PimpCL23

2 weeks ago my girlfriend left to New York for her brothers wedding... the time she was up there, our 1yr anniversary passed. she called whenever she could (which was nice because i know her brother is the over protective type)... she said that she would call me rite before she left new york while she was at the airport and as soon as she arrived back in los angeles. she did call me when she was at the airport in new york waiting to be departed back home. when we spoke i told her "i love you and i hope you have a safe trip back home"... she didnt say anything back to me.. so i said "i love you" one more time in case she didnt hear me with all the comotion going on in the background. then outa no where she said "I HEARD YOU THE FIRST TIME!!!"... i was stunned and my heart sank... didnt know what to make of it.. so i just let it go (thinking that it may be that time of the month again). she was suppose to have arrived back in los angeles on Sunday june 4th at 1:30pm.. no call...2:30... no call

at this point im thinking her flight got delayed er something... so i called. her fone was off... now im thinking her fone died or she forgot to turn it on.

monday goes by.. no call, no txt... even after all of my efforts of trying to get a hold of her.. nothing.

tuesday.... same thing.... im txting her and calling leaving voicemails telling her to telll me that she got back home safely so i could have some kind of peace of mind that shes ok.

wednesday... just as bad as the other days

now today is thursday... and still nothing. i called her mom, she didnt answer either. so i left a voicemail.. no call back to me.

what am i to do... my girl lives up north in fresno while im down here in Los angeles. i dont have any other contact number for anyone else in her family. when ever she is around family she wont call me... only txt me... (her family is really strict). im thinking she may be at her families house for the week until the weekend rolls by so her mom could pick her up.

am i blowing this thing outta proportion by worrying so much?? what should i do? we talk everyday... this is tooo strange for me.

PinkyLV

Sounds like she's moved on...sorry man

edit to add: I only say that because the same thing happened to me once.

s_jack

She is either completely unable to call due to some family stuff or injury or whatever OR she cheated on you in NYC and does not know how to tell you so she is simply ignoring you. If it is the latter, which is more likely, I am sorry but she is very immature.

btsilver

oof! She got kidnapped man. Put in a missing person report.

PimpCL23

i dont get it.. on saturday... she said that she "loved me, missed me, and cant wait to get back home so we could talk like we used to"

im trying not to think of the worst... but what to do?????

dom

Thats my guess.

kurt_bradley

That's terrible to hear. I've kinda been there.

PimpCL23

(i actually am rite now)

kurt_bradley

Sorry man.

dom

Has she ever done this before? (Not call for days)

PimpCL23

all i ever wated to do was to make her happy... we broke up once before.. and i told her (instead of cussing her out which was my original plan) "i hope who ever you end up with treats u at least as half as good as i did and that i just hope youll be happy with him... as long as your happy, im happy.. thats all i ever wanted to do for you"

sasha

Four days since she was supposed to be back and she hasn't called you yet?! Very strange...

If her parents are strict and they have a big influence on her, maybe her parents talked her out of the relationship (how's your relationship with her family?)? Perhaps she simply doesn't want to be with you anymore but she just doesn't have the guts to talk to you yet (have you noticed anything different with her behavior lately)?

dom

The picture is becoming clearer.

PimpCL23

just rite after her brothers wedding... only because she was surrounded by family 24/7... she said she was sorry and i said that it was ok because i knew you were with your family and that you were safe

BEETROOT

should have gone with plan a

Doc.Booty

PimpCL23

im fine (i think) with her mom.. i called for her birthday and mother's day... and she seemed happy as hell that i called for those things...

her behavior: nothing different.. when we spoke, she was happy... this is just so sudden

PimpCL23

LOL... thanks man... i needed a laugh

PimpCL23

if you look at my avatar... that is exactly what i feel like doing to myself...just without the 3 other me's!

PimpCL23

to top it off.. im at work rite now.. trying to dry my tears away and act normal. and in 2 hours i have another job interview! i hope this doesnt affect me when i go!

teg_to_bike

...and there's the problem.

From my experience, girls go a little haywire when a friend or family member gets married or has a child.

They start thinking about their own future...

PillsburyChoboy

Yikes. Been there, done that. I've actually been on both sides of the equation (karmic backlash is a bitch). As difficult as it may be, cut your loses and move on ... you deserve better than this passive-aggressive, cowardly BS.

As a word to the wise, I can almost guarantee you that some time in the future (I'd say 6 months or so), she'll re-initiate contact and try the whole "friend" route. You'll be hit by an emotional flood but be strong ... tell her to F off and go to hell.

sasha

Oh man... really sorry to hear this. Hope you'll find out what really happened!

Now wipe your tears away and focus on your upcoming job interview. Good luck!

gary_william

wow, man, but I think it is safe to say that it is over. try calling her mom, since you said that you are on good terms with her, and make sure that the girl is safe. if you hear nothing in a few days, i support the Missing person's report. But... if she is your girlfriend, why can't you go to her place to see if she has come back yet?

PimpCL23

i told her before that if we broke up that we could never be friends again.. wouldnt want to talk to someone that "pretended" to care about me and then just leave me

moeronn

This doesn't sound good. Hope we're wrong, but it sounds like she is purposely avoiding you so she doesn't have to give you bad news.

PimpCL23

i live in Los angeles, she lives in Fresno... i cant just show up without letting them know im coming. its a new place she moved to.. and the parents dont know that i know the address. (dont wanna piss em off)..

dom

So now that its over, pics?


























j/k

dom

Am I the only one that thinks this is/was a weird relationship?

teg_to_bike

Have Jatt check up on her.

ib Jatt leghumps.

BEETROOT

sounds bizarre

moeronn

IIRC he mentioned before that hisex-gf is of Indian decent (from trinidad/Tobago), so this doesn't sound too out of the ordinary from what I have seen with co-workers. Doesn't sound like the best way to go about a relationship, though.

SakiGT

Sorry to hear

Hopefully shes just being a bitch and everythings alright. Personally, Id call her family and just tell them that you dont care if shes too shy to end things, you just want to make sure shes ok.

Then stop calling.

FastAcura

Is she still in high school?

phipark

How old is she?


Sounds like a typical no call, no show. She basically broke up with you without telling you. She wants the relationship to just dissapear without confrontation.

PimpCL23

naw man... shes in college.. she goes to Fresno State

and her parents are a bit ify about her having a BF but her mom tolerates me i guess.

jlukja

The weekend is coming. Drive to Fresno. You need to know. She's either injured or she needs to tell you to your face whats wrong. You need closure one way or another.

PimpCL23

i was actually thinking of that.

BTW.. i got the job i went for... but im still depressed

jlukja

:gheywave: focus on that.

teg_to_bike

Nice!

Here's to new beginnings!