I just wanted to say I know that this is an Acura forum. That people here will likely give opinions that I don't agree with or don't like to hear. The point was I wanted to hear that side. Hear none "lifestyle" opinions. It's been too long since I've gotten a normal persons opinion on the matter. Lol

You all have to realize the limb I put myself on just to hear those opinions. Lol

 

Hanging everything on the line for "rules".
You can't really believe that...can you?
Good luck with that!

When emotions get involved, the rules go out the window.

...maybe most marriages should become "swinger marriages" to drive down the divorce rate!

This will not end well.

 

Did you lookup and read some research on the matter? Lol

And yes, this is how boring the drink date with 4, not 3, women is n

 

OK, so you have no problem with an attractive guy sticking his thick rod in your wife's tight pussy? That's cool. Would you be open to her just fucking me?

I'm being serious.

What's the bargain? What do you get, specifically, and what does she get specifically?

 

And where do you draw the line?

What if you're not at a swingers party and she's flirting with a guy (like me), who doesn't particularly care for your relationship and just wants to stick his dick in your wife's box? Sure I might not go out on a limb and communicate the fact that you're not someone I respect, but I wouldn't take your position as one that I need to particularly pay attention to.

What kind of boundaries do you have when it's OK for your wife to be penetrated by another guy? Are the boundaries all about context, and your approval of said context? So she can suck a guy off in a swinger's party, but not in the back of my car? Why? Because you have to also get some too?

Doesn't this lead down the road to an open relationship?

Do you get turned on by seeing your wife swallow multiple loads from men you've never met?

I can see the appeal from a guy's perspective, new vagina is always great. But what exactly do she get out of it?

 

I'm not going to raffle my wife off on acurazine. But sure, if you meet her criteria, by all means. Lol

 

Let me get home, which thank god will be soon, and I'll respond to that.

 

And aren't swingers usually old, fat and/or ugly? There are plenty of images online of what swingers parties look like, and it's not pretty. Except for maybe some select cities like Miami, New York, or Los Angeles, I would be very surprised to find hot girls with options just throwing their pussies around.

 

Something is not right here...

 

Well I wasn't going to pay anything, I didn't get the feeling from your posts that she was a prostitute. No need to auction her off. But let's talk about what she likes. I have pics.

ALSO, I'm curious, who brought this up first? You or her, and how did that conversation start?

 

I don't know, some people are freaks. He could be really into watching his wife take loads from random men.

 

My friend used to live a couple of houses down from a swinger couple. The wife wasn't that young (maybe mid 30s) but she was definitely hot. She was strangely friendly to us while we were in high school.... we didn't get it at first, but my friend's older brother did.


OP, not sure if you'd be okay with your wife just giving the guy down the street a handjob for the hell of it.

 

I, too am wondering about the motivation for this.

I mean, if it's just looking for something new, stick it in the pooper and be done with it.

If HE wants to mess around and this is the "guilt free" way of doing it, be ready to watch some dude fill his wife with man-juice and smack her on the forehead with his rod.

If he wants to watch HER get nailed, and figures this is the most "normal" way to introduce the concept, I will handle it (pending pics) and he will have the best damn 3 minute show of his life (including small talk, foreplay, undressing, dressing, grabbing a snack, some light home repair and the actual :08 seconds of sex).

 

^

 

LMAO Jefford

 

OP, tell your wife to get on here and lets hear her side.

$5 says OP sucks another guys cock before all is said and done.

 

Watch porn, get a fetish going.

Don't let someone put his cock in your wife. If some guy puttimg his cock in your wife doesn't bother you then you need to take a step back and figure out why that is.

 

I suggest that your wife also review the comments and opinions here so that the two of you can discuss them before making a decision.
G/L.

Oh, and my wife has promised to sever my private parts if they should get too close to another female, esp. a hottie.

 

Ok this is an interesting thread.

