No swashbuckling for me haha. I think its serisouly bad karma, i was an asshole to my first relationship (3 years) then i was a man whore when we broke up then met another one i stayed with for 2 and half years (that was a fuckin mess on both our parts) and now i dont feel i can not be an asshole or man whore again. Shits fucked.

 

So you've been in long-term relationships since you were 15?

Maybe you're always 'obsessing' (as you say) over girls cuz you're just not used to being on your own. ??

 

yup bassically, my first girl friend was when i was a sophmore in HS and she was lived nest door. Then i was doing the dating and single thing after i gratuated for almost 2 years then met the next serious one. We lived together and had our banking and bills all together. that ended in march of 2006, and now i have bassically been single except for one girl i dated for like 2 months but it wasnt anything special.

See the thing is, i love being single its amazing. I seriously never been happier, but then she just came outa know where. Like we started chillin and i did not want a relatinship i thought yea shes hot but i just want her as a friend. Then i dont know what happened

 

Just date yourself then. That sounds too much alike.

Anyway, you are setting yourself up. At least make her exert some effort. Have her come over to your place. Next time you ask her to do something, see what her reaction is. Does she make the effort to see you, or are you just there for her to call up when she feels lonely? Also, I guess I'm confused as to the limits of your physical relationship. In previous posts you refer to kissing and spending the night, then you said you would like to get laid tonight. Has this happened already or is she dangling a carrot in front of your eyes?

 

I don't really think you should do anything at all. It seems to me like everything's going pretty well and you're both having a good time. While spoil that? Just let it play out...see what happens...

PS - you go to Providence often? I always have a great ass time in Prov....I'll actually be there this weekend sometime.

 

i know the feeling and going through it somewhat right now where we are really good friends and she needs me but doesn't have the feelings back anymore because of this stupid little reason and i'm trying to change becaue in ways it can be bad, and it sucks. but who knows where we'll be later on, but it's alot more complicated then that.......

but anyways what is her brothers name or her last name, i may know her or know about her. i was gonna ask earlier if i possibly knew this girl but wasn't sure. u can hit me up on AIm = A30CLS or post it here. and girls will be girls, never know wtf they want even when something good is right in front of them.

 

Yes she does call me and make effort to see me like last night. She was up at her mom's house in Providence and she called me when i got out of wock from her moms phone caues she forgot hers at her house and asked me if she could come over. I said yea if you feel like driving back from prov, she said i am already leaving my house to come see you. Also last sunday we had sex when i slept at her house. Today her dad leaves again to go to his house in NH which means until sunday night i will be sleeping at her house, so i guess i will just see what happens. i will just go with the flow......

 

Isnt this considered "friends with benefits"??? since she doesnt want a relationship. This is in regards to your last post. If thats all she wants, just dont get emotionally attached. Because thats when the problems with start to occur.

Or maybe she is finally thinking about having a relationship with you....never know

 

In all honestly, i thik she is scared to be in a relastionship. Her last girlfriend and her had a bad relationship from what she has told me. She sometimes acts and seems likes she wants to be with me, for example calling me int he middle of the nigth caues she just wanted to hear my voice. Telling me she thinks i am an amazing guy and they she loves me and all that stuff. I am not pressuring her, i wont do that. Like last night i said something about My X and she got all mad, she never said she was mas mad but sometimes you can just tell that something is bothering someone. I am just going to go with the flow and see what happens, im not in a rush for a relationship, but i can not deny how i feel about her.


PS last night She had me meet her Mom and stepdad. Her mom knew who i was and what i do so i guess she talked about me with her mom. She wanted to make sure i would take good care of her daughter.

 

Usually it is. But they both seems to have more of an emotional interest. I think is either a prelude to a relationship or a messy break-up.

Either way....

 

I am sitting back eating pop corn with you watching this whole thing too, my only problem is this movie im watching, i am also living.

 

Stranger than Fiction... and this thread is the naration

 

Stranger then fiction is a good song, do you listen to Moe. at all?

 

I was referring to the new Will Farrell movie coming out. Don't think I hever heard the song, but I do talk to myself.

 

shaved...... what the hell man who is thi girl, i am really curiouse now. send me a PM?????

and i hope things work out. just take it day by day and see wh happens, i say this but this is hard to do and sucks like no other because of the uncertainty

 

PM sent, and i cant believe you actually know her haha. She is Hot haha

 

when i saw the name i wa like no fucking way, you lucky bitch! props props. for everyone thats wondering she is HOT to the fullest extant.

 

You guys know the rules: Pics

 

shaved it's all yours.............

