You make a big mistake, and so your girlfriend is pissed at you and says she needs to "think things over" and doesn't want to see you for a while, but you are still dating.

1) Do you call her before you go to bed to say goodnight each day?
2) Do you call her to talk and show you are there for her still?
3) Do you not call at all and wait until she calls, and if she doesn't call at all for days, do you still not call?

 

too much drama

3) Do you not call at all and wait until she calls, and if she doesn't call at all for days, then she can have all the time she needs to "think the things over".

 

yea the drama is becoming ridicolous these days.

 

What big mistake did you make? How long have you two been together? In your opinion is she over reacting?

 

Privacy issue mistake, overreacting possibly.

 

Talk everynight, no way jose. Thats a little needy. Let her figure things out, if she's gonna leave, she's gonna leave.

 

You take your balls off her bookshelf, stuff them back in your sack, realize you're still young and this kind of drama isn't required, and move along.

Don't bother calling her. It isn't going to work out if she can't get over something the same day it happens... unless it's something like fucking her sister. Which in that case, props to you.

Look at this as a blessing in disguise and move on.

 

even if I checked on one of her accounts and broke her privacy, showing i lacked trust about an issue

 

If you lack trust in her and need to go behind her back to check up on her you need to just end it and move on. Do you really think a relationship will work long term if you gotta pull stunts like that?

 

no not really, but theres always second chances that i like to give.

 

Take a break from the relationship. Don't go out being a manwhore, but step away from it for a while.

 

but your advice for now is not to call and let her call if she wants?

 

Yep. Do not pick up the phone. Girls hate when guys seem desperate. No matter how much you think it'll make her think you "care"

 

While I agree with the sentiment that girls hate desperation, it's not necessarily bad to call once several days in. But if she needs/wants more time, then just leave her alone for the duration. After calling once you've shown you still care, but you're going to give her room. I know this kinda seems like playing a woman's game, but if you care you might as well show it once. Just don't smother her.

Girls do like to know that you care, but any time you act clingy, it's terrible. Being clingy may just push her the other direction.

 

If it was the other way around and you posted about your girl checking your online account to check up on you, i think the unanamous response would be for you to dump her. So I would say be prepared to get the boot. However girls can be more forgiving than guys I guess so maybe you have a chance. But it sounds like you are way too clingy by doing that and wanting to call every night. No offense, but if i was the other party in that situation, I'd be out.

 

understandable.

 

If she wants alone time then give it to her.

Plus if you lose her trust then you done for anyways.

 

good luck though , at the very least use the experience to help in the future.

 

19? screw her, there are plenty of women in your future... Girls at that age are not worth getting all worked up about.

 

You messed up o well find a new girl.

 

Don't call her for several days. Then maybe give her one call - leave a brief message if you get her voicemail - to see how she's doing. That's it. Anything more and you risk having your username changed again

 

Totally

 

Female says: Dont call her. Youll look desperate plus you wont be listening to her (she said she didnt want to talk for a while).

 

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you are going to get caught up like dnd2984 if you dont take some sort of control of yourself

 

Don't try calling right away because you'll just appear annoying and clingy. Give her a week of space that she needs.

 

 

3. you cant be all up in her grill it will only make things worse.