So, I'm 26 and I'm starting to feel this need to have a serious relationship... not marriage, mind you, cause that still scares me a bit. Okay, it scares me like Freddy Kruger when I was 8. And I don't want anymore flings and short-term comforters, which seems to be pointless since it's like an extended one-nighter that goes nowhere and you're wasting your time.

I like going out with friends to clubs and pubs (I love saying that), but it's the same girls with the same attitudes at such places. Dates with friend's friends have run its course now, and finding someone at work is impossible since everyone is at least 10 years older then me, except for a few who aren't a good match.

My last serious relationship was with someone over 6 years my senior, which was really weird at the time. But I think I'm starting to understand what she was going through (I was only 22 then).

Anyone else in/was this rut as well?

Junkster, who figures this would be the place to go for good advice... and increase postcount

 

Reluctantly admitting that you indeed need a spouse. Aw!

Junkster, here are the steps you need to take.

1) Date.com
2) Post an interesting profile
3) Pray
4) Then date!

iamhomin, enjoying the early 20's.

 

Sounds like what you're looking for is really a better way to meet people that are compatible on a more than superficial level. A friend of mine works for this company, he says it is a very good online dating service. 100% legit, it's not a come-on for porn or prostitution. I'd try it myself, but I'd have to get my wife's permission first. :P

http://www.dreammates.com/

 

Aw, the early twenties, those were some nice, carefee dating days.

Junkster, who wishes he was 22 again

 

I'd kinda have to agree with everyone on your situation, if nothing else is working online dating may be worth a shot. Match.com is the largest one of those I believe, and has all kinds of tests to "match" you up with the right girl. Those professional dating services do cost a bit though, like $20/month. Still, that's about the price it costs to take a girl out to a movie (and not even dinner).

 

I agree with majormojo. Clubs, bars and work are not the best places to find your soulmate, although both are for completely different reasons. Clubs and bars are usually just for people looking to hook up. Work is bad because if it dosent work out, your still going to have to deal with that person on a daily basis.

Your friends are actually the best resource. Thats how I met my wife. Since your friends already know you pretty well, then they usually have a good idea of what you might be intrested in. If they work with that person (like my friend did) then they have a chance to get to know them pretty well before you even meet.

 

I'd agree but...

 

Junkster, you need to,
a) get a cat,
b) buy some ice cream, and
c) rent a whole bunch of chick-flicks

 

Hmmmm, ok well then there's no hope

 

I have to laugh at this. Not because of what you've written, I agree with you 100%. It's just that I actually met my wife when we were working together - at a restaurant/bar.

 

Comedy, can I just remove my original post now?

 

Isn't that the classic though? Meet someone you've had the hots for at work in a personal setting so you can finally be open about it?

 

pick up a new hobby, or get involved with some organization? that's a good, safe way to meet people who don't have that bar/club attitude. For me it was a Church group, any organization is a good way to find people with similar interests.

 

xizor's right, I've met quite a few people through acting in shows.

Maybe what we really need however is A-TSX personal ads.

 

Holy smokes, J

I got two cats,
I got a beauty tub of Coffee Crisp ice cream, and
I ain't wastin one second on sh*t fli...ooops...I mean chick flicks. Hell no!!

Soze, who is as single as it gets, and really doesn't give a F

 

in a rut huh?

Maybe it's not a relationship thing at all. Maybe you just need a new "hook". You've gotten alot of mileage out of the third person reference post closing; I still enjoy it immensely, but it's all rather rhetorical, isn't it? I mean, how many posts have you been doing this for now? Isn't it time to move on? Look at Helico, he's the wave of the future, and quite frankly, his zany graphics are making the "Junkster, who..." thing look pretty lame. Maybe that's your problem, and you're just trying to overcompensate in other areas, like relationships.

Just something to think about.



By the way, if you switch it up, can I use the third person reference thing? I've got no hook at all.

scheißterhöffer, who is looking for a way to increase his own brand awareness on a-tsx.

 

Yes, I do need to stop ending conversations on dates and meets with "Junkster, who thinks you have the finest ass in the North American Continent" or "Junkster, who brought condoms just for this occasion"...

