stright-(paint)balling

okay here's the deal, I broke up with my g/f. This lady she's 35, moved in down the road(about 3-4 miles at the most) from me. she's about a 7 i'd give her. I know she likes me cause she's a school teacher and has nothing to do with my job(I'm in agronomy sales) and she'll stop in to say "hi" and bring me like baked goods to eat. plus if i'm out mowing the yard she'll bring down tea or lemonade. she got divorced about 2 years ago. has 2 girls one like 15 and the other 10 i think.
now do i go after her or is the age gap to wide(10 years)
she seems pretty cool.
the thing is i've heard once chicks hit their mid 30s their sexual beast.
however i don't wanna date a chick to old for me.

davidspalding

Bringing unsolicited baked goods and lemonade is pouring it on a bit thick. Has she asked you out/over/to bed? Or maybe she's just being neighborly. I'd go slow and friendly, until you can figure out what her agenda (if any) is. Be forewarned, if you're thinking "She's older, but kinda hot, might be a tigress in bed," and she's thinking "he's nice, and nearby, I could use a friend," your (plural) expectations might clash.

But to answer your question, I'm in my 40s, I'd date a woman in her 50s if she was attractive, didn't play the age card, and we enjoyed each other's company. As you get older these "age gaps" become less threatening.

is300eater

she was 47, I was 33... she was alright... but she gave the BEST b.j. ever. The fling was for about a month.

stright-(paint)balling

she asked me over to have a couple beers and watch football sometime. I might call her to go chill with her tommarrow night.

phipark

I'd fuck her, that's about as far as it would go.

CanopyFlyer

Why not?

As to the age question, it really depends on the individuals. I personally know a couple where he is 35 and she's in her middle 50's. They've been married about 10 years and are very happy.

From my own personal experience, I was 24 and she was 41 with no kids. I had no idea she was interested in me. We knew each other because we played volleyball on the same team (the teams were formed by lottery.) She invited me to her 41st birthday party where she got very friendly with me. Nothing else happened that night, but we went out on a date two weeks later and we dated for the next 3 years.

Just keep in mind that your 35 year old very well may have you in mind to be a boy toy. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you are OK with it. I would suggest not getting too head over heals for her until at least the 1 year mark.

Until then just enjoy the ride, because she will teach you things that you currently have no suspicion about. (Not to be patronizing, I've just been there before.)

CanopyFlyer

davidspalding

Hanging out and watching football sounds cool.

More unsolicited advice.... Sometimes (who'm I kidding, often) having a woman friend close by who likes you is way better than having a woman friend who likes you , thinks you're cute, and tries a (doomed) relationship/fling with you. Since you're neighbors, keeping things simple and uncomplicated would be my best advised course of action. She could be a 10 with an Aston Martin she's willing to loan you, and I'd still recommend that. Been there, done that, made the mistakes, and live with the regrets.

Also kids from divorce (girls, particularly, IMHO) really benefit from having a stable adult male figure around who's not just "one of mommy's bfs." Sex and hookups can be had anywhere, but opportunities to be a friend and a solid figure in the friend's kids' life do not come around very often. Know whut'll mean, Vern?

stright-(paint)balling

i'm down with being a boy toy. dating, boy toy, whatever i'm down with.

sasha

sasha

I dated someone who was 12 years older than me for about 6 months. I don't know, but I like older gentlemen maybe because they TEND to be more settled and experienced. My fiancee is (only) 5 years older and he's getting hotter as he gets older... He rolls his eyes when I say that.

Pull_T

Superb advice on both counts.

Assuming the guy can pussy from some other random, its a no-brainer to keep it simple.

Eoanou

Well I think its generally the norm for girls to marry older men, because they are more experienced and can be the guiding hand in a relationship, at least that's what I had always believed, my parents have a 10 year age difference.

Eoanou

I'm going to go out on a limb and say she probably likes the fact that you're 25 and have already settled, you own home, car, etc. I bet you're a great improvement over her ex-husband, seeing that you're young and responsible probably makes you more attractive in her eyes. I would suspect older women that are around her age to pay less attention to looks and more so on other features, such as the ability to be a suitable father or what not.

