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Old 06-19-2006, 10:44 PM
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reading comprehension is low in this thread
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Originally Posted by TSX 'R' US
tell her to wake him up with a bj...
See this is a great idea, but I dont think it will work. Cause when im woken up by a bj, i let her finish then go back to sleep.
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See this is a great idea, but I dont think it will work. Cause when im woken up by a bj, i let her finish then go back to sleep.
I was thinking she might learn a little more if he lets her continue or if he tells her to stop since she's allready in the act and not trying to start it...
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Originally Posted by btsilver
See this is a great idea, but I dont think it will work. Cause when im woken up by a bj, i let her finish then go back to sleep.
When I'm awakened in that manner, it only makes me want to return the favor on her even more.
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Have her pull off what that one girl did to the guy in wedding crashers, have her give him an under the table handjob against his will...
Old 06-19-2006, 11:29 PM
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Originally Posted by kurt_bradley
When I'm awakened in that manner, it only makes me want to return the favor on her even more.
Thats nice. i go back to sleep.
Old 06-20-2006, 10:03 AM
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
that's that stupid madonna/whore theory, and it's a bunch of bullshit.
it's not w/o merit though. actually, it sounded pretty good to me. it would explain the whole "wacking off a lot thing." I'm surprised it wasn't brought up earlier.
Old 06-20-2006, 10:14 AM
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Originally Posted by Caliadria
That actually reminds me... he DOES wack off, and that's why she's so confused. If he wasn't wacking off either, then that'd be one thing, obviously a physical problem on his side, but he has a pretty healthy self-love schedule, apparently.

So why would a man suddenly prefer his hand to a warm piece of poontang?

Well, I can kind of relate. It is much easier to jack off than to have sex(no need for foreplay, don't have to sweat, don't have to try and hold it in so she gets hers too, don't have to cuddle, don't have to smell like sex after, etc.)
Maybe she annoys the fuck out of him or something. Sometimes just hearing my gfs voice makes me want to buy another bed and put it on the roof. Perhaps he is just too tired for having sex so he just sees Palmella. Perhaps their sex life isn't very interesting, maybe she should try to spice it up with outfits, toys, different positions, new locations, more people, animals, or whatever floats their boat. '

Then again he could be cheating, maybe he has found a warmer/tighter/better piece of poontang. Or maybe he is just annoyed that she keeps asking for it, nobody likes someone who begs.

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Old 06-20-2006, 10:25 AM
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@ Palmella.

Can't believe I havn't heard that before. As for the advice, he's turning down the impromtu BJ, he's a lost cause.
Old 06-20-2006, 10:28 AM
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As for the advice, he's turning down the impromtu BJ, he's a lost cause.
Suicide may be the only remaining option.
Old 06-20-2006, 10:53 AM
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Originally Posted by dom
@ Palmella.

Can't believe I havn't heard that before. As for the advice, he's turning down the impromtu BJ, he's a lost cause.

I don't know, I find myself turning my GF away from the BJ because sometimes I just don't want one, that doesn't mean that I am not interested in her.
It is retarded, last night she starts to go down on me and i'm like ok. Then she asks me what I want and I tell her I want to "fuck her throat" and I want her to lay down on her back while I straddle her chest with my d!ck in her mouth. So I have her head by her hair and I'm pumping away and about to blow, when she moves her mouth to say something and it shoots up her nose and all over her cheeks. She starts fucking screaming at me blah blah blah about how it is in her hair, how she felt like she was drowning, how she has to wash her hair, etc and she asks me why I didn't stop cumming....i'm thinking DUHHHH, I JUST GOT TO BLOW MY LOAD ON YOUR PRETTY LITTLE FACE, WHY WOULD I STOP????
Anyway, I guess my point is, don't ask to do something if you aren't prepared to handle the consequences.
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@ most of the responses...

He's bored with her!

Its a simple but obvious fact. IMO, most people who get married are NOT compatible with each other. Perhaps the are initially attracted to one another or have a few things in common, but they do not have a good foundation of friendship.

