me and my girl have been going out for seven months now, and its been a great relationship, shes got pretty much everything i look for in a wife, independant, great in bed, cute as hell, fun to be with, has the same exact plans as me as far as our life after college goes, and plus she makes the bombest sushi in the world

the problem is, shes not into dating casually, so with me shes seeing our relationship as either end it now, or go all the way

my problem is i dont think im ready for that, shit im only 19 and this is my first girlfriend that ive gone out with for this long. we have had a few breakups and arguments, mostly over the fact that she wants to change her life around, become involved in her church, and stop the college lifestyle. im still stuck int he body of an average 19 year old male, i drink, i party, i get into some shit, and it always pisses her off

today we were takling and we could either end it now on good terms, or wait until i fuck up again and end on bad terms. i geuss all arrows point to us ending it now, but i wish there was some way i could run into her in a few years and then finally commit

argh....is there any options at all to salvage this?? i cant be anywhere as serious as her right now, but i love her so fucking much i dotn even want to think abuot letting her go.

 

Too young man... we're the same age. And hell. I can't even begin to think about that level of commitment.

However.. if things are as great as you say they are w/ her...

 

what do you mean by "go all the way" ?

i would consider moving on (ending on good terms) for the simple fact that she wants something you don't.

you're 19 and in college man.............. live it up. if she can't hang she needs to find someone else who she can settle down with.

 

tons of other girls out there... in a couple years he may be a completely different person.

 

Yeah, its hard when the two of you want different things out of the relationship. If you can't give her what she needs right now or anytime in the near future its probably best to end on good terms. Maybe somewhere down the line when your relationship priorities are in sync you'll find each other again.

 

sounds like a nut job.... if shes talking about getting married...if thats the case dump her and run as fast as you can.... your only 19, have fun as you are, and trust me you will be better off.

 

What girl doesnt picture getting married while you date them. I figured every girl was like that.

Will you go crazy if she was out of your life?

If you want to be with her badly then change your lifestyle. Im sure she doesnt want to get married now, she just wants to think she can if she wanted to. Isnt that why we date people anyways.. to find the one to settle with in the DISTANT future. My guess she just doesnt want you wasting her time.

 

Ahhh typical crap that I used to go through. She's trying to convert you and you're going the all the confusion that I dealt with when I was that age. Bottom line is if you're not ready to convert, you're not ready, end of story. Dude, you're only 19 and you're going to do dumb things. I did my share and don't regret it because I'm a way better person at 32 than I was at 19 (At least that's what I think!!).

The point I'm trying to make is that she can't expect for you to make a complete turnaround in little time to save the relationship. She must put in her share of work too. For you to do it alone is totally unfair and if you two are committed to making it work she must have patience AND desire. And in turn you will do little things that will add up and let her know that you are working to make changes in regards to saving the relationship. Remember it takes two to make a relationship work. If you two truly love each other then you BOTH will find a way! Good luck!!

 

yea we tried compromises and what not.....i can only drink twice a week but she still gets mad when i drink.....today we were eating out and i told her we were throwing a going away keg for a homie cus hes leaving for summer school far away....she got hella mad

i geuss were just too different people. im getting tired of worrying abuot pissing her off. and i also look forward to doing whatever the fuck i want and living up my summer.

but still man, this girl is everything i ever wanted in a gf. shes so smart abuot life and we have the exact same lifestyle in mind after colllege. arrrrghhhh.....by letting her go im commiting myself to years of sifting through sluts and whores (cus pretty much all girls are nowadays ahha) to find the right woman again. i told her that when i grow up in a few years and if shes single im going to find her and marry her.

fuck....im getting so fuckin trashed this weekend.

 

o yeah...shes not talking about getting married now. shes looking for someone who she can marry in a few years. i told her i would change by then, but she doesnt see it

when i first started dating this girl she was down with partying and shit, but she turned all straight edge christian on me......FUCK JESUS!!!