Of course I'm speculating when I say this.

is300eater

btw, not to call on this cuz it IS worded a little different... but awhile back I started a thread that asked... "what's the biggest age gap?" (in any direction)

for your reading enjoyment: https://acurazine.com/forums/dating-relationships-14/whats-biggest-age-gap-316892/

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

I'd say go for it.

subinf

Biggest age gap for me was about 7 years - I don't think 10 is too bad.

mltk53

nail and bail

svtmike

Thought you were a truck driver.

davidspalding

Hehehe, after reading "b.j.," "fling was for about a month" looked like different words ... "filling" ... "mouth"....

Oy, I've got a dirty, dirty mind tonight.

davidspalding

Costco

As long as she doesn't look like and isn't old enough to retire....

ChrisKelly5

Go for her 15yo daughter! j/k

I'd say go for it dude...

Whiskers

95

stright-(paint)balling

i do both. Tues-Friday I do the Agronomy sales. then Saturday-Monday provided either the Ag company I work for has grain for me to go to New Orleans or Chicago or dad(we have 600 acres we farm) has grain he wants me to run i run it.
i'm a part time truck driver.
I own my own rig however sometimes i run dad's rig. I basically run grain when I feel like it or need more money. there's been times i've turned down loads to spend time with my daughter. my work understands that. I don't mind running some weekends but every weekend gets old. I like driving truck the way i do cause it allows me to basically have a truck for the farm but it's working for other people so they are (S-L-O-W-L-Y) paying for it . I started running grain after i got laid off from a metal fabrication shop.

stright-(paint)balling

update:
I'm gonna go over there tonight. she called me about 11 o clock or midnight last night she was drunk acting stupid and goofy. we talked for like 1/2 hour or hour.

phil2

Gilfs ftmfw!

Paclark01

You lucky S.O.B...

Enjoy and keep it simple.

WdnUlik2no

Go for it!! lucky guy....

Eoanou

Haha you got a drunk phone call, this bitch wants you bad. You better get in and get off ASAP.

TSX Nightwalker

She's a cougar. It seems like she's reeling you in with her bait (lemonade, baked goods, etc).

I say, if you're not open to dating an older woman then you don't need to force yourself to date her. It's obvious she wants to have a fling.

Proceed with caution.

TSX Nightwalker

He said she was a "7" If she's that old, she has to be at least a "9" or "10"

stright-(paint)balling

update #2: The bitch is playing games. So i go over to her crib last night. about at 8. I go up knock on the door. she comes out. she's like "I gotta clean my house sorry." Then i offer to take her to a sports bar to watch a game. she refused.she's like i gotta go bye.
so my sunday night consisted of eating Taco Bell by myself and washing my car. YEAH I WAS PISSED.

stright-(paint)balling

she's not a 9 or 10 she's a 7 at best. I've seen a hell of a lot better. however i've seen worse too.

Mike 350Z

What a crazy broad. I was going to say she's probably looking for a father-figure for her daughter, but after your last update...not so sure. Maybe she was embarrassed at herself for being so forward the night before when she was drunk...

Oh maybe she realized you were going to be a bit too easy and wants a tougher challenge.

is300eater

some women (especially the older one's) don't really want to hook up or date or anything but they cock tease only to reassure themselves they "still got it". Once they know, they drop you...

Pug

Maybe she had someone in the house already.

poohlikeshunny

When i was 21, there was this 42 year old milf who lived near campus and worked as a local florist. Whenever I went in there, she's be all over me, touching my hair, stroking me in spots, she even grabbed my ass once and asked me what I was doing later. Well, turns out this whole time she just wanted to be sure she could still "reel em in"...

but on another hand, at my last place before the wife and bought the house, there was a milf who I used to run into a lot while going for a jog, and she would always lure me over and tell me flat out her husband wasn't home and she didn't care I was married. But then again, your situation doesn't sound quite as straightforward, as it seems the older women are less likely to play games if they truly just want the nookie... maybe you need to deliver her a pizza...

Eoanou

Eoanou

I'm buying this argument.

Eoanou

Again this could be a possibility.


What I recommend for the OP is to give her less attention. 90% of the time it works all the time...