If you don't marry your best friend, your relationship is doomed
Old 06-20-2006, 11:12 AM
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i didnt read through all the posts, but it probably that she is boring and predictable in bed. she needs to get down and dirty and lose all inhibitions. tell her to go crazy on his ass. that will shake up his world!!
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Originally Posted by TallyCL-S
I don't know, I find myself turning my GF away from the BJ because sometimes I just don't want one, that doesn't mean that I am not interested in her.
It is retarded, last night she starts to go down on me and i'm like ok. Then she asks me what I want and I tell her I want to "fuck her throat" and I want her to lay down on her back while I straddle her chest with my d!ck in her mouth. So I have her head by her hair and I'm pumping away and about to blow, when she moves her mouth to say something and it shoots up her nose and all over her cheeks. She starts fucking screaming at me blah blah blah about how it is in her hair, how she felt like she was drowning, how she has to wash her hair, etc and she asks me why I didn't stop cumming....i'm thinking DUHHHH, I JUST GOT TO BLOW MY LOAD ON YOUR PRETTY LITTLE FACE, WHY WOULD I STOP????
Anyway, I guess my point is, don't ask to do something if you aren't prepared to handle the consequences.

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Originally Posted by TallyCL-S
I don't know, I find myself turning my GF away from the BJ because sometimes I just don't want one, that doesn't mean that I am not interested in her.
It is retarded, last night she starts to go down on me and i'm like ok. Then she asks me what I want and I tell her I want to "fuck her throat" and I want her to lay down on her back while I straddle her chest with my d!ck in her mouth. So I have her head by her hair and I'm pumping away and about to blow, when she moves her mouth to say something and it shoots up her nose and all over her cheeks. She starts fucking screaming at me blah blah blah about how it is in her hair, how she felt like she was drowning, how she has to wash her hair, etc and she asks me why I didn't stop cumming....i'm thinking DUHHHH, I JUST GOT TO BLOW MY LOAD ON YOUR PRETTY LITTLE FACE, WHY WOULD I STOP????
Anyway, I guess my point is, don't ask to do something if you aren't prepared to handle the consequences.
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Originally Posted by TallyCL-S
I don't know, I find myself turning my GF away from the BJ because sometimes I just don't want one, that doesn't mean that I am not interested in her.
It is retarded, last night she starts to go down on me and i'm like ok. Then she asks me what I want and I tell her I want to "fuck her throat" and I want her to lay down on her back while I straddle her chest with my d!ck in her mouth. So I have her head by her hair and I'm pumping away and about to blow, when she moves her mouth to say something and it shoots up her nose and all over her cheeks. She starts fucking screaming at me blah blah blah about how it is in her hair, how she felt like she was drowning, how she has to wash her hair, etc and she asks me why I didn't stop cumming....i'm thinking DUHHHH, I JUST GOT TO BLOW MY LOAD ON YOUR PRETTY LITTLE FACE, WHY WOULD I STOP????
Anyway, I guess my point is, don't ask to do something if you aren't prepared to handle the consequences.
Throwing one in as well:
Old 06-20-2006, 01:31 PM
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Sounds like an Andrew Dice Clay bit.
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alrighty then
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He's probably fucking a hot piece of ass for 300 bucks an hour instead of her ass which he sees every damn day.
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She's going to stay at a hotel for a couple of days and see if absence makes his heart grow fonder... she's thinking it's an issue of familiarity breeding contempt. If not, then I dunno what the next steps are... she'll be thinking that over in her lonely room, I suppose. Anybody living in St. Louis willing to "cheer her up"?
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So its that bad. Did she try having the talk with him?

I don't think going to a hotel will solve anything.

and :ibthe: er's.
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So its that bad. Did she try having the talk with him?

I don't think going to a hotel will solve anything.

and :ibthe: er's.
Yeah, it's that bad... she said they had the talk but it didn't really solve anything, no revelations came from it. Going to a hotel won't solve anything, but it will give her an opportunity to clear her head, I think.

And who knows, maybe having her leave for a few days will give him the kick in the ass to recognize whether she's important to him or not. If not, then there's their answer.
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Originally Posted by Caliadria
I don't think he's changed physically. Like I said, she said they've never been like super horndogs, but they did it a few times per week as long as they've been together. This no-sex thing is new, within the past few months, I guess. And it's been gradually getting worse, so she really didn't even recognize it until it was out of control.

