What to do? need real advice here...
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From: Waffles, BU
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It's called reality and fact is she handed out nudes to a MARRIED dude THAT SHE KNEW BEFORE and exactly WHY did she hand out those pix? Because she has ALREADY BEEN WITH HIM......I don't care what excuse she comes up with as reality is a whole different ball game.
Women who are in a secure relationship with a man they truly love would never think about handing out nudes..............
that married dude scored with this dude's chick
Women who are in a secure relationship with a man they truly love would never think about handing out nudes..............
that married dude scored with this dude's chick
I can think of multiple occasions where I've had girls sending nude/provacative pictures without asking within the first few days of talking to them, and in a few cases on the first day. And I know I'm far from the only one that has had this happen.
I just don't see your argument that she wouldn't send a naked picture pre-banging...unless I'm misunderstanding what you're trying to say
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No doubt she wants to bang him if she's sending nudes...unless she's just a wackjob and gets some weird pleasure out of it, but it's still fucked up for the OP
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^keep telling youself that ahahahahha I been around a long time and I am telling you from EXPERIENCES witnessed that girls in stable relationships do not send nudes unless they got some..... as they have already hopped over to the new guy and don't want to hurt the old guy........
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I swear this forum is on some kind of testosterone rage-fest lately.
And WTF, Flipster, in a thread where the OP is dealing with his SO sending nudes to a trusted friend, do you behave in the worst manner that this friend possibly might? "I got all these girls to trust me and send me pics, but I'm completely untrustworthy, so here's all the pics!" Do you get it?
And WTF, Flipster, in a thread where the OP is dealing with his SO sending nudes to a trusted friend, do you behave in the worst manner that this friend possibly might? "I got all these girls to trust me and send me pics, but I'm completely untrustworthy, so here's all the pics!" Do you get it?
agreement?
Maybe I'm a sucker for love, but I think you should try to work through it.
It sounds to me like the two of you are wound tight into each other's lives. My husband and I regularly spend time away from each other - not just a couple of hours to go to the movies with a friend - I'm talking about a weekend away with friends. I think this time apart is absolutely necessary! If this is the firt time the two of you have taken some time apart, and it was congruent to a disagreement, she probably didn't know what to do with herself, probably felt neglected and/or rejected, and probably felt a NEED for male attention. I don't think your girlfriend meant to hurt you. The fact that she used another name in her phone means that it's probably her first time. (Edit: that's a rookie move.)
I could be WAY off and she could hurt you again. But that's the chance we take in the name of love. You can A. let her go and try to find love elsewhere while trying to shove your two years with her in a closet in your heart, or B. rebuild your relationship with her with the understanding that you will NOT tolerate this in the future. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Again, just my opinion, and I'm sure it will not be the popular opinion. I have first hand experience with infidelity and I can tell you that you CAN get past it, and trust CAN be rebuilt.
It sounds to me like the two of you are wound tight into each other's lives. My husband and I regularly spend time away from each other - not just a couple of hours to go to the movies with a friend - I'm talking about a weekend away with friends. I think this time apart is absolutely necessary! If this is the firt time the two of you have taken some time apart, and it was congruent to a disagreement, she probably didn't know what to do with herself, probably felt neglected and/or rejected, and probably felt a NEED for male attention. I don't think your girlfriend meant to hurt you. The fact that she used another name in her phone means that it's probably her first time. (Edit: that's a rookie move.)
I could be WAY off and she could hurt you again. But that's the chance we take in the name of love. You can A. let her go and try to find love elsewhere while trying to shove your two years with her in a closet in your heart, or B. rebuild your relationship with her with the understanding that you will NOT tolerate this in the future. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Again, just my opinion, and I'm sure it will not be the popular opinion. I have first hand experience with infidelity and I can tell you that you CAN get past it, and trust CAN be rebuilt.
However, OP, I think its pretty crappy how you found out... by looking at her phone. That is usually a
but in this case... winning
she may not be sinding them to himc'mon dude, I have you quoted in my sig, TWICE. Thats like guest list status for your noodz
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Maybe I'm a sucker for love, but I think you should try to work through it.