BTW, the third person outtro is not trademarked... but you really should come up with a scheme to draw attention...

Junkster, who thinks your username might be at fault here

 

jlukja, I have...

a) a brother and a mother who are allergic to cats, I like my family to visit once in a while...

b) I'm tryin to stay in shape...

c) my fave movie is "Roman Holiday"... a chick flick...

Junkster, whose fave actor and actress are gregory peck and audrey hepburn

 

That's not bad... I like that.

Junkster, who dated a chick he met in church... it was one of my Story of the Week.

 

I registered a little while ago and I must say there are some nice looking women on there in the KC Metro area. I just might email one...

 

Maybe you could start by creating a nickname for yourself that we can type!

 

easiest way to draw attention on this forum...










































Post whore!!!

Junkster, who likes to try and bring in new converts... wait, should this be in religion subforum?

 

Seriously, though, maybe I should try that match.com crap. Josh got a few dates off of it and he said it wasn't that bad...

Just don't want to be that desparate, to meet girls over the internet...

Junkster, who is registered on Match from college

 

"Junkster, who's wondering if this date's headed towards sex since he's near the ATM"

I could see how that would go poorly. I'm afraid I don't have any good advice, since my own experience would require you to go back to a school where the profession is 70% women and they have few options

 

When I was in the psychology department, it was full of gals... and hot gals at that!!!

Yea, I've met some of the ladies in the med school and... ummm... yea, that's about how intersting they were.

Which scares me even further... if I end up with someone I meet in med school, is that the type of people I have to choose from? ewwww...

Junkster, who thinks nursing is pretty good for meetin gals

 

Elementary Education

 

Actually when you do your 4-year residency at whatever hospital you match with after Med School there are always lots of young single nurses.

Viking, who's brother is starting his second year of residency.

 

I know someone whose a first grade teacher. I've known her since HS and we get along like pees in a pod... seriously. The only other person who would watch Animaniacs with me, and we even bought the Animaniacs album and jammed in while going to basketball away games...

Sadly though, she's my best friend's ex, and I have rules about dating ex's...

Junkster, who misses Jules once in a while

 

Alot of the doctors I work with met their wives during residency.

But seriously, I'm looking for a relationship NOW!!!

Junkster, who has this weird urge for a meaningful relationship... like a KFC craving

 

I've dated a couple teachers. Back in school, I had one class in the elementary education building. They had a small computer lab there, so I used to hang out for a short while and chat it up with the ladies. Good times

 

First, I read it thinking "dude, meteor hangs out at elementary schools to check out chick?"

Then I finally read the actual sentence and it made sense... sort of.

Junkster, whose friend just married a grade school teacher

 

you know the real problem is that you don't have a TSX

 

i dont think i have ever found a relationship when I was looking for one, yeah I have hooked up when I wanted to, but relationship just come up and hit you from behind.

and I totally agree with xizor, join a club, hang out outside (hiking, biking we are in CO) and dont sweat it, it will happen when you least expect it

 

Ah, nothing like a house of worship to get you laid.

I agree with the sentiments about online dating. Here's a personals site called Nerve that seems more your speed. It's hipper and kinda skews towards smart, interesting people. At the very least, it'll be entertaining.

captainjack, who's skimmed personals the way someone might walk through a Porsche dealership without a test drive

 

 

When you email them, make sure and ask them if they like the Broncos because if you hook up with a Chiefs fan, she'll only bring you down. You gotta go with a winner

 

I'm looking for a winner but not someone living in the past...

 

Women don't like the scoobie

domn, who hopes Junkster finds that special girl.

 

woohoo....junkster doing older woman ! you the man !

 

If you are looking for "relationship" and not a partner, then you are not ready for a "relationship" IMO. I think you should stick to dating only.

I don't know exactly what you are going through but I found my "relationship" when I wasn't looking. When I was looking, I ended up dating a lot of people but as well felt something else was missing. Trust me on this, you will know when it's time. Fast forward 6 years (yeah, that's a long time), my relationship will become official in about a week in the Cayman Islands...