I should rephrase the religion thing; he's not super religious, but he does take his marriage vows very seriously; I've known him for a long time and while men are only as faithful as their options, I am pretty sure that his mindset obliterates any options other than her.

Oh, and they're like 25-26.
I for one, TOTALLY agree with this statement because it is TOTALLY possible that that is true ...
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Send zeroday instead. He apparently has no problem with serving another man's lady.
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Originally Posted by Caliadria
Going to a hotel won't solve anything, but it will give her an opportunity to give someone head, I think.
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Originally Posted by ludachrisvt

Not to mention his schedule is now pretty wide open for the next 30 days.
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Originally Posted by ludachrisvt
I for one, TOTALLY agree with this statement because it is TOTALLY possible that that is true ...
It is POSSIBLE. Not PROBABLE or even LIKELY, but POSSIBLE.
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You two put on a show for him and scott, than leave each leave with your own afterwards...Or change it up a bit

From what it sounds like a hotel for a few nights won't accomplish anything except make him sad when he sees his credit card bill. Afterall, hes lived without her(for all intents and purposes) for what, 3 weeks.

The money would be better spent on perkasat or viagra with which to spike his drinks.

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tell him to stop playing poker.
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^Well that could get complicated. Money can buy sex and sex can get you money, so its a catch 22. Actually, I don't think its a catch 22. Anyway, tell her to do it under the table in a casino

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it's clear he doesn't want to cheat on his girlfriend with his wife.
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Meh, he is bored. I am bored with my new GF too. She always wants it and I don't. She gives great head and sometimes I just dont want that. is much better than dealing with her and constant need for extended amounts of foreplay.
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Originally Posted by ludachrisvt
Meh, he is bored. I am bored with my new GF too. She always wants it and I don't. She gives great head and sometimes I just dont want that. is much better than dealing with her and constant need for extended amounts of foreplay.
i feel your pain
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If you say he is religious, maybe she was his first...and even though he didn't like it, had to stay with/marry her.
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maybe he has Peyronie's disease like King Louis XV of France did.
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Originally Posted by Ken1997TL
@ most of the responses...

He's bored with her!

Its a simple but obvious fact. IMO, most people who get married are NOT compatible with each other. Perhaps the are initially attracted to one another or have a few things in common, but they do not have a good foundation of friendship.
I think it's more likely that something else has him preoccupied, and the root problem has nothing directly to do with her. He is shutting her out of whatever it is, so he wants to be left alone. She is hammering on the sex life impact of whatever it is -- but he's not talking to her.

If I recall he is searching for a job, so I'm going to assume he's unemployed and perhaps the job search isn't going so well. That might be enough to be bothering him.

IMHO they need to talk, not fuck.

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Your best friend married the wrong person .

He sounds like he's way too high-strung and stressed out to be married to someone more laid back. From your description it doesn't sound like she's ugly at all.

Turning down a BJ from one's WIFE is retarded! He freaking married her, so what the hell is wrong with getting a BJ from a fairly good looking girl who also happens to be his wife.

I can see a few legitimate reasons for turning down intercourse:

1. Lots of effort
2. Just not in the mood
3. Performance Anxiety


But the only reasons I turned a BJ from someone I was dating was:

1. Sore cock from jerkin it too much.
2. Was drunk or had severe allergies/cold from pollen outside.


That's about it.
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I have been married nine years. It takes a little work sometimes to keep the home fires burnin', but if you keep thing interesting ...
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Originally Posted by ludachrisvt
Meh, he is bored. I am bored with my new GF too. She always wants it and I don't. She gives great head and sometimes I just dont want that. is much better than dealing with her and constant need for extended amounts of foreplay.
How can you turn down head??? Considering that's one of the only ways to put a lid on the for a few minutes. Plus you don't have to do anything, and can say she "sucked" it all out of you and you don't have any energy left for sex.
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Originally Posted by ludachrisvt
Meh, he is bored. I am bored with my new GF too. She always wants it and I don't. She gives great head and sometimes I just dont want that. is much better than dealing with her and constant need for extended amounts of foreplay.


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