True, but if you havent noticed, that was back on Tuesday and seven pages later. I've changed my thoughts on the matter...

 

No panties bunching here. You wanted advice - some of us fall on the side of keeping a stong marriage, so that's where that advice will come from. I hope your plan works out well, and you and your wife work things out.

 

I've been down your road before. I came to realize that I would rather have a happy marriage than an expensive divorce.

 

Very great advice from everyone...

The only thing I can see here is that Joe is just going to be friends with this co-worker of his. Nothing more (unless the opportunity arises). Now I know that you may take that in the way that it sounds like he might be going to cheat on his wife, but in reality it looks to me like he's setting himself up for something more... What are you planning Joe??? Whatever it is video and pics will be required!

Becoming friends with this lady, he will have very open communication with her to ask her anything as a friend... Especially over drinks. Since he stated that his wife knows all about this woman, this means he has already had a discussion with her about situation pertaining this woman he is attracted to (but won't cheat with her).

Maybe i'm reading way to much into his replies to the advice, but...

he's setting up a 3some!!!

Tell me if i'm right... let us know...

 

No!! THIS woman that he originally posted about does NOT know his wife.. his wife knows OTHER girls in the office that she has met, thus she is ok with him talking to them.. As far as we have been told [unless I missed it], his wife has no idea about this woman he wants to go on a date with..


Edit: As always, video and pics required though.

 

Missed this...

Do you smell what Joe is cooking???

Although going out with your co-workers is fine... (plural) but when you go out with your co-worker (singular) there can be some suspicion risen from the S.O. and other co-workers alike. This can lead to setting a bomb that won't detonate until later...

Wouldn't go out with her either unless its with plural and not singular... makes a whole hell of a difference to woman and men alike as you seen here...

So the question is does his wife know he's going out with this girl in the singular sense of things??? Has he spoken to his S.O. about other woman???

Possibly to personal for us to inquire to expect a response... but we will be waiting for the required video and pics...

 

wow, 5 pages, huh? i'm a little late in joining this thread.

 

.. boy these ads are getting smart!

 

darksom, you seem to have a lot of advice and comments in D&R.

Has all of this happened to you and you're simply not saying so?

 

No, but I've seen and done a lot. Most of the times it hasn't. Only the ones that I depict in my posts. But, I don't know...I think have a soft spot for D&R because a lot of guys don't have proper discernment when it comes to women and life. Sometimes not even me. But they also may not have friends that can help them make the right decisions, and people need that. Why you never see me make threads like this? It's because I've either already learned those lessons at a younger age, I just instinctively make the right decision, or dealt with it already due to trial and error.

Having said that, I may not have the right advice all the time, and someone else will. But I like helping out and I like to talk (that's why I get verbose sometimes in here). I do it in real life, so why not here? My ego is never in my posts when I try to help people. It is only reflected in what I say about me. People pay way too much attention to how I feel about me and not the thread. You will never see me post serious advice to someone and taint it with bs. I keep them separate. So should you. Hope that helps...

In this situation, Joe's dilemma, I just really feel it is basic "don't put yourself in bad positions where things can go awry in a moment". I'm not alone in that obviously. But as I stated earlier about discernment, it is not always readily apparent to everyone. So that's why we respond to these threads...including me.

 

Adding to my sig...

 

One other thing about posting in D&R, and apparently this thread:

Typing emails, text, or posts can be ambiguous to say the least. It is very easy for one person to read something totally different than what the OP intended. I think that should be taken into consideration in responding properly to a post. That happens a lot in D&R. If you are not sure of what the OP meant by their point...simply ask. It creates a lot of ill-will and bad posts when you don't.

 

Even if I said something like that happened, no one would ever believe me. Which it won't

 

Hence the pixnvid

 

LOL...

When I post sometimes, admittedly, I talk like I am talking to one of the boys here in real life. So I may something like I said to you along the lines of "What the fuck are you doing posting that you're thinking of cheating on your wife in an online forum where it can be seen for?". If you are in front of me when I say it, you know I mean no harm, like I'm just smacking you on the back of the head because you gotta be crazy. But if you read it on the computer screen, it may seem like I am insulting you. But I'm not.

Nope, I'm still just the "get up in them guts" dude. I never stand up and look at the computer screen after a post, with my hands on my hips, and a red cape flapping behind me...well...sometimes...

 

Joe i think your in.