Here’s the definition of a side chick as I know it: a woman who’s knowingly involved with a man already in a relationship. Usually there because she does all the things the main chick can’t/won’t do. Can be there for emotional “support” if things go wrong with the main chick (totally ass backwards). Usually has nothing to lose. Directly proportional to a “Boyfriend #2”.

There have been women who were involved in “dating” involved men, but once they found out the situation, they ended it. Applause. This doesnt apply to them.

The latest case: you got Tiger Woods basically being exposed as having been involved in numerous extramarital affairs. Texts, voicemails and all. If I really didnt think he was a human being, I would be shocked. Near billionaire athlete= a HIGH rate of pussy being thrown at you. Not that I advocate creeping, but if you do it, you dont leave a “paper trail”.

Then you add the racial undertone being that Tiger is married to a White woman. Heh, that makes it WAY more interesting because Tiger’s never really been considered “one of the brothas”. And ya’ll know how the mass media can be with Black men who fuck up in public spotlight….

Good point he raised in his release: “Personal sins should not require press releases and problems within a family shouldn’t have to mean public confessions.”

Shoot, we already lost Steve McNair to side chick fuckery. Dude got shot 4 times in his sleep by the side chick that ends up shooting herself. There were reports of her being mentally unstable as well. Damn. Dying over a side chick…and a crazy one at that.

I dont see the point in all this side chick shit. I understand that people like having their cake and eating it to. I really do. If that’s the case, don’t commit. I’ve personally seen up close what side chicks can do to a family. I dont understand it. Too much variables and uncalculated risks. Having a side chick is a waste of time because

* Women are naturally competitive, more than we males sometimes give em credit for. This is why they sometimes look at your new chick and size her up to find out if she has anything that they don’t have. This is why the side chick will do ALL the nasty shit a dude wants just to spite the main chick and to have “her man”. They say if a female wants a man, she can have him….

* You cant keep your side chick in pocket. She has nothing to lose. If someone has nothing to lose, they can act as outta pocket and wreckless as they want and it’ll just seem as if they’re reacting to their circumstances. Especially if they have money, noteriety and possible book deals? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned….

* Commitment. I commitment seriously. You’re as good as your word and your bond. If your woman aint cutting it anymore, feel free to break up with her. Sure there’s cases of people with kids and joint accounts, etc, but that’s something you’ll have to measure and decide if you’re in that situation. I’m not so I can talk as much shit as I want.

* “You feed a sucker, it’ll grow to be a bigger leech”: I’ve heard of stories where dudes trick on their side chicks and have seen this with my own two eyes. The greed of these women is bottomless. They have “everything to gain”…and if you develop that habit of feeding them, who’s to say they wont blackmail you if they demand a debt you can’t pay?

Part of being an adult is knowing how to be upfront and mature. If you wanna live a playboy lifestyle, so be it. It’s your choice and you shouldn’t feel bad just because some girl you’re trying to deal with thinks you’re “out there”. Just be a responsbile adult (ie regular checkups at the clinic and use of protection) and keep it 100. If a female doesn’t wanna be down, that’s her choice. There’s some who will be down (more than you think). Having a side chick is a coward’s way out in my opinion. Besides, they might not like your lifestyle choice…but they’ll respect the honesty. A lotta dudes will lie their ass off for some butt. Totally against the rules of the game. If you’re gonna play, play fair.

Thoughts?

 

darksom1?!?

 

You forgot that some men have a side chick so they can drive to their highly paid job as a bouncer three nights a week and to meets.

 

I see what you did there

 

 

huh?

 

It's meant for weak men who don't understand the term 'commitment'.

I went out with a man sometime last week, we were both , and he confessed to me that he was in a LDR with a girl from New Orleans. As soon as he told me, I backed off. It's not my thing to be the "second chick", "side chick", or whatever names you can think of for it.

 

side chicks

 

I saw no mention of 'gettin up in dem guts'.

 

Those texts will get you everytime....

 

ROFL!

Shouldn't have sent them, huh Tiger?

 

ugh, tell me about it.

 

pics of you or it didn't happen

 

 

Not for me. I cheated once on a girl I was dating and it bothered me then. I can never see myself doing anything like that to my wife and my family.

 

Having a side chick means that you are not with the correct primary woman.

 

 

lol at this thread

 

 

It's not boss to have 20 girlfriends. Having one girlfriend and 19 chasing after you is.

 

I was going to type up something long and then saw this and I think it summarizes what I wanted to say.

I know when I'm with the "right" one, all the other ones seem to disappear. I truly don't even notice other girls.

I know if I'm looking at other girls it's time to move on because that's not my nature when I'm with the right one.

The side chick always turns into a bad situation. I had one that I worked with. She flat out told me she could get any guy she wanted. I told her she probably could but at that point it became a game to me. I was involved in a relationship with my girlfriend and had no intentions of ever having any sort of relationship with this other woman. However, I purposely got her to like me and always had an excuse why I could not go out with her or meet up for lunch or whatever. That was my fault but I just wanted her to realize she couldn't get anyone.

Long story short she and the girlfriend ended up talking, she told the girlfriend we had a 2 year sexual affair. I never saw this woman outside of work but it still made my life hell until she slipped up and said things that couldn't possibly be true.

I live a very drama free life normally but this "side woman" made me feel fit to go on the Jerry Springer show for a while.

 

Never again! Ages 19-present faithful. Between those times that I was single I never committed, so none were side chicks.

 

What's that saying, "Mo' bitches, mo' problems."

 

Billy, is that you, using a spellchecker as well?

 

No "Side Chick" for me happy married to wonderful woman. No need for another as wife does make me very happy. Agrred that if you have one on the "side" then you aren't getting the best out of your primary girlfriend. Wether your fault or not you just need to move on and find mrs. right.

 

Theres never any reason to lie to a woman about things like that. If you're not ready or looking for a committed relationship, and said woman isnt the only one you're going to be seeing, be a man and tell her straight up from the start. You'd be surprised how many chicks are cool with that if you're honest. That's what I've always done. It hasn't kept me from getting laid, and there isn't a woman on this planet that can say that i used her.

Now you might say "but the woman i want to be with will never go for that." Then that isnt the right woman for you at this point in time, find a different one who's wants and goals are compatible with yours. Its a crude saying, but "it all feels the same in the dark" fits. Sex is sex, there's always another piece of ass. The reasons for sticking with a specific woman out of the many out there are personality, trust, and love. You enter a serious relationship when you're looking for more than just fun and sex. And that requires commitment. If you're not ready for that, or not capable of it at the time, dont attempt a committed relationship; just be honest and play the field.

There's no reason to trick, play or use a woman to get laid on a regular basis.