It sounds to me like the two of you are wound tight into each other's lives. My husband and I regularly spend time away from each other - not just a couple of hours to go to the movies with a friend - I'm talking about a weekend away with friends. I think this time apart is absolutely necessary! If this is the firt time the two of you have taken some time apart, and it was congruent to a disagreement, she probably didn't know what to do with herself, probably felt neglected and/or rejected, and probably felt a NEED for male attention. I don't think your girlfriend meant to hurt you. The fact that she used another name in her phone means that it's probably her first time. (Edit: that's a rookie move.)
I could be WAY off and she could hurt you again. But that's the chance we take in the name of love. You can A. let her go and try to find love elsewhere while trying to shove your two years with her in a closet in your heart, or B. rebuild your relationship with her with the understanding that you will NOT tolerate this in the future. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Again, just my opinion, and I'm sure it will not be the popular opinion. I have first hand experience with infidelity and I can tell you that you CAN get past it, and trust CAN be rebuilt.
It sounds to me like the two of you are wound tight into each other's lives. My husband and I regularly spend time away from each other - not just a couple of hours to go to the movies with a friend - I'm talking about a weekend away with friends. I think this time apart is absolutely necessary! If this is the firt time the two of you have taken some time apart, and it was congruent to a disagreement, she probably didn't know what to do with herself, probably felt neglected and/or rejected, and probably felt a NEED for male attention. I don't think your girlfriend meant to hurt you. The fact that she used another name in her phone means that it's probably her first time. (Edit: that's a rookie move.)
I could be WAY off and she could hurt you again. But that's the chance we take in the name of love. You can A. let her go and try to find love elsewhere while trying to shove your two years with her in a closet in your heart, or B. rebuild your relationship with her with the understanding that you will NOT tolerate this in the future. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Again, just my opinion, and I'm sure it will not be the popular opinion. I have first hand experience with infidelity and I can tell you that you CAN get past it, and trust CAN be rebuilt.
I took a poll amongst 5 of my my co workers and 3 of my female friends and they all said that she either slept with him and sent the pic to remind him of her or that she sent the pic and slept with her on the same weekend.... ALL 3 girls stated that there is no doubt that she slept with him......
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^^ LOL Wow. Such hostility. 
OP - you can either talk to your girlfriend who you've been with for two years and determine BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU if your relationship can be salvaged - or do you can take the advice of a bunch of strangers who, themselves, trade noodz of other women.
Has anyone else noticed that this post was his very first on AZ?? Really?
OP - you can either talk to your girlfriend who you've been with for two years and determine BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU if your relationship can be salvaged - or do you can take the advice of a bunch of strangers who, themselves, trade noodz of other women.
Has anyone else noticed that this post was his very first on AZ?? Really?
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I think OP should just sext his cock to his gf's mom.
Seriously OP, if you guys had to take a timeout and in that time she sent her tits to some troll, she's not a keeper.
Seriously OP, if you guys had to take a timeout and in that time she sent her tits to some troll, she's not a keeper.
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Thanks to those that gave their opinions.
I hear what a lot of you are saying, and I appreciate the advice. Sadly, it's not that easy for me to just give it up like that. We have so many plans with one another, our lives are mended together in a lot of ways, and it's hard to just call it quits.
She feels extremely bad for what she did. She doesn't know why she did it, and regrets it 100%. She knows she has to earn my trust back i this is ever going to work out. She knows she fucked up and can't take it back.
To those that act like they know her and how she is, please think before you post. She is not some whore that goes all over town fucking every guy that looks at her. She is actually a very shy, reserved person who does not act out like this in any way. The fact that she DID do this does bother me more than any of you know. However, I also know who she really is and what we have together.
She did not sleep with this guy, she sent him a picture of her tits. All of you people that say 100% she slept with him, don't have a clue what you're talking about. She does not like this guy, he was simply buttering her up and complimenting her when she was vulnerable and weak. I told her to get lost for the weekend, this guy stepped in my place and gave her attention. He has been hitting on her since highschool and she's always ignored him. Then i tell her to leave me alone for the weekend and BOOM, here we are.
Again, I do appreciate the sincere advice that was given. But those who act like they know for a fact that she went further, sound like you're speaking from YOUR personal experience with someone that YOU were with.
