my gf of 2.5 years has been living with me, at my parents house for a year now.
she wakes up every morning, and goes to her fathers house to shower; this is where her clothes are at.

she really wants out of the house, she dosent care if its a rv!
I shure dont want to live in an rv.

I am 21, she is 19

my mom is very nosey and invades our privacy, always wants to know what were fighting about (not that we fight alot). but its like she wants to know to gossip, and not because she really cares.

HERES THE DEAL...

we are going to be in x-ray school for 2 years. NO JOB.
we will need 1000-1200 a month in school loans to live in a house total expenses.

our tuition is 3000 a semester so its not cheap.

so by the time we graduate we will be in debt 25-30 thousand in debt. EACH.

but the house we will build we can make 10-30 thousand off of in three years. and we will be making 60-80 thousand a year combined.


an apartemant is such a waste ( no equity), an rv, oh no!

its such a big decision!
I enjoy having cash to blow, being able to buy things I want.
and for two years it will be tight budgeting.

I worry about making a bad decision, like will i look back and say man my life would be so much better had I wated to move after graduation.


I feel so unknowlageble about houses, loans, money,realationships(I wish I was a psycholigist so I new why people did things)

I think building this house will help me in these ares.

so what do yall think?

 

is it time to move out?
my gf of 2.5 years has been living with me, at my parents house for a year now.
she wakes up every morning, and goes to her fathers house to shower; this is where her clothes are at.

she really wants out of the house, she dosent care if its a rv!
I shure dont want to live in an rv.

I am 21, she is 19

my mom is very nosey and invades our privacy, always wants to know what were fighting about (not that we fight alot). but its like she wants to know to gossip, and not because she really cares.

HERES THE DEAL...

we are going to be in x-ray school for 2 years. NO JOB.
we will need 1000-1200 a month in school loans to live in a house total expenses.

our tuition is 3000 a semester so its not cheap.

so by the time we graduate we will be in debt 25-30 thousand in debt. EACH.

but the house we will build we can make 10-30 thousand off of in three years. and we will be making 60-80 thousand a year combined.


an apartemant is such a waste ( no equity), an rv, oh no!

its such a big decision!
I enjoy having cash to blow, being able to buy things I want.
and for two years it will be tight budgeting.

I worry about making a bad decision, like will i look back and say man my life would be so much better had I wated to move after graduation.


I feel so unknowlageble about houses, loans, money,realationships(I wish I was a psycholigist so I new why people did things)

I think building this house will help me in these ares.

so what do yall think?

 

Youre young get an apt, specially cause you never what the future may bring. Plus owning a residence will bring on other expenses in terms of upkeep and appliances etc etc.

Also, I wouldnt say 25-30g a person is whole lot of debt for education and living. people go into 100g worth of debt for the 2 year grad program at the school i work at.

 

Holy shit, you're 21 years old man. What's the rush?

And you seem pretty sure that you will marry this girl. You positive about that? And what the hell is she doing living with you in the first place? In your parents house? When she has her own father's house to go to? (where she showers and has her clothes)

Can't you guys do your thing for a while without living with each other? If she's so adamant about moving out, let her go live with her father or whatever. That doesn't mean you have to buy a freakin house, especially at a time like this with your future not quite certain and school up ahead.

I hope I didn't offend you. Just my two cents.

 

a house is the best investment you can do. go for the house.

 

whats the hurry, your a kid.

 

dude..you are way to young to be sweating shit like this.

 

i say u tell your gf to go live w/ her pops

 

And building a house costs mucho bucks...

 

I would go for the house.

 

If mom's letting you....and her....stay, then milk it for all it's worth. Moms are nosey as a rule. I haven't lived at home for more than a decade, and my mother is still nosey as hell.

As a student, the savings in money is invaluable, and worth a little bit of nosey questions from the mom.

Oh, and I don't know a thing about this girl, but based on the fact that she's 19 and goes home every morning to shower and dress, I'm thinking there's something not quite stable with that one. I'd be really careful about giving into her desires for new digs.

If you do move out, get with the apt. until you can be more certain of your financial situation. Yeah, it's largely a waste of money, but it brings far less financial liabilty and has far fewer extra expenses attached to it. Unless you're sure about your level of income, do NOT jump into a house.

 

I can get 1/2 acre fo 25 thousand build a 1300 sq. ft house for 75 80,000.

building alot of it my self, with help from friends, and trading for landscaping.
I could get 130,000 for it. thats what the houses go for in that neighbor hood.

so thats 25-30 thous. there.

 

Solution: Go live with her at her dad's house. Then your rent is still covered, she doesnt have to leave you to go shower in the morning (which is really weird, why does she do that??), and your nosey mom isn't in your business all the time.

