Hey Everyone....Well, for the past 5.5 years (1/4 of my life) I was dating my girlfriend. Two days ago, I pretty much broke it off because of complications. (shes been lying to me...i found out things from friends)
Her and I arnt really talking anymore, and I guess I just feel lost.

Yes, im only 20, but you guys have to understand that I dated this girl since then end of 8th grade, until now, my Sophmore yr in College. For the past 5 yrs, all ive ever known in life is her and I. And now that were no longer together, I somewhat feel lost...or alone. Im sure some of you that have experienced long relationships will understand how im feeling.

I mean, for the past 5 years, when I was upset, I could call her. When I needed help, she was there....Im just sooo use to her being around and me and her together, spending time together...and now, its just me.

I guess Im asking for your help. This was my first and only serious relationship. I've never experienced anything from any other girl....and I guess, im just scared.
All my friends can go to bars, talk to girls, get their #'s....I've been outta the game for soo long...Im afarid to step back in. I dont know how, or what to do!

The breakup is a little easier for me, just because I was the victim...I was lied to and hurt, so its easier to me to get upset @ her, and not get depressed.

Can you guys help me? Just give me advice? What do I do now?? I'm just ending something that was "all I ever knew for the past 5 yrs."
If you guys could give me some help, some advice on what I can/should do now...that would help. Especially those of you who've been in my situation with a failed long relationship...and around the same age.

Thanks... -CJ

 

I didn't read any of your post, but you are 20 and single..... Boo Hoo...

 

let me sum it up for you....

Been dating MY ONLY girlfriend for the past 5 yrs. (since I was 15)
Ive never dated anyone else, and Im not sure how to....How do I get back in the game, because i honestly dont have any "game." All my friends can go out and pick up girls and stuff...Ive never had to experience this until now. What do I do? How do I get back into the game? How can I gain my confidence back towards myself & picking up girls?? Ive never had to do this before. I guess I need your guys help.

Ive been in a relationship my whole "dating life" and now that im not, and im single...what do i do?

 

Fly to FLorida and we can go to a bar. I hope u have a fake.


Me and my GF broke up exactly 4 weeks ago after about 3 years. Ever morning I still feel empty. She was the better half of me and to be honest with you bro I am trying to stay strong but I cant. I actually broke down yesterday. Hang in there bro. I know theres alot of people on this forum that I supportive.

Check out my theard its like 3 or 4 down

"God I hate this Feeling" one

 

Get over your breakup, don't worry about "game" and don't try to hook up.

 

don't try, just be yourself and start a convo. but hang in there, u'll get over her once u find someone else.

 

Thanks DND...I know its going to be hard.

And Whiskers...lol...Your telling me to "dont hook up"...but in reality...i havnt gotten ANYTHING in 3 months....Im really needing a girl right now...lol..my hand is going to start hurting...

 

When I was single, I found that if I was looking, nothing happened. Girls pickup on men on the hunt. Just have fun and girls will flock to you.

 

Ah Ha!....Thanks Whiskers. So basically if im "trying" girls will notice and I will be trying too hard. Basically I need to be myself, and not actually "try" to find/get girls...and they will actually notice me?

Oh...BTW:....for those of you who lift weights...(i havnt been able to lately because of surgery) How fast can I get ripped abs and defined pec's? lol...because I need to gain more muscle. (which I actually found out is a motivator when your single...working out and looking better is easy to do when your single, because that motivated you.

 

Just whip it out.

 

Dont worry so much. I've been were you are now. I dated this girl for 7 yrs. She was my first seriuos relationship. She broke it off with me, we had complications in our relationship. It was depressing not having her in my life anymore. It took some time to heal from it. What I did was hang out with my friends a lot. Going out to movies, clubs, bars,etc.. 6-7 months later I found someone new at a club. Just give it some time, you are still young so you have plenty of years ahead to find someone new in your life.Be strong man

 

Thanks for the help guys....and to think, I was planning on purposing to her in another 1.5-2 yrs....Its funny how all of then sudden, you wake up one day, and your life does a 180, and things you thought would always be there, arnt anymore.

I know the major thing is to keep myself busy with school/work/workingout/hangin w/ friends...etc.

 

Whatever you gotta do. Tomorrow's another day.

 

Whiskers is a wise man.

 

 

 

 

It's a good idea to try to keep yourself busy like you said. I wouldnt worry about girls either. Like Whiskers said,......you'll meet someone when you are not trying to meet someone. It always seems to happen that way. Things suck now and it hurts, but it will get better with time. Besides,.....you are at college or University now right,..........enjoy it,...and dont worry about meeting ppl.

I feel for ya dude.

 

Ummm...you started dating her in 8th grade until now and you make a comment that you're out of the game now??? Were you ever in the game at the ripe age of 12???? I'm thinking you just go slow and utilize your friends. They have friends that they can introduce you to. I've never liked trying to pick up girls at the bars, but dating friends of friends have worked out nice since you can get some inside info on the person beforehand.

Good Luck!

 

basically thats what i was tryin to say...i was never "in the dating game"...all of my friends are use to it & good @ it...That why i said i donno what to do now...lol..because ive never been in the dating game....ive never really been offically single before.

 

You and me both. I totally dont know how to approach women, and I also moved to a new town this semester where I dont know a single soul.

 

i guess i can be part of this, i have no clue on how to approach women and all that, but i guess you guys are better off than me being you guys actually had a gf before.

 

im just an exception to everything i guess, the times i do try, nothing, the times i dont try and dont care, nothing.. ehh whatever

 

I haven't really been in the dating scene either, and I'm 28. I'm just pathetic.

 

Betcha we can both go to 30.

 

ok, You're 20, your single, and free now.

Stop being a little pussy find some new bitches. If you have no game, drop 250 bucks get a quality escort and call it a day.

Just remember your ex is a whore and don't look back, she's an ex for a reason.

Please don't be a pussy about the break up

 

Hang with your buddies and time will heal. I think you need to be on your own for at least 6 months to give yourself a break. But keep trying to hook up if only for a single date.

Hang in there!

 

the original poster dated a girl since she hit puberty and wonders why it didn't work out.

Do you see the irony?

 

what exactly did she lie about?