i'll try to keep it as short as i can..

i've been goin out with this girl for almost 2 1/2 weeks now...before we dated we hung out a lot for 2 months or so...this is my first serious relationship so i'm not sure when i'm supposed to say it..not saying i know theres no set time but i really do love her and want to say it...just thinking if i should do something special when i say it or just say it.. questions/comments are appreciated..thanks

 

Take your time, let her say it first, and if you feel it, then let her know. The only thing is, if you both have never loved someone then neither of you will know.

 

2 1/2 weeks is pretty damn quick.

 

2.5 weeks??? Holy shit. I would think closer to 6 months. Might want to wait a bit. You might not be actually in love with her, but infatuated.

 

 

2.5 weeks for real love -- stranger things have happened, but I'd take a step back and reassess before telling her.

Tell her if you mean it, but likewise, don't tell her if you don't mean it.

Be ready for the consequences. Women never take the 'love' word lightly.

Off the top of my head, she'll respond in one of four ways:
1) She'll be excited, feels the same way, and will latch on to you forever despite what you think of her a week from now.

2) She'll be excited, feels the same way, and you'll start a long term relationship. Who knows what lies ahead? Marriage? Friendship? Breaking up in a year?

3) She'll be pissed because she just thought your were dating, having fun, and being friends. She'll dump you because this has now become too serious for her.

4) She'll be confused and will become very weird because she wants to continue to stay with you, but doesn't really feel love herself.





I decided that I loved my wife after about a month of rather intense dating, but I don't think I told her for another month because I was not sure if the feeling wasn't mutual. I don't know about you, but I think most men find women hard to read and impossible to predict. After living with one for more then a decade, I'm still trying to figure things out.

 

Yeah.

 

Once you figure her out and write a book, you will never work again.

I have never been able to read women, people in general seem to be easy, but women are just impossible.

 

damn talk about love at first site.

 

Could have been love at first touch....but who knows...

 

love at first fcuk, happens to me all the time

 

Not saying you are immature or anything, but you are young. You need to experience more time with her or even more relationships before you really know what love is. Love is Respect, A willingness to compromise yourself for the sake of the relationship, and many other feelings and emotions. Just give it some time like others have said. Try to protect your heart at all costs until you are VERY certain this is the one.

Good Luck!

 

I can't tell a girl I love her unless I'm damn near positive it's mutual...

 

Allow yourself to get past the lust and passion of meeting and being with a girl before you finally convince yourself you are in love with her. You are more than likely in love with the feeling of being with her, which is awesome. But allow the initial giddiness to wear off before busting out with the L word. Just my take on the matter.

 

i thought i loved my girl within a couple weeks of dating but i just wanted to make sure, i've said i love you in a stupid relationship after a couple weeks but to be honest you gotta be sure. It took me 3 months to actually tell her.

 

You don't love her, you're infatuated.

You're only 20 you don't have the capacity to love like that yet, you haven't fucked enough sluts, messed over enough good girls, and gotten your head twisted around and heart stomped by enough bitches to know what love is.

 

You need to wait. The right time and place will make itself apparent. There's no specific formula.

Say it now and you run the risk of scaring her off.

Good Luck.

 

It took my current boyfriend almost a year to tell me he loved me. And I still am shy about telling him that I love him back. Then again, he's 4 years older than me and has been around the block a few times.

 

god damm that is so tru preach on preacher

 

slow down homey, 2.5 weeks aint nothin

 

My ex gf told me she loved me after about 2.5 weeks and we dated for 3.5 years. We really did love each other, but things didn't work out between us. Long distance relationships at diff. schools suck.

 

lep - i told my gf last week, and it was on our 1 year anniversary. Glad she was patient with me, but I wanted to make sure she was worth me opening up like that

 

who cares...just say it...it wont cost you a dime

Besides, it'll get you laid more often

Chicks dig that kinda sentimental shit. Hell, i say it so much i dont even know what the meaning of the word is anymore. It gets to the point where its just common everyday language.

 

Sleazy... sentimental, but oh so classy.

-otherwise, 2.5 weeks is an extremely short time to throw that word around... in my honest opinion.

 

I don't know about you, but I think most men find women hard to read and impossible to predict. After living with one for more then a decade, I'm still trying to figure things out. [/QUOTE]



you can say that a few more times. better take it easy, you're playing with live explosives here. chicks are tough business for us and you gotta breathe deep and take it easy.

S

 

Not the most eloquent, but I completely agree here...Myself, Im finally at the point where I have experienced super high highs and desparate lows...It was in these times (especially the lows) that I realized what it is I am looking for and who is good for me.

2 weeks is still lust....Actually I am in the same situation right now...If I didn't know better I would say its love, but I know better....If I feel the same way after seeing all sides of this so far beautiful girl Im w/ then Ill say Love

 

except for 1 girl i have never told them i loved them, because i didn't. i dont think that something you should lie about...

kinda sux when they say that they love you and you can't say "me too". then it gets awkward... eh oh well.

 

I disagree because I think a 20 year is capable of love and I don't think you have to fuck so many women and get stomped on before you know. I've been dating my wife since I was 19 and nine years later I still love her. I didn't realize I really loved her until a couple of months (when I told her) into the relationship. before then I hadn't been stomped on, dissed yes but never "heart broken".

On the other hand I did have a couple girls tell me they loved me. Now that shit was awkward because I didn't feel the same way. One was younger than me and another was older. I remember the first time I heard it all I could say was "yeah, me too?!" I think the younger one was closer to meaning it because to this day we are still friends. We just went separate ways when I went to college and then she moved to Cali.

 

WAIT.

and don't make her say it first.
wait until at least 2 months.... preferably 4.

at this point, it's just lust. trust me.

 

make her say it first........you can't be a bitch

 

Your situation is rare, you are lucky and I commend you.

Most guys I know who married their HS/college sweet hearts are getting divorced right about now and mourning the fact that CHSUP will be appearing on their pay stubs for the better part of the next decade or two.

I stand by my statement.

 

-I have a friend who would say: "uhh..... okay. thanks." When his friend would say it to him. Chics apparently can throw the words around pretty carelessly too.

 

The last time a girl told me that, I said, thanks. She was upset that I didn't reciprocate, but I just didn't feel that way. Don't say anything to freak her out, she may like you but not love you, give it some more time.

 

I hear that. Sucks about child support but honestly I'd hope to be able to raise my child regardless of marital status. CHSUP would suck if you aren't there to see them grow up!

 

All this on a car site..

 

just say it than

 

just say it then

 

so not true. love knows no age. whether 2 people are mature enough to handle it is another story, but everyone is capable of loving at any time.

but i still think you should give it more than a couple weeks to figure out your feelings..

 

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Kumar

 

Love is a tricky thing. You are in the same boat we all are at such a young age, feelings are very intense, and you haven't had them before. Stay cool, relax, go with the flow and keep your mouth shut for a while, if it's really love, trust me, you will know it soon enough. Give it some time.