So I met a girl, very pretty blonde with blue eyes. (same with both of my ex's)

her name is nicole. We met at a party down at URI in narragansett, she is actually
from my town. So we had an amazing night. The next day i get a call from her,

asking me to come chill. So i met up with her we blaze an L then go out and meet up at my friends Keg, (home fromt he marines) another awesome night with her.

NOw all week she IM's me online while im at work and we have hung out every day since. She is exactly like me in almost every way, our dogs even have the same name.

She played HS bball so did i, She snowboards i snowboard, we talk the same, we act the same we know what eachother is thinking and we have only known eachother for a little over a week. Last night we are in the car and we are both jammin out to Sublime and both of us loved the same songs and knew every word. If we are at a party or something she always comes to stand with me even though she knows the other people there. She is the female Version of me.

She has told me i am halarious awesome and she loves to hang out with me, but i dont know how to take it caues she has alot of guy friends. I am getting confused a little. She has made it known that the other guys i hang out with that she also met she doesnt hang out with like she does with me and that they arnt as cool as i am.

I have never met any girl like this, We have the best time together. My problem is i am scared to ruin that, by trying to kiss her goodnight or invite her in. 2night we are going to the bar together. I NEED ADVICE GUYS

 

Be a man, grow some balls and just flat out ask her on a date. Keeping it simple makes things easy.

 

^^I was thinking about it today actually. I just dont want to ruin it if thats not what she wants and she just wants to be friends caues she is so cool.

 

similar sorta thing happened to me a few weeks ago, saw up with this girl i haven't seen for about 4 years or so, ended up that we were gonna go out for a few drinks to catch up. I figured why not, she was pretty cool and what not, needless to say that day we stayed out till like 3 am just talkin chillin out, and it's the same as you described it, we're almost the same person, same interests, etc... both athletic (which i find really important), have the same values, goals in life etc...

so what did I do??

next day after we hung out i called her up, told her how great a time i had, and asked if i could take her out on a date that weekend. To which she said yes. had a great date, and i've got another lined up for this weekend w00t!!

To be honest, if that's what you really want (to go out with her) then ask her out on a date quick times, before she gets the wrong idea or whatever. You don't have to kiss her goodnight to ask her on a date. And if she says no, you guys can still be friends if you get along as good as you claim you do. Don't allow yourself to fall into the just friends category, cuz then you're fucked... just be straight up with her.

if she says no, then that's fine keep being friends hanging out and then ask her out again in a few months or whatever... persistance pays off man... but if you don't tell her how you feel there's no way she'll know, and there's no way you'll know how she feels...

 

i know what ur saying dude thanks.

 

And the problem is?

 

wtf...do you really need a friend? Get her wasted and pee in her butt.

 

I better do something about this tonight before its to late. Once i get a feew drinks in me i will be down to ask her anything haha. How many other girls can be almost exactly like me? I am retarted i need to do something tonight.

 

np man, i totally know what you're going thru. I felt the same way so i can totally relate, i was like what if what if what if... but in reality if she didn't like you she probably wouldn't hang out with you every day, or make excuses to stay out late with you, or tell her friends that you're different etc..

remember you don't have to start dating her like bf/gf right away, just take it as it goes... for once i'm actually enjoying the dating process...

usually it's about how fast can you get in her pants, and who cares if she shoots me down i'll move on to the next one, but it's something different this time i actually care... which is weird as hell... but meh whatever just run with it... and remember

this is a good problem to have!!

 

i personally say you should do drinks, and after a few, sugest a body shot. just make sure you lick the salt off her neck, and take the lime from her mouth..and when you do, make it seductive and throw in some acutal lip rather then just grabbing the lime and running...see what happens from there, and that way you can see her responce..

BUT, just don't do it as the first drink..loosen her up a lil with a few first :P

thats my 2 cents, and it ALWAYS works for me..how do you think i've gotten those pics....lol

 

Take it one day at a time - If you really like the girl. Don't mess it up n be a little pervert.

Get to know her. People start to reveal their true selves after about a good 6 months of dating. If your up for a serious relationship by all means give it what you got Charm her with your real self & you should be good.

Best advice I've ever recieved was : Be yourself.

Make sure to give updates

 

damn u'd date someone for 6 months before going out with them as a serious relationship? don't you think thats a tad much? one thing if u've never known the person at all, but a true 6 months of dating with no sex or anything..yah thats REALLY gunna happen..

 

Just be honest and tell her what you told us...that you really like her, would like to take it to the next step, and that you need her to help you know what the next is...

You may be really surprized

 

Maybe I wasn't clear. IF he is serious about her - around 6 months is when you see a person for their true colors (fore-warning). They are comfortable with you, have nothing to hide vs. a beginning of a relationship where you want to make a good impression.

I didn't say no sex or anything, I'm just saying be a gentleman not a lil pervert.

N as far as your sarcastic comment. I was with my xbf for 4 years without sex. Yes shit like that does happen - believe it or not.

 

I don't think I would want a girl that was that similar to me!? First off, the saying that "too much agreement kills a chat" is so true. It would seem you would get bored fast with her. Secondly, its cool to meet someone that can broaden your horizens and introduce you to a whole other side of life that you were not aware of. Not trying to kill your buzz, just giving my opinion.