 

damn i dont even want to think abuot all the other girls out there.....every girl i know who can get with is either a slut, drunk party whore, or been fucked by someone i know already....why is every girl at my college and in my city a whore?!?!??

 

way too young. 19...Geezus

 

good lord yes...... this is just past the stages of puppy love. Serious relationship, but the first. Needn't be the last. Ending a first love is bittersweet, but the sun continues to rise, and life moves forward.

Liftedoff, she isn't any more mature than you are, perhaps less. You're acutely aware that you're 19, which means you have some capacity for self-awareness, and you're out there doing 19-year old shit. Sounds pretty age-appropriate to me. She sounds like she's trying to nail down her next decade, and doing that at 19 is pretty naieve, IMHO. Of the two of you, I would be so bold as to suggest that, in understanding your age and your interests at this point in time, you have a more thoughtful awareness of life and its stages.

End it nicely, and call her in two years. Maybe by then she will have grown up, and awakened to the improbabilities of life and living. And yes, it will hurt.

 

It's just gonna continue to get worse if you keep living your life, and she gets mad at you for it. I'd say cut it off now and see where she's at in a few years. Who knows, she might realize that you aren't so bad after all and try to compromise, or realize you aren't so bad after all.


Or she could get malicious and turn into one of those "drunk party whore sluts" that you speak of.

 

Do what your heart tells you. Don't "go all the way" with her only because she wants to. She's also young, and some day she may have a change of heart and decides she's no ready. Then you're totally fucked, if I were you, I'd continue my relationship with her, keep partying then see what the next chapter is.

 

Oops. You found a girl who's too good for you. Do not pass go, do not collect $200, skip the good food she makes and go get bombed at some stupidass party with skanky bishes. Have fun and throw up on the neighbor's lawn for good measure!

 

You're 19. I think your life should consist of all the things she wants to take away from you....drinking, etc. I say live a little.

 

And spend the next 15 years trying to find a girl that's as good as she is.
Good idea, AZ brain trust!

 

at age 18, I met a girl who was really into me. She was a good girl, intelligent and gave the world's best BJ. So what? I was young, I had to do what I need to do (drink, party, sex). I then met my girl at 21, and I still haven't missed a thing and don't regret losing that chick at 18.

 

Dump her, she's not worth all the drama right now. You're only 19, you'll meet a lot of people along the way. Bottomline is you can't change the way she is and she can't change you. Best thing to do is go your separate ways and if it happens down the line that you 2 meet and hit it off again you can take it from there. Don't let her stop you from experiancing life and doing what you gotta do.

 

oh btw, which whorish city in the Bay Area are you refering to? Vallejo?

 

 

You two have too different life views and agendas. Commonalities are what make a stable relationship. Not the most exciting ones, but the ones that last. Excitement in a relationship after 6 months usually mean something bad happened.

 

Scottie and I moved in together when he was 19, but we only got married last month.

 

Dude, take your time. Your only 19, there's a world full of women out there waiting to fornicate with you. Don't jump in too early and have regrets. What good is Sushi if you can't stand the bitch making it?

 

I've got one...her name is Jen.


















sorry to break the news Jezzy.

 

Depending on what kinda "good sushi" he's referring

 

Good luck trying to feed her.

 

philladelphia rolls dipped in tempura batter and deep fried

im talking abuot the whole bay in general, every where i go see skanks in mini skirts doing shit that makes me feel sorry for any guy thats gonna marry her

 

That's why a lot of folks do the bay area/socal thing. Which is also why I'm retired.

 

yea i did it today...we mutually agreed that we should break up on good terms

i told her some of the things yall said, she says that she is not dating casually anymore and that she has some church virtues she sticks with. she really hardcore believes in this "meant to be" stuff, and she doesnt see any point in dating a guy longer if she doesnt think its meant to be

 

at 19 and she's not dating casually anymore? shit, sounds like she wants to get married ASAP. I'm pushing 25 next month and I'm not even close to even thinking about that M word. I guess the church has got her brainwashed. Probably for the best though since you guys obviously weren't seeing along the same lines.