so i met this girl back in january at a club i was working at, was doing security, just made alittle small talk here and there for a few weeks then finally i hung out with her and it was all good, we kept going out a few times a week, and just hooking up nothing more.she didnt want a relationship yet cause she just broke up with her bf in dec, they were together for 4 years and lived together. then in march shes over my house(still single btw), and she said something that pissed me off, i forget. then we get into alittle argument and i called her the wrong name! she got all pissed and left, but i felt so bad, after her not answering my calls i went to where she worked and parked next to her then i got out with flowers and alittle bear with a heart and she loved it forgave me kinda, but i think she never got over it to this day, so we started hanging out again then in april we just stopped talkin as much then in august we kinda reconnected and went back to hanging out alot and hooking up. then about 2 weeks ago she says to me, "i decided that im not going to hook up with anyone till i have a bf." yeah sure no problem, we keep hanging out then last week BAM she has a boyfriend. out of nowhere. and this kinda got me angry and kinda sad. i havent seen her since the last time i hooked up with her which was 2 weeks ago cause shes been busy with work and school again. i dont know if i should give up, or wait around to see how it works out

edit: fyi. i know for a fact she liked me because she always did little things to make me happy and her friend told me how much she talked about me to her

 

You are wondering if you should wait for her?!? Why? It seems to me that all you guys had together was a physical relationship... unless you actually want something more serious?

If you actually want the relationship to progress beyond hooking up, have you ever talked to her about it? If you haven't, well, don't you think you already missed your chance since she has a bf now?

 

yeah i wanted something more but i wanted to feel her out before i did anything, i didnt want to get denied. i never have before but i know its gunna happen sooner or later.

you know whats funny i was actually going to ask her out a few days before i found out she had a boyfriend, but i didnt see her and i wanted to do it in person, not over the phone.

and i knew almost all of her friends and i never heard of the kid shes with now

 

I think her saying that to you was her way of saying "i want you to be my bf." She figured you'd catch on but since you didn't, she felt rejected and got with another guy she had lined up. I'm not saying I would have caught on either, because it's a lot easier to analyze from the sidelines.

BTW, I think it's ok to ask someone out over the phone, just don't break up with them over the phone.

 

damn ur so right, i wish i caught on, well now im pretty much f*cked i think

 

sounds like u waited too long, strange how she has a new bf out of the blue and u didn't know about it, but I'd take that as a sign to move on bro

 

When you say you called her the wrong name, do you mean you called her "bitch" or did you call her "Karen" and her name is "Krista." Because none of those are good.

Aside from that, I'm guessing she is about 18-19. Sounds to me that she wants to be a girlfriend and not a hookup. And maybe she is playing with you to get what she wants. So, if you want to be in a relationship with her, then tell her that. If she shoots you down, then move on.

 

yes i called her by the wrong first name
i dont know, shes comin over this week and im gunna talk about it and we will see

 

seriously, when i heard i thought she was joking around, but guess not, lol

 

 

you snooze you lose. why do you even want a relationship anyways? You're WAY too young. Think about relationships when you are 30. For now...get more ass than a toilet seat.

 

Never good. I did that once. That relationship died.

 

1. You missed your opportunity when she told you that she didn't want casual sex, and that she wanted a bf.

2. Not your call to hookup with her again as she clearly has moved on past you, since she has a bf or is lying about having a bf to avoid going out with you (if you truly know all of her aquaintances).

3. Move on.

4. Stop looking for love in little girls (18-25). Have fun with them instead, and then try again when they are fully grown: As in mentally/emotionally/spiritually mature. Do not expect much by the way of "consistency" prior to that, as they are on a serious learning curve...much like yourself.

Now go forth and conquer...