But if you cant do that...I suggest renting. Good luck!!

 

living with her dad is not an option, she dislikes her stepmother more than any thing. she hates spending the little time that she does there; running in an grabing somthing, and going home to take showers. when i said she wants out , I meant our own place.
our own home.
we are the type to spend as much time together as possible.
it started, we would fall asleep and she would go home at 2 in the morning, her cerfue. then her dad said go ahead and spend the night, instead of waking up in the middle of the night half asleep to drive home.

why cant she live with me? yeah its at my parents house, thats why she wants our own place, I wouldnt want to live at either of her parents place. especially not for another 2 years.
*I really dont want to get into my moral issues*
but trust me theres nothing wrong with her.

I do feel like a kid sometimes. but why is she being younger than me so much more ready to make this big decision.

if I had the money right this second I would do it. hell yea, a house of my own.
but is it worth it to do it know?
its kind of like Im using my future money know.

but yes life is unpredectible. and I hope i graduate.

 

Bag x-ray school and go to a real college. Live on campus and work thru it all too.


I could never imagine staying at my parents house til I was 21. That woulda driven me fucking nuts. I was out when I was 18 and neva went back.


Good luck kid.

 

if you're going to move out and buy a place...try and save up enough money to do so. At least set that as a primary goal...if you can do it then take the next step and go to a lender get approved...etc...

renting isnt all that bad...especially if you're a student

 

Im in the same situation. living at my bf's parents house.. but i actually took all my shit with me.. my mother and I couldnt live under the same roof anymore.

we havent found a way yet to financially move out on our own and afford school at the same time. So im stuck here for right now. I hate it here.

 

my girl pretty much lives with me, sleeps over every night practically, but goes home in the mornings usually.

kinda seems inefficient... but living together completely would be a big step.

 

X ray school is at real college you get an assoiciates, and its highly competitive to get in. its great for me, great money.
since its in the med field I can travel wheever I want. all living expenses paid for and make 40 an hour. and only sign a 3 month contract.
I could work in cali, hawaii, new york, and florida all in the same year.

we tallked to a mortgage broker today, she said to put as much money in our savings account and in 3-6 months that will show enough proof for qualification for a loan

 

and Im glad to hear someone say that I should have already move out.
instead of stay as long as you can.

 

silvia arent you in nursing?

for me its like were living together, but for our parents and mostly for my moms friends it looks like we arent living together. they could never tell that she spent the night. and theres really no room for all her stuff.

Im glad tht soopa does similar.
I dont think its wierd, just hard on her because it could be alot easier.

 

dude... stay young, dump her and party

 

If you have the money to do that, why are you living at home?

Maybe I'm missing something...

 

Doesn't that fact alone make you a little bit nervous about this situation? I mean, the girl is obviously running away, and she's trying to take you with her.

You may be ready to move out of your parents' house, but are you really ready to move in with your g/f? If you're not sure, then the answer is probably "no," and you should plan your next move very carefully. If moving back home for her is not an option, as you say, then she will follow you. She may even guilt you into letting her move in. She may have started already.


So do I. Good luck!

 

this is also in the dating/relationships section

 

 

I say stay at home and save up as much cash as you can, you have no clue how expensive it's gonna be to live on your own, even w/ those grants.

 

kidnap the broad, sell her to a thai prostitution ring - problems solved.

 

Ok, here is what I did. Join the Military, the Reserves that is. Jopin as an x-ray tech. Let them put you through schooling. Once they train you, you are basically certified across the country as an X-ray tech. They pay you to go to school, train you, and give you a place to live in doing so. You cant be activated till you are trained and your training will be about a year...
Thats my 2 cents. I joined the Reserves 8 years ago now and I love it. They trained me for 9 months and when I was down, walked right into a job and went to college all payed for by the Army..

 

does your girl take it in the butt? this is a must no question before we can proceed.

 

Best Question of the day award!

 

shes just got the itch.
I had it and went to college 300 miles away, guess I got it out my system.
but she hasnt got that chance.

I feel realy stupid woring about what other people think.
people think,were living together and are not married.
who cares what they think though.

my mom says she would feel bad about having her friends to our wedding after two years of living together.
I said well they dont have to come!

I would feel better living together if we were maried.
but we both dont want to get married yet.
well I dont, she probably does, but says she dosent.

 

 

That fuckin sucks man, i wouldn't put my dick in that!

 

btw, you think that's bad, I met my girlfriend on this website and she moved 3,000 miles to live w/ me

 

really? not heard this story.

 

really, she moved out here january 01 and has been out here ever since

 

wait i think i heard about that story

 

c'mon that aint much of a story. wheres the acton, the romance, the drama, the passion, the explosions?!

 

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