On girls that you are dating going through your phone when your not paying attention, or they somehow grab it and go through your shit?

 

 

They grab my phone, I grab their

 

lol not the responses i was looking for

 

date older women that aren't borderline psycho.

 

I have nothing to hide. If she wants to look through it, I'm fine with it. But, just grabbing it while I'm not looking isn't cool. It shows a lack of respect. Either that, or she thinks there's something there you're trying to hide. I wouldn't just grab her phone and look through it.

 

Yup. Like Heavy_RL said, don't date insecure psychos


One thing I can't stand.

 

having nothing to hide isnt the issue, but being with a woman who you have to constantly prove that too will get old really quick.

And usually leads to psychotic episodes. and legal issues. and unplanned babies.

 

I should've been more clear. I meant that if she wants to look through my phone's I'm okay with it as long as she asks first. I agree, that level of insecurity would get real old, real fast. I wouldn't tolerate it for long.

Point is, mutual respect. I wouldn't just go poking through her phone, I respect her too much. If I suspected anything, I would do the adult thing and ask her about it. And I would expect that courtesy and respect in return. I am a bit old fashioned in that respect though.

 

my gf did it once... started questioning about me who that was, and why I txted this person and etc.

I told I have nothing to hide thus I left my phone, which is not blocked or pinned in any way in front of her...."and if your insecurities get in the way of your thinking deal with them privately." Message was to think, then act.

She won't look through my stuff ever again, but again, I have nothing to hide.

 

Noted... Agreed on all points.

 

I dated a couple chicks that have done this. I never liked it. It was a very disrespectful act. I had one hell of an argument with one of them that basically ended with me telling her to feel free to call any of the names in the phone and don't be surprised when she learned that I was more than friends with some of them.

 

You seem very experienced in such a situation


I can relate.

 

Stop judging me Carlton.

 

Insecure, immature bullshit which I wouldn't tolerate at all. I mean, if you're just trying to get it in then go for it.. but if you're looking for something serious how will it ever work out if she doesn't trust you?

 

She has trust issues. Could be with you or from a previous relationship.

 

could be any number of things.

she could be insecure in your relationship (i assume you're dating her). she could have had past relationships where her guy was hiding stuff from her and that's how she found out. she could have trust issues to begin with. she could be guilty of something herself. she could have read about it in the latest cosmo magazine. who knows?

for whatever reason, she feels the need to dig into your personal belongings to try and uncover something. sounds like she doesn't trust you, and that might not be your fault, a lot of women are like that bc of past relationships.

just try and explain to her that you have nothing to hide (make sure you actually have nothing to hide before you make this statement or you could be digging a grave for yourself.) tell her she has nothing to worry about and no reason to go through your stuff. without trust and mutual respect, you have nothing in a relationship.

^of course, this is all under the pretense that you actually want to be with this woman. if you don't, then kick her to the curb and maybe she'll learn to not go through other peoples stuff. that is an invasion of privacy.

men and women are two VERY different species.

 

My crazy ex used to go through my phone, and would flip out at the first sight of a female's name. It could be the neighbor lady down the street or just some girl that I'd known for years, didn't matter. It got to the point where I had to start coding other girls names in my phone to sound like guys' names

 

At that level of crazy I'd code all the guys names so they looked like girls names.

 

She used to find guys' names and ask me if they were chicks, yeah it was that bad

 

She should only know about your throwaway phone anyway.

 

I seriously start sweating. Not that Im hiding anything, but my wife usually does it to start a fight.

 

And if you object, then "you must be hiding something"

 

Yep

 

rename her contact "nosy pain in the ass"

 

That just sounds like a lot of work.

 

+1. I had one ridiculously jealous ex-GF. She wouldn't let me have dinner with female pharmaceutical reps (bonus of being an MD) without another male rep being present. When we were at the club, her rule was that if I ran into a girl I recognized, I would have 5 minutes to introduce said girl to my ex or she would have a shitstorm. Once I was in the shower and a female friend of mine called. When I came out of the shower, my ex politely asked me who had called. When I said "Becky", my ex said "I know, just testing you." Fucking psycho hose beast. She was really hot with a banging body too. Sometimes the pretty girls are the most crazy because they understand that their beauty is a depreciating commodity.

 

+1 on everything you wrote, but especially this last sentence. sig worthy

 

+10000000 on that last sentence surfer rick

 

I'm going to be straight foward. You need to check her on it the next time she does it. Lack of respect. She's testing you to see how much she can get away with with you. Everytime she will try something different and if you find it remotely disrespectful to you, you need to check her on it. (Check her on it means put her in her place, if you didn't understand)

Another possibility is she could be a double d^&k clutcher. Check out her phone and see what's up.

 

Agreed with most everyone. Typically means the girl is perhaps expecting you to fuck up, and she's just waiting for it to happen and won't stop hounding you until it does. Keep convincing her you're trustworthy and maybe she'll let you marry her!


However I do feel I need to say it can have its advantages. I used to work with this one girl who was about as hot as she was shady. Something I couldn't quite put my finger on. One day a co-worker passed me someone's phone. I thought it belonged to someone else (some girl that I thought was a real piece of shit) so I had no problem going through it a bit. I looked through the contact list and there were just a ridiculous number of guys' phone numbers saved on there. I mean, I don't even know that many people, not just males. I later found out the phone belonged to the original girl. Me checking out the phone really did let the cat out of the bag. Suspicions were confirmed and I really had no qualms about rejecting a girl who was way too hot for me in the first place.

Apples and oranges but I guess it's still a cool story, right bro?

oh and the girl whose phone I thought it belonged to. I come to find out she has even worse shit on her phone. Like videos of her blowing guys and whatnot. Some people really do keep revealing crap on their phones.

 

Ummm so you rejected one of the hottest girls you ever had a chance with based on speculations about the number of guys' numbers she had?

What's with you and checking girls' phones?

 

Well, I suppose there are a lot of beastly girls out there with absolutely no guy friends who are available.

 

well i just ended it with her..sucks as its 4 days before my birthday but she was driving me nuts. on to the next one i suppose :/

 

and no she didn't take it easily. she sent me some crazy mean messages on facebook before blocking me.. really makes for a nice birthday gift

 

I threw in a couple pictures of my cock in the gallery...so if she does go through my phone she gets the same old shit.

 

hahaha thats pretty funny..only problem is she probably will think you send them to some other girls...then you'll get in trouble

 

Hmm...


Yeah because 18-23 year old guys are always open to just being friends with hot girls, right? No sexual tension or anything like that. The myriad of guys' phone numbers on her phone was really the tip of the iceberg and like I said, it led to suspicions which were later confirmed--meaning I confirmed they weren't just old classmates or anything. Myself personally I'm not really naive enough to automatically assume a girl never makes booty calls.

Point is like I said it let the cat out of the bag because I got a look at her phone. I guess you could say people don't really keep their skeletons in their closet, anymore. If I did go the distance with her I most likely wouldn't have found out about her hyper-slutty Snooki-esque nature until much later.

 

They are all insecure psychos. If you have nothing to hide then the women will find you boring and move on to someone more exciting(bad boy).

Seems to me like some women who would normally end a relationship early will stay in it longer if the man is a cheater.

Women looking through their Mans phone is pretty common and only become more common with time.

 

i don't care if my wife looks through my phone.....nothing in there of importance to her anyways other than her number

I have nothing to hide so I do not care. I do not look through my wife's phone because I trust her.