Good luck with everything

 

I've known my gf for over a year, been together for 11 mo. and we're not having sex. Honestly I don't mind. It kinda simplifies things. There isn't that "am I gonna get some tonight" tension. When we're together we just enjoy being together. So yeah, it could happen.

 

HAd an awesome night last night. But I hate RI both of my most recent X girlfriends were there. Not a problem though just funny.

 

^^ did you ask her out yet? or tell her how you feel??

 

yah i know, but i think thats way way way way too long without sex. if your together and you "love" each other, then why not express it physically?

 

It seems like you've been on enough dates with her already even if it wasn't an official "date." So it should be pretty easy to take the next step.

Don't mean to hijack, but what is Narragansett like? I know a girl who recently moved there from West Palm Beach, fl where she had a pretty nice setup. I think she's in the hotel/tourism field. I was trying to figure out why she made that move.....

 

I'm sorry - maybe I'm out of touch - what does "blaze an L" mean?

Is an "L" somehow different from a "J"?

 

to each their own, everyone has different views on sex...

 

Yes L's are different from J's....I was told once but I don't remember how they are different.

 

Its a college town. Univ. of Rhode Island is there. Its a beach and surf town also.

Its amazing.

YEs i told her how i felt and she said she is flattered and she loves hanging out with me and wants to see what happens. Then asked me to hang out again tonight before i leave for CT for the weekend. So i said sure. She also told me she has never been so open with anyone before and loves talking to me and Hanging out and that something could happen between us but wants to let nature take its course with us caues of how well we get along.


L = Blunt

 

Now, you have it all set up, so if something may happen, she already knows how you feel and will not hold back. Just go with it and do not push too hard. Good luck.

 

Good for you ShavedH22CL Treat her nice and always be a gentleman. Ladies like that

 

Well this weekend she had a party at her house and her and i bassically have been inseperable. Got drunk ate some doses and had an awesome time. Ran through the woods at about 3 AM then went up on her roof for a little bit. We ended up falling asleep together in her bed, but nothing happened. Just layed together, it was nice to wake up with her and actually it was kinda funny.

 

Sounds like things are falling into place.

 

you know it was bound to happen...

 

Update.
So me and this girl have been hanging out everyday we are inseperable. The more we hang out the more things we find out we do exactly the same. Last night we were talking about how it would work if we were actually together. So tonight is our first formal date, usualy we just hang out or go out drinking with our friends. (All of my friends love her so she fits in very very well.) She is also spending the weekend with me, so that shoud be nice. We are going to to dinner and i do not know where i should take her.

I was very suprised when i asked her. I told her monday i was suppose to go out ona date with a girl that works in my office building, when i told her that she told me some kid she knows had asked her to go out also, last night i told her my heart sank when she told me that and that i wished her and i were going on a date. She replied with "i wish we were also" i said well lets do it, and she said i ahve been waiting for u to ask me. Then we got into talking about how we feel eachother. She bassically told me everything i wanted to hear.

Where shoud i take her to dinner tonight????? we are both very excited about this.

 

^^^

Good for you boss.

Take her some place nice. Not extremely formal. I obviously don't know what's around where you live. On my first date with my wife, I went to a place I've been before so I knew that there was of variety in the menu. Unless you know exactly what she likes, pick some place with some choices.

If you take her to Fridays, I'll make fun of you.

 

Haha fridays, nah i think i might hit Carabba's Tonight for some italian food. MMMMMMMMMMMMM

 

Sweet. congrats bro!!!!

 

Yeah, Carabba's. The Mezzaluna is an aphrodisiac. Order two helpings and a bottle of Cabernet.

 

Cool, enjoy.

 

Haha thanks for the tip bro

 

You handled the situation perfectly, especially for a college-aged dude. When I was that age it was always about getting a girls pants as fast as possible and to hell with the consequences. I think it's awesome when you meet someone new and there is that killer chemistry. If you have a lot in common that's great because that affords the opportunity to maximize your time together. Just make sure you reserve enough time for yourself, hanging out with the boys one night a week, etc. That why you won't bore each other to death and drive each other crazy but hanging out 24-7. I was in a similar situation 2 wks ago. I was at this private party for the Lost cast to celebrate their season premiere and totally hit it off with this one girl. Same thing, similar interests, similar taste in music, etc. She was into trance which is pretty rare where i'm from since it's a hip-hop town and just how stoked she was on music and everything was really attractive. I played it cool too and didn't rush things, am planning on taking her out to a wine bar next week and taking things from there. Don't create any expectations and go with the flow, that why if things work out well you'll be pleasantly surprised. Don't forget that a lot if it has to do with the newness of your new lady. Remember how you feel now, how stoked you are to spend time with her, and strive to maintain that feeling if you end up being in a long-term relationship. Good luck and keep us posted.

 

ShavedH22CL: I would suggest getting a dozen of red roses and since it's your first official date, wear something nice ISince both of you seems to really like each other, you might as well make it official, ask her to be your gf

I'm happy for you

 

Maybe skip the flowers and go straight for the ring.

 

Maybe you should ask CL Platano for advice.