... and jump in if I miss something here...

... that potential dates all come at once?
... always get asked out/flirted with when you are already with someone?
... girls always expect a bad boy to have a good side, or visa versa?
... that I meet the right girl at the wrong time in my life?
... that every girl I meet has some emotional baggage I need to deal with?
... that girls always ask if they look fat?

all I can think of for now, but I have more...

Junkster, who ponders such questions at night

 

Don't guys expect that too? A nice charming young lady in public and a porn star in the bedroom?

Again, people suck.

A sure way to end that question: Answer "yes". "No your outfit doesn't make you look fat...your ass does." Problem solved!

 

Every man's dream girl (at least mine!)

 

... Girls tend to like guys that are harder to get, hence the reason for being the target more often than not when you're taken.

... Girls don't wan't sensitive guys, but they don't want a pure bad boy. They don't know what they want, that's why they or us can't understand what they want. Similar to a boy that's stuck in between action games or sports games.

... Emotional baggage or not, I believe it's how you articulate your thoughts commandingly yet with generosity, so they don't use you as a reliever.

... Girls ask if they're fat because they have intentions. They always need assurance from words.

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well, the funny thing is, these girls don't know that I'm not single...

So, back when I was with someone, I would go out with the boys and just start to flirt with girl at bars. It was weird how they would actually start falling for the lines. Then, when I'm single, none of the lines work... what's with that?

Junkster, who thinks there are many mysteries in life

 

There is an extra aire of confidence you have when you are seeing somebody that comes off as attractive.

 

Yikes... another thread?

 

maybe you had better hair back then jk

 

You know, seriously, after so many times, you start thinking...

was it my hair, did my ass look better, was I just giving off "I get punanay regularly" vibe, what's different?

Junkster, who has too much spare time on his hands

 

I think alot of that just may be in our heads. Or maybe like iamhomin said, you have the added confidence that allows you to go up and actually talk to girls when your already taken. Something you may not have done when you were nervours, lacking confidence and single.

 

this is so true. I think its a group mentality. If a girl has something, another girl wants to take it away, or show she is superior. Girls are far more competitive than guys IMO, especially in the workplace. another thought is that if a guy is taken, he must have something worthwhile, so a girl is interested. if he's single, then he might be a loser.

 

because you will never understand women...once you understand that you will never understand them it makes your life soooooo much easier

 

EXACTLY! Thank you for your words of wisdom stoke

The less you try to understand them the easier your life will be.

 

Junkster, I've grouped your ponderings in these categories:

Probabilistic Events:
... that potential dates all come at once?
... that I meet the right girl at the wrong time in my life?
I'm way too tired right now to write out why things like this happen, but it's not completely random. A lot of it has to do more with your internal cognitions than with the outside world, however.

Female nature:
... always get asked out/flirted with when you are already with someone?
Everyone already said the reason - you give off a different vibe when you're with someone - you know no matter what you ain't sleeping alone tonight. This is a huge plus for getting girls' attention. If you want to be a true player you gotta cultivate that vibe regardless of whether you're with someone. Confidence is crucial for girls. Nobody wants to be with a guy who's not sure of himself (of course some fools take it too far, come off as just arrogant and get slapped).
... girls always expect a bad boy to have a good side, or visa versa?
I went into great detail on this topic here.
... that girls always ask if they look fat?
More so than guys girls need constant reassurance and boosters for their self-esteem. That's why some girls will make fun of other girls' faults, and do all those traditionally "bitchy" things to other women. They need to feel better about themselves, some choose to seek reinforcement through compliments, others from belittling others.

That's Life
... that every girl I meet has some emotional baggage I need to deal with?
Everyone has emotional baggage, and the number of suitcases will only increase with a person's age. You just have to man up and deal, bro. Most importantly remember - you likely have just as much baggage as she does. A relationship will grow only if you two get all those bags opened and organized.

 

Junkster, I think you just haven't met the right girl.

I don't get any of this crap from my girlfriend.

 

: I don't need you, baby.

:-*: He doesn't need me! That's so hot!