I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years and getting kinda bored. I also came to the conclusion that I probably don't want to marry him in the long run. But I love him very much. So my question is should I break up with him now so I don't waste any more of our time or should I stay and enjoy being with him until one day we break up? Basically, would you stay with someone you loved but couldn't imagine marrying? Sorry if this is similar to another thread...

 

I'd stay as long as you aren't unhappy with the relationship. If you still enjoy being with someone, it's not time wasted.....

 

Let me first say that I stayed with my last gf until I found something better and then left her. Certainly not my normal tactic but I was selfish. It was VERY painful for both of us...for her since she really liked me and for me since she called intentionally when she knew I'd be with the new girl. Initially I had planned to leave the "first" girl and be solo for a while but that is hard to do. There was some overlap and it was a hard time for everyone. The take home message is that after 4 years with the 2nd girl, we are getting married and the other girl has moved on. The right thing to do? Break it off unless you find someone that can put up with calls and the other person showing up to cause issues. Or plan to put up with VERY awkward moments if you keep it until the last minute. :P FWIW, I was in love with the first girl also but there was no way I would marry her after seeing how she dealt with my nephew and money. A great girl but not a great wife FOR ME. I wish her luck.

 

If you are SURE you aren't going to marry this guy in the long run and you do want to get married in the future I say leave before he gets any more attached. Who knows, maybe he is planning to marry you and is going to invest all this time into someone he wont end up with anyway. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind :'(

 

i wouldnt stay. break up and go find one that you would marry

 

If you are bored, you aren't happy IMO.

 

i wouldn't stay either....once you are bored, you will soon be unhappy with the relationship too

 

dont stay, your just hurting him by letting him get more attached

 

end it.

 

hit it one last time for old times sake, then be out like a deaf kid in musical chairs.

 

 

how can u be happy and then be bored? doesnt sound like a good future. i would end it.

 

You have a responsibility to not lead this guy on. Break up or at least tell him you don't ever plan on marrying the guy. Who knows - he might be okay with it or even relieved to know that you aren't expecting him to marry you.

 

OMFG


That's the funniest thing I've read all weekend.....

 

end it. Not doing so will only make things worse

 

Come to NY, Me and some of the buys will show you a good time.

 

I love the guy...I'm in love with him so it's kinda hard to just break things off. It sucks because he's said that he can imagine us getting married. And I'm only bored because we hardly go out anymore. Like not even to the movies. I just turned 21 and am not planning on getting married anytime soon. It's not like I'm looking for a husband right now.

 

If you want to end it but don’t want to be upfront about it then I suggest you do this. 1st take a nice warm yellow piss on his face while he is sleeping and then if he doesn’t wake him up I think you should spray him with some good oll vaginal discharge. This will cause his olfactory receptors to go crazy giving him the ability to realize you are one sick bitch even though you’re probably a hot Latino mama in real life and he will want to break up with you. Now if that doesn’t work I suggest you let me pussy punish you and he can walk in on it then he will want out and your clitoral organ will be so mesmerized you wont know what to do with your fine ass and milked to perfection tatas.

Eat that pussy till the day you die.

The Punisher

 

Excellent advice.

 

Yo girl, if you aren't happy then do both yourselves a favor and end things amicably.

Life is too short to stay with someone that you aren't happy with anymore. It's unfair to both of you, and this is a choice that YOU control! Good luck and keep us posted! ! !

 

I cannot make an informed decision until you post a picture. why you ask, because it will just help me make a more informed decision for you. For example, if you are fine then it will make going out and finding someone new easier than if you are busted. Thats just one reason/example why I need a pic.

That or you can follow the great advice provided by our very own Punisher!

 

I was just in the same situation. I was with my girl for 1 year 11 months, but I knew i wasn't gonna marry her and I was becoming bored and annoyed with her and the relationship. She is a great person and she did nothing wrong, but I just knew I couldn't stay in a relationship that I was no longer 100% happy with. It hurt her tremendously when we broke up but it was necessary it was only fair to her to allow her to go find someone who will love her the way she loved me.

 

I would think to get out while you can !! find the guy you might want to spend the rest of your life with?

 

She's 21. Absolutely NO reason to look for one's life partner at that age. :o

Christ, almighty...y'all need to slow down and enjoy youth.

 

Tell him that you're twenty-one, clueless, and not marriage material. Then nag him about how bored you are. That should solve your relationship problems pretty quickly.

 

Well I'm not a hot Latino mama but a fine Asian female. And I am happy with him just a little bored. Maybe I can't imagine marrying him b/c right now I can't imagine marrying anyone. But I don't want to nag him about doing stuff together. What's a good way to ask him to do more stuff with me?

 

Slob the knob and then ask him what he wants to do! works for me.

 

ya break up with him and get me your phone number! ill make ya happy

 

so whatever happened?!

 

Well I told him that I want to go out more and finally went to the movies. But other than that, it's been pretty much the same. So I said that I needed some time to myself and figure out who I am and what I want. He wasn't that happy with going on a break but I said it would be better for both of us. Maybe it'll make me see how much I miss him. And if it's meant to be then we'll be together. That's where I am now.

 

so you are ON THA MARKET!?!?!?!?!??!


or takin a break from EVERYTHING?

 

Hah depends on the quality of those who might be interested.

 

if you need a break, he ain't the ONE

 

Thats true. IF she was truly happy, she wouldn't be able to spend time away from him. Breaks are basically a nice way of saying, 'we're done'

:o

 

Exactly. Listen to The Punisher and you'll get far.

 

DAMN! that some good freakin advice, by far the best advice i've heard....because it's so true.

 

yup, guys and gals, lets rally around and support her.


Her relationship is going NO where. Life is too short, and the time you spend being 1/2 way happy with someone is time that you could spend being 100% happy with someone else!

 

thank you, thank you


the doctor is in all week

 

I disagree. Sometimes a break is necessary to make you realize how good you have it and teaches you to appreciate your bf/gf. People can need a break just because they're too comfortable in a stagnant relationship. I agree though that sometimes you learn after a break that the person wasn't good for you in the first place.

 

keep the pu$$y away from him, then he'll begin to notice you....