At what point do you call it quits?
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At what point do you call it quits?
This might belong in D/R but don't want the "that situation suxs" answer. So the same guy with the financial problem from last week has another episode! (50K in debt, etc..). He was telling us this week how much worse it has gotten. Over the last three months, they've done debt consolidation, counseling, etc..Like the title says, when would you call it quits? I'm a firm/adamant believer in not getting a divorce unless of infidelity. I don't really know what to say anymore, and neither does he. Unfortunately, he's like a teapot right now. He's so over talking, yelling, counseling..he's just bottling it up inside, and will explode any minute now. She's gotten him in bankruptcy, they might start doing liens (sp) on his house/car/equipment..The legal ramifications of this situation will drive a sane man wild. Would you divorce her and take care of the kids, or wait till she got some mental help?
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Depends on how it is affecting the kids. I mean, divorce would hurt them, but this could do more damage in the long run. I know I myself having a son, would never want him to be in a situation where his father & I were at each others neck, struggling, etc..
On a different note, if she is willing to seek help & try to make shit right(& actually means it), then sticking around might be the best thing.
But your children should always come first
also i would reccomend you staying out of it. Thats def a family affair. I dont think he would be real happy if he knew u were posting his shit on here
On a different note, if she is willing to seek help & try to make shit right(& actually means it), then sticking around might be the best thing.
But your children should always come first
also i would reccomend you staying out of it. Thats def a family affair. I dont think he would be real happy if he knew u were posting his shit on here
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When do I call it quits ??
At the first sign of mental instability... That's before the marriage, kids, etc etc...
I don't know how some off these people get involved with wackjobs in the first place, and then compound the problem by marrying them and having kids.... I guess getting routine pussy just shuts off the brain functions on some of these dopes...
My co-worker is going thru a similiar situation (divorce w/ 3 kids under 5 y/o), and it ain't easy. I asked him if he knew his wife was mental before he married her, and he said he saw the signs, but figured it would only get better, and not worst. doh.
<=== not married, and sometimes thinks he's better off that way.
At the first sign of mental instability... That's before the marriage, kids, etc etc...
I don't know how some off these people get involved with wackjobs in the first place, and then compound the problem by marrying them and having kids.... I guess getting routine pussy just shuts off the brain functions on some of these dopes...
My co-worker is going thru a similiar situation (divorce w/ 3 kids under 5 y/o), and it ain't easy. I asked him if he knew his wife was mental before he married her, and he said he saw the signs, but figured it would only get better, and not worst. doh.
<=== not married, and sometimes thinks he's better off that way.
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Originally Posted by zeroday
what i would do is not worry about it since it's not me
you should say out of your friend's financial affairs; period. especially the bad ones.
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For the rest of you chumps (jk) what I was wondering was about when you would call it quits with the wife personally if it was YOU. Not if you think the situation was messed up, not if I'm in the guys business, which I'm not. If he details his personal life with our coworkers, who am I to say anything, which like many of you advised, is not stay out of it. Which I have intently. I was wondering if you guys will say enough is enough and leave it. I never once said that I gave him any financial advice or anything..I just listened to what he said.
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Originally Posted by redinteg23
For the rest of you chumps (jk) what I was wondering was about when you would call it quits with the wife personally if it was YOU. Not if you think the situation was messed up, not if I'm in the guys business, which I'm not. If he details his personal life with our coworkers, who am I to say anything, which like many of you advised, is not stay out of it. Which I have intently. I was wondering if you guys will say enough is enough and leave it. I never once said that I gave him any financial advice or anything..I just listened to what he said.
Relax.....
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Originally Posted by dom
Having your wife infiltrate these boards could potentially be one of the best things that could ever happen to AZ.
Well, either yours or wstevens'