 

So her friend is being a real pain in the ass. Since i have been hanging out with her, her friend has been getting more and more bitchy. Her friend is trying to keep us apart and nicole knows it. Sat night we went to a Halloween party and we had to go back and get her friend. When we get the friend she is in a good mood and everything so we think its going to be an awesome night. Around 2am the friend wants to go home and throwing a temper tantrum. So she is the one driving so we have to go. We get to nicoles house and her and I are still drinking and partying, her friend storms out and flips and we laugh. I hate party poopers.

Friday Nicole and I made plans to go to NYC for New YEars, my fav. band is playing at radio city, we got the tickets with 2 more of my friends. Nicoles friend then finds out and is furious we did not invite her. Nicole doesnt care caues she says u are better friend and u are more then she could ever be to me. This weekend we hooked up again both sat night and sunday night. I think this is going to be the relationship. We wont be having sex with anyone other then eachother and we are bestfriends so its a good situation. I am coming to terms with this now and i am starting to like it. The more time we spend together the closer we get. She says i am always the first person on her mind. All of my friend and her friend keep asking us why we are not offically Boyfriend and girlfriend and we reply witht he samething. "this is how we want it" I am very happy and so is she so i guess it has worked it self out.

 

Men

 

We are all dogs.....You know you love it....

 

I am a dog, but when it comes to this girl, most things dont even matter, just that we are together. She loves me and i love her and thats all i really care about. Can't wait to spend New years with her in NYC that will be one crazy night. The we go away again in March to Lake Placid for a week for SnoDown

 

So how is this not a relationship to her if you guys are spending all this time together, or on the phone and are planning occations and vacations?

 

^^
Agreed.

Although you don't have the "title" of boyfriend/girlfriend, that's exactly what you are.

 

Our friends always ask us how we are doing, if we are together or not, we just say nah we are best friends. and laugh haha. There is no title i guess, but its a good situation.

 

That's BS. I say you guys need to shit or get off the pot. Friends with benefits don't spend as much time interacting with each other as you guys seem too. Even best friends don't. I would say you guys are in a relationship but have refused to actually have the discussion about it, or admit it.

Either way, you're getting laid. Enjoy it.

 

i don't disagree with you but plenty of college girls go out whoring, so women aren't much different.

SSTS


ps - you're pretty

 

We have disscussed it. We are mroe then best friends and way more then friends with benefits but do not want a title or anything. We are just US.

 

A great sign of maturity. I am proud of you

 

How long have you known this girl for?? Im shocked that you two arent in an official bf/gf relationship. Do you know anything about her dating past?? that might explain why she wouldnt want the "tied down" title of being your girlfriend, just a thought.

There is nothing wrong with planning trips for the future!...Thats just showing her that your interested in something long-term

 

Has there been coitus?

 

She has been in relationships since she was a freashman, her last girlfriend and her had a huge blow out and a bad relationship. She is scared she said. She Like being able to do what she wants. Like for instance last night she was going to go out with her friend mike to a party, she says if she had a boyfriend they would have gotten mad. I dont get mad caues of what she has said to me about how she feels about me. It doesnt bother me. She has alot of guy friends and her boyfriends/girlfriends use to get very jealous. She doesnt want me to get jealous caues she says we have something special and doesnt want to ruin it. I have alot of frend that are girls and i feel the same way. She isnt a slut at all so i trust her. She has only been for 3 people well 4 of u include myself. Everyone she has been with she has been in a relatinship with. Also her mom cheated on her dad so she is extreamly against cheating, she hates her mom caues of what she did.

 

I've had a few relationships that started out like that. My wife being one. But once we became more intimate, you really should re-visit your status.

 

shaved.....i say good luck to you and her. if ur happy ur happy, and if ur getting laid then even better. but seriousely i know both of you, eventhough i haven't talked to her in a long time, but still i'm still shocked in ways, it's a samll world....fucking RI. it's good that you have that much trust in her but good luck bro.

 

^^
Fucking RI small as hell....either of you chill in Providence often?

 

Dude your post's crack me up sometimes


Seriously though, I've been in the same exact situation a bunch of times. Time always works these things out

 

yea i do, i did alot this summer but now with school and work i haven't been in providence much. but things will change once i get some time off, party time

 

I am more of a Narragansett person, but i go to prov for a couple good bars, but all the best bars are in Gansett. You cant beat a Beach town with a big time party School in it haha.

 

haha that is true......i got hamered at a house party at URI about a month ago. then had work at 6am and worked till 8pm....that sucked but the night before was great.