I'm not getting all butt hurt from this thread, I'm just defendng myself and what I feel is true and just.
I hear what a lot of you are saying, and I appreciate the advice. Sadly, it's not that easy for me to just give it up like that. We have so many plans with one another, our lives are mended together in a lot of ways, and it's hard to just call it quits.
She feels extremely bad for what she did. She doesn't know why she did it, and regrets it 100%. She knows she has to earn my trust back i this is ever going to work out. She knows she fucked up and can't take it back.
To those that act like they know her and how she is, please think before you post. She is not some whore that goes all over town fucking every guy that looks at her. She is actually a very shy, reserved person who does not act out like this in any way. The fact that she DID do this does bother me more than any of you know. However, I also know who she really is and what we have together.
She did not sleep with this guy, she sent him a picture of her tits. All of you people that say 100% she slept with him, don't have a clue what you're talking about. She does not like this guy, he was simply buttering her up and complimenting her when she was vulnerable and weak. I told her to get lost for the weekend, this guy stepped in my place and gave her attention. He has been hitting on her since highschool and she's always ignored him. Then i tell her to leave me alone for the weekend and BOOM, here we are.
Again, I do appreciate the sincere advice that was given. But those who act like they know for a fact that she went further, sound like you're speaking from YOUR personal experience with someone that YOU were with.
I'm not getting all butt hurt from this thread, I'm just defendng myself and what I feel is true and just.
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Thanks to those that gave their opinions.
I hear what a lot of you are saying, and I appreciate the advice. Sadly, it's not that easy for me to just give it up like that. We have so many plans with one another, our lives are mended together in a lot of ways, and it's hard to just call it quits.
She feels extremely bad for what she did. She doesn't know why she did it, and regrets it 100%. She knows she has to earn my trust back i this is ever going to work out. She knows she fucked up and can't take it back.
To those that act like they know her and how she is, please think before you post. She is not some whore that goes all over town fucking every guy that looks at her. She is actually a very shy, reserved person who does not act out like this in any way. The fact that she DID do this does bother me more than any of you know. However, I also know who she really is and what we have together.
She did not sleep with this guy, she sent him a picture of her tits. All of you people that say 100% she slept with him, don't have a clue what you're talking about. She does not like this guy, he was simply buttering her up and complimenting her when she was vulnerable and weak. I told her to get lost for the weekend, this guy stepped in my place and gave her attention. He has been hitting on her since highschool and she's always ignored him. Then i tell her to leave me alone for the weekend and BOOM, here we are.
Again, I do appreciate the sincere advice that was given. But those who act like they know for a fact that she went further, sound like you're speaking from YOUR personal experience with someone that YOU were with.
I'm not getting all butt hurt from this thread, I'm just defendng myself and what I feel is true and just.
I hear what a lot of you are saying, and I appreciate the advice. Sadly, it's not that easy for me to just give it up like that. We have so many plans with one another, our lives are mended together in a lot of ways, and it's hard to just call it quits.
She feels extremely bad for what she did. She doesn't know why she did it, and regrets it 100%. She knows she has to earn my trust back i this is ever going to work out. She knows she fucked up and can't take it back.
To those that act like they know her and how she is, please think before you post. She is not some whore that goes all over town fucking every guy that looks at her. She is actually a very shy, reserved person who does not act out like this in any way. The fact that she DID do this does bother me more than any of you know. However, I also know who she really is and what we have together.
She did not sleep with this guy, she sent him a picture of her tits. All of you people that say 100% she slept with him, don't have a clue what you're talking about. She does not like this guy, he was simply buttering her up and complimenting her when she was vulnerable and weak. I told her to get lost for the weekend, this guy stepped in my place and gave her attention. He has been hitting on her since highschool and she's always ignored him. Then i tell her to leave me alone for the weekend and BOOM, here we are.
Again, I do appreciate the sincere advice that was given. But those who act like they know for a fact that she went further, sound like you're speaking from YOUR personal experience with someone that YOU were with.
I'm not getting all butt hurt from this thread, I'm just defendng myself and what I feel is true and just.
Hmmm...isn't that just about exactly what I posted?
Wishing you and your gf the best dude!
If she's smart she'll spend the time regaining your trust and the two of you will live happily ever after. 
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