I'm not exactly sure how I would react to seeing another dude boning my gf, but it would probably end up with me in jail and him in a body bag

If you and your wife's sex life has become so boring to y'all that you intend to fuck other people, isn't that basically just being in an open relationship? Swinging is a complex thing


IDK, OP, it seems like you're heading somewhere to get more than you bargained for. I understand the mutual respect and the safe words and all that other bullshit, but dude, sex involves a lot of emotion. No matter how you twist it. Stupid as it may be, she's gunna find that one dick that really just rocks her world, and it will constantly be on her mind, ESPECIALLY since y'all are each others firsts.

Something has to give here.

 

Dumbest idea on the face of the planet and I'm serious. Extremely ignorant in talking about the rate of divorces and divorces by swinging. Are you serious? I lol'ed.

Sounds like both of you are VERY insecure. Lived your life by the book and have a good life, why the fuck would risk that? Use your head.

 

No not really? And no I think I'll(we'll) pass. Lol

The bargain? I you mean like tradoffs? Tit for tat type stuff? I mean I don't feel comfortable divulging our specifics here but I'll say that I am a pretty open minded individual. It's not about tit for tat at all though.

That could be looked at many ways you know. In one instance you may want someone to respect and act like that. And in one you may just want a fuck and move on. Right? If it's just sex are you still looking for certain "attributes"? You know a ton of women like an asshole, to get used. Not saying I want that for MY wife just that it exists and I don't see anything wrong with it.

I'm not sure I follow on penetration boundaries. Lol. She has her own rules about that I'm sure. That's her choice. Obviously safe sex is a universal rule. Again I didn't intend on divulging too much personal info here.

No? There are a lot of different kinds of swinging. I could write a page about it all. What I brought up here was more of swapping, or an occasional threesome. Basically I'm talking about an activity TOGETHER. We are a team and this is a sport type thing.

Open relationships are not always together. They usually don't even require fair warnings or stories after. It's an open door, 24/7 green light.

What do you mean? I hope she has an amazing time? Lol. What else would either of us hope for each other?

No. It's not swapping housewives in the 60s anymore. Lol

How come? Millions of people do this.

I guess ultimately I brought it up first. Meaning I said the word "swing" first. But the convo was there that night before hand. But we have always teased each other for a long time. How could we not? We know what we skipped. Who doesn't think of those things? So we tease each other. So it wasn't an uncomfortable thing at all.



I have to say I really don't appreciate that.

Why? Are you all saying you've never had one night stands? Whiskey dicked a chick from the club? Was love involved there? Does love have to be involved to have a fun time? Have mind blowing orgasms? I don't think it does. It's when love IS involved it becomes an issue.

Why does our sex life have to be boring to intend on doing this? Lol. In this world, you don't bet until you've got a good hand. You can't do this, imho, without a very solid relationship. These things will only exploit weak areas and amplify issues that are already there. No doubt. Is it complex. More so then people can imagine. Refer open relationship above.


Like I said, this has been 3 well discussed years coming for us. It isn't a fad we just got off tv last week.

And I agree with emotion. That's why we must be very mindful of each other and our feelings and always put us first, #1.

Hey, personally, I hope she does? And she would hope the same for me. She'll say to me "So you get Jennifer Love Hewitt" and I'll say "Ok fine you can have Ryan Gosling". Again, if you're going to play, why wouldn't you go for the best time? I don't want her to be banging fatties or losers... She's a hottie and deserves what she wants. This is a very unselfish, non-jealous activity now...

 

You guys have been spending 3 years discussing this?

Personally mate, I would consider seeking some sort of marriage counseling/group/etc. to talk about this. 3 years deciding if you guys should start swinging with other couples sounds like there might an underlying issue in your relationship.

 

Dude at the very least go read the wiki on swinging. Lol.

http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/swing/body.htm

Is an interesting read.

And I can't believe you would call us insecure. Especially over there typing away in front of that monitor. You don't know us at all.

