her know she messes up she's done.

 

Have you ever gone bowling, and had to rent the shoes? Well, I don't know about you, but one of the reason why I hate going bowling (even though I do have fun), is having to rent shoes... I always get kinda gross out when I have to stick my feet into shoes that's been worn by other people...

...chances are, both of you weren't virgins before meeting each other... but we all know that people we've been with and dated, slept with... etc. etc... should matter... BUT after you've made the commitment to each other... it does.

I just couldn't stand the thought that someone else's dick's been inside her... that's the part that would kill me... (therefore the analogy of the bowling shoes)

 

I'd want to take him back, but I don't think I could. If he had to cheat on me there is obviously something wrong with the relationship and cheating is no way to resolve that.

 

^aight . So, say you and boyfriend had been arguing for sometime and you two needed temp space for everything to cool down. You both are all emotional and vulnerable. You go with your girls a to club/party because you want to get your mind off things for awhile. In the midst of drunkedness/dancing with some irrelevant guy, you end up lip-locking this guy for pretty much the entire night. After you finished making out this stranger, you realize what has happened and you feel really guilty and remorseful about the kiss ever happening. Now, would you tell your boyfriend about the kiss or not tell him at all?...thus further compromising your integrity and morals.

 

If this situation... my opinion would be this...

She's drunk... she didn't know and the guy probably took advantage of this... but she shouldn't have been there without you in the first place... meaning if she was this drunk... you would at least be the one kissing and not the other guy... hence the importance of you being there... If she took off with her friends to find guys... then she did it because she wanted to... also known as cheating... I wouldn't take her back in this case...

 

I'd never take her back if she cheated on me. Those type of people are just a waste of time.

 

Everyone makes mistakes! EVERYONE. One mistake that is admitted freely and remorse is felt, then forgive and work out the problem that allowed it to happen in the first place (these things don't happen unless there are some underlying issues). Twice? Its over wether you try to forgive or not. Don't be vengeful or nasty, just say bye bye....

 

Been there, done that...took him back. Will never do it again.

 

It would depend on the kind of space we agreed upon. My bottom line is that shit should be spoken about before anything rash occurs. I wouldn't do what the girl in that scenario did unless I was dead set on breaking up with him, and wouldn't take action on it until he was in the past. I've been in the situation where a relationship of mine was on the rocks many times and have had every opportunity to cheat, but I think its just courtesy to break up with the person before moving on to someone else.

 

Me too. And I caught them... A year later we got engaged, one year after we got engaged, I broke it off... Six months after I broke it off, he married the other girl.

I learned my lesson - do NOT forgive.

 

I've been in this situation before, but on the bad end of it. All I can say is she took me back (which surprised the hell out of me) and we had a pretty good relationship for the next 5 years. Valuable lesson learned. Almost married her but that's another story all together.

 

Absolutely not. It would always be in the back of my mind, and the trust would always be ruined. Couldn't do it. It would drive me crazy.

 

no way, no how.

Once they broke the trust they had better hit the highway and I mean now. Get out of my house and take all of your stuff with you...I want you out in two days. You f'ed up now be gone you filthy hoe.

So that would be a no.

 

tough call...

but given the relationship im in, i know he would NEVAR cheet on me so if it were to happen it would mean he was giving me the sign and it is time to move on...

 

You guys are worse than Best Buy's return policy!

 

Let me put it very simple, ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER

 

If she cheats - "hell no."

If I cheat - "Baby please, I'll never do it again. You know I love you. I was weak and she took advantage of me. I tried to stop, but I couldn't get the swelling to go down and before I knew it, she was on top of me. Baby pleeeeeeassssse, take me back." <---never had to use that line. Haha

 

the 2 step process
1. slap her
2. tell her to get the fuck out