shnee

If you've gone ass to mouth with her, it's cheating. If you have been hotdogged by her and her sister, it's cheating. If you've cockslapped, teabagged, or roman helmetted her while conscious or not, it's cheating. Everything else is fair game.

dallison

all the above

CGP CL9

mmm.... i think that if you've found yourself straying away more than say.. 3 times, then you should break the initial relationship because if you have any morals, you shouldn't bring down the bystanders (initial gf). Even if you do like the person that much. If you like em enough, you know that they would deserve much more than a cheating bastard.... just what I think. Lets be real about it.

cM3go

If you're hanging 1 on 1 with a friend its all cool, UNLESS that other person is an EX, then its cheating IMO.

crazymjb

I think it depends much more on intent than the actual action. I found out (she told me)a while back that when my girlfriend and I had been apart for a long time (it was about month 5) her and a friend kissed (I knew this fucker too). She admits to having a minor crush on him but they never held hands or anything like that. There were three of them shoved in the back of a car on the way to the airport and as it goes he kind of sprung it on her, and she didn't reject it. After that, there friendship ended and she told him that I was the person she loved, etc etc. Since she waited a couple months before telling me I didn't believe her but I ended up making some phone calls and confirming that she wasn't lying to me.

The bottom line, I think, is that she stopped herself from doing what she felt was wrong, and realized I was the person she loved and that nothing would come of having a relationship with this person, and that she didn't really want one. I can't fault her for developing a crush on a friend after having not seen me for a while, and as much as I hate to admit it the guy in question isn't an awful person. We had been dating for one month before being physically separated for 6. If I found out she had been holding hands with this kid for a duration, and it led to kissing, I would have broken it off with her. Like wise, if they slept together, or had any kind of ongoing relationship, I would have broken it off.

I guess she did cheat on me, but I believe it was at a level which was forgivable given the circumstances. If anyone thinks I'm wrong feel free to chime in. The biggest factor in my decision to stay with her (apart from my mom saying it wasn't a big deal, and shes been with my dad for 30+ years) was that we are best friends, we live together, our relationship is otherwise perfect, and most of all we really do love each other. I consider what happened to be an unfortunate result of her letting her guard down, and not listening to me when I told her that its rare for a guy to just be a good friend and to have it stay that way (she never hid their friendship, or hers and anyone elses for that matter, from me).

Mike

RaviNJCLs

iTrader: (4)

I say that if you have intentions, then you're not too far from cheating.

yohan81718

oh... didn't know this thread was still going on lol
i wasn't really asking anyone to tell me if I AM cheating or not... because i knew i was cheating...


i stopped talking to the new girl (probably like for 2 weeks now) because i felt really bad... i'm thinking i should confess to my gf even if it will end my relationship with her......



by the way, that holding hand night was the last time we had any kind of "intention" or talk

ttk5

according to what I read on yahoo news....any relationships that are hidden from your partner can be considered cheating. They say there exists such a thing called mental cheating or something and there should be no reason to hide a relationship from your partner. (be it online dating, office co worker etc.) And just in general..if you ever found out that your partner had a relationship with someone regardless of if it is a genuine friendship, wouldnt you be pissed? The best thing to do is try and make sure your partner is aware of all the people in your life that you usually interact with...........according to yahoo lol

makes sense to me though

FiftyFive

If you bump into a girl in a bar by accident and say sorry and nothing more is that consider hitting on her? Apparently it does to my girl.

Yumcha

f) All of the above...

But, yeah...LD relationships are tough, yohan...That being said, it seems to me that alot of the uncertainty (i.e. her return) from your relationship with your current GF is putting doubt to your mind. Probably best to determine this first...And if her answer is no idea, you need to ask if you can wait this long, move to where she is to be with her, or perhaps move on...?

alexSU

iTrader: (3)

Hell no. Chicks take shit too far, fckin ridiculous!

FiftyFive

Yea

Happened on Sunday and i think she left me over it.

Cheating is the intention whatever that may be.

Mike 350Z

Depends if you gave the girl a wink or a blew a kiss at her while saying "sorry"

alexSU

iTrader: (3)

u serious? for good or just that night..

FiftyFive

So far looks like its for good. I guess it only really matters what they consider cheating, eh?

Scottman111

Sucks man, but this seems like one of those good riddance moments, don't ya think?

If she has problems with something like this imagine how she would act about other things.

scholtew

you are 100% correct my friend

Costco

I know someone who was dumped because his ex considered watching porn cheating


guy hasn't watched porn ever since, supposedly

alexSU

iTrader: (3)

Sorry to hear that man! Scottman111 said it best, you don't know how she would have reacted about other stuff.

Whiskers

gypsygirl

Sorry about the break 55, but some of you guys really seem to be hanging around immature women. Really is probably for the best.

We all know what cheating is. It "feels" like cheating. It's hidden, covered-up. No real need to ask.

Bumping into someone at a bar doesn't seem like cheating to me, even if you did wink at her! Now if you got her phone number and were trying to do a follow-up, then maybe. Never going to see her again? Nah, not cheating.

Porn? Not cheating. Strip club once in a while? Not cheating unless you bang a dancer. hahahaha!

Intimate? Cheating. Not intimate? Not cheating!