 

Nah man it's not like we have been debating back and forth solid for three years. Things get said, seeds get planted (no pun), and it progresses naturally. That's the way this usually works, unless you dive in. You'd find most couples that have been together for a long time rarely DIVE in, it's something that just spawns over time. It's a no pressure thing.

 

Can't compare millions, if not billions, to thousands of people. Simple as that.

There is a study I read today where it says Asian people have the biggest brain mass than any other race on the planet and because of that Asian people are the smartest. So I'm right. I'm superior!!!!

Like you said, you will never see any of us. You can be insecure and curious.

 

AZ Gang Bang crew appears.

 

I don't know man, but I would see a counselor beforehand b/c the more you let out in the responses to these guys, the more it seems like there may be an issue within the relationship that's been leading to this. But, again, that's just my view on it & you already have enough guys here giving you their full opinion on it, so I'll leave my own words at this.

 

This IS true. It's hard to compare population statistics with subject groups as far off as that. You have to get a little deeper into the world to see that most swingers are generally happy and have very strong, open, honest marriages.

 

No no, thanks for the post. I assure you, we are rock solid. We just look at the world a little different then most I guess.

 

When I was still single, I was not against threesomes or swinging. But now that I'm married, there's no way either one is going to happen! Let's just say I don't want to take any risk that might jeopardize our relationship. Besides, I cringe just thinking of someone touching me intimately who is not my husband.

I have a friend who has attended several swinger parties with her bf. She said they didn't encounter any problems and didn't feel uncomfortable because they don't know anybody in those parties. But you know what happened later on? The bf asked her to have a threesome with her best friend. This disturbed her because the bf doesn't know the boundaries anymore and unknowingly crossed the forbidden line. Because she consented to swinging, the bf now thinks other doors have opened for him to explore.

So my question to the OP is this: are you and your wife really willing to take the risk of creating problems just to "experience some of the fun" you missed out and "pushing the envelope"? Remember, one can't predict how emotions will fare in this kind of situation... You insisted that you guys don't have a boring sex life, but why has it led to seriously considering swinging unless you are bored with each other? I mean, the only logical reason to swing is to experience sexual pleasure from another partner, right? By the way, how do you see marriage (i.e., sanctity of marriage)?

I dunno... I personally think married couples should stay out of swinging.

 

Whatever floats your boat. Can I be the first guy? 5$ paypal.

 

No disrespect but you really cringe just at the THOUGHT of being with another? I'm sorry, I couldn't imagine not having a sexual imagination and fantasy life.

Well I obviously don't know details, stability, age, etc of that situation, but were boundaries set before hand? If so, it's wrong for him to bring it up for sure. Although all he did was bring it up... not like he cheated. But if they weren't...

No emotions can not be predicted. Love, trust, respect can be. I don't understand why a couple has to have a boring sex life to consider swinging.

And marriage, phew, that could be a long post. In short, I love my wife, and always will. I trust my wife. I respect my wife. She is my best friend and my lover. She will bear my children and we will grow old together. A partner for life, a soul mate. Why do you have to be monogamous for those things to continue to be true?

Lol see to me single/unmarried couples should stay out of swinging.

 

Turbo and I'll see what the wife says. Hahaha :P

 

That just clarified a lot of things for me. Most people, I think, assume that marriage = monogamy.

 

I'm sorry maybe I don't follow. What does it mean then?

Edit: Obviously semantics aside, in our culture, monogamy is an extension of civil and or religious marriage. Correct?

 

My girlfriend/wife would say that you need Viagra.

 

Thanks. I'll take that into careful consideration.

 

I'm blasian.

And I stand by my two quotes.

Once you go black, you never go back.

Once you go Asian, it's amazinnnnn!


Anyways, the best sex in the TL is when the back seat is off.

 

ROFL! My wife would not go for either, sorry. Damn, was already thinking about that turbo. ;o

 

Oh she will.

:wherethefuckarethepicturesofsaidwife:

Did Ohio allow gay marriages already?!