I always find it hard to turn down a girl asking me out, even though I really have no interest in her... Are other people the same way? I don't know what it is, but I always think that I'm putting them down if I say no... I'm sure its not hard to say that your busy or something, but I never seem to be able to do it...

 

If you're worried about putting her down, you might as well do it up front before saying "yes" and giving her false hope she had a chance. It will be much worse for her if you lead her on.

 

i always do it this way....if a girl asks me to chill or something on a specific date (that i'm no interested in), i say "wait..what date? (as if im thinking if i have any plans)...then im like "oh , damn i cant i have a family dinner" or some BS like that.

 

i guess you just have to get it in you to turn them down cause you are giving them false hope and they could go psycho on you.

 

If a girl ask you out, it really means she wants to fuck! Well if you play it cool and be nice....My rule is if she ask you...She's paying! Just cause we are men don't mean we can do like they do, think of it as free dinner! Because they do it all the time...

 

 

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I'm the type that wont ever let a girl pay so that wont really fly for me

 

Just think, do they ever feel bad when they shoot a guy down? Probably not.

Just be honest with her up front; it's better than leading her on.

 

That's a good point...

 

thats my rule too

 

C'mon, we all know girls don't ask guys out.

 

It's happened a few times actually... Only once was I actually surprised (and delighted) about it.

 

Not that hard to say no.

 

if she looks good, n im single....


turn her n2 a nypho...


dip out... :troutslap

 

if a girl asks you out, she'll probably suck your dick

 

If she's asking, the decision has already been made in her head. I vote, go out with her, hang around for a week for some loving. At the end of the week you still don't like her,

 

It doesn't always mean she wants to fuck. It's happened to me a few times and once I went along with it thinking the same thing and not only did I not get any, but she also went psychobitch when I told her I didn't know where it was going and didn't think we should go out anymore after like 5 dates.

edit: just noticed you're 18... disregard the above - she definitely wants cock.

 

if i have no interest in sexing her, i'd say no. if i have no interest in being with her, but might mess around with her, i'd say yes

 

I'm so glad I can't turn down chicks

 

Just be honest and say no, who cares? You can spend your time dating someone you're actually interested in vs. wasting it on some chick you don't care for.

BTW, it's true...girls don't feel bad rejecting guys.

 

It's too late now, I already said yes... Now I just have to bite the bullet and go through with it...

It shouldn't be that bad... I mean, shes a nice chick, looks good and smells nice, how bad could that be?

 

I agree with the dirty old married man....

 

Well that's good. I think everyone was picturing her as a disgusting pig that can only get dates if she does the asking.

 

Dude, this is a blessing in disguise since most gals will argue that it's against tradition to ask guys out. But in reality, the main reason gals don't ask guys out is very simple ... fear of rejection. Remember that the typical female may fear many things in life but nothing stands next to being flat-out rejected.

As for guys ... dudes get rejected all the time. It's the sperm mentality. We have millions of them and only one breaks through. Essentially, evolution sets us up as perpetual rejects. But we persevere. On the other hand, gals have the single egg mentality. It's always the millions of sperm swimming to it and knocking on its door ... all it has to do is sit there and be functional. Therefore, gals are geared towards just waiting to be approached/asked out.

So a gal showing the willingness to ask guys out is showing a lot of courage. Give her credit since most gals will never even consider it. And if you reject her, who knows if she'll have the courage to ask another dude out again? As a male, you should applaud and reinforce her efforts by going out with her ... not just for your own sake but for the possible gain of some lucky dude (who is actually attracted with her) in the future.

 

I agree...Don't break her egg....

 

:ibtheyhavealotmoreincommonthanherealizedandtheygo outagain:

And great analogy choboy.

 

i never really thought of that. i guess it's right not to turn her down then.

 

Just be sure that if (there is an off chance you'll end up wanting to go on another date) you don't want to date her again that you be honest with her about it. Because that can in itself be damaging to both parties.

 

I was thinking the the same thing

Choboy, that was a great post, thanks for your insight

 

Good thought process man...

 

so when's the date? make sure she's not psycho and man-naps you by throwing you in the basement with the other guys shes asked out.

on the bright side, at least you didn't break her egg.

 

We're going out Saturday. She's never been to Dave and Buster's so I thought I'd show her what that's like. Just because I'm not interested doesn't mean we still have fun

 

that's a good attitude, if all else fails head to the bar multiple times.

oh wait, I just noticed your 18...what's the drinking age there? I remember my Canadian friend saying that you don't have to be 21.

 

Drinking age is 19 in Ontario, 18 in Montreal... and the age to get into D&B's is 21 after 9:00PM, but I went to high school with the hostess and she has no problem letting us in


What I meant was, Just because I'm not interested doesn't mean we can't have fun

 

Last night went surprisingly well

I can tell you though, she's is a totally different person when your out with her alone. Around other people she is shy and quiet, but last night she was talkative (without getting annoying), funny and she loves to laugh (something I love in a girl)... She loved D&B's, wants to go back next weekend

And then she surprised me with tickets to The Fray concert in June, that was a little odd, but I see no reason why we wont be going

 

See, we told you so...

 

Good job! We are glad to hear things went better than expected!

 

Yup, I must admit everybody was right, ended up having a much better time than originally thought...

 

But the question is...Did you introduce the trousersnake to the funbox???

 

Nah,didn't go too far in that department, wasn't trying to either...she does like "smooching" in public though (I'm definitely not as into it as she is)