Random encounters
10-09-2009, 02:20 PM
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an asshole from florida
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Random encounters
So how would you randomly approach a woman that you just see on the street or in school? I keep wussing out in approaching this girl that i see on campus everyday. I just dont feel confident enough since i really cant think of anything to really break the ice
10-09-2009, 03:37 PM
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True advice though. The best conversation starter is "Hello."
Where do you see her at? You can ask her "What are you taking, I always see you at..." Then tie it in to you somehow. If you have a genuine interest in whatever she is studying, say so. If you don't, then say something nice about it based on what you know.
Don't, under any circumstances, outright lie or feign interest though.
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10-09-2009, 04:51 PM
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Well, "Hi" would break the ice. 
Just start a casual conversation... Say stuff like: You're on your way to class....you think you've seen her around before - does she take classes in the same building? What is she taking? Etc... Build it from there. You can even make it a short convo so it ends on a good vibe, and then you have somewhere to start if you see her again another day. A short conversation that ends well will leave her with a good impression (perhaps pondering if she'll see you again) compared to a long, drawn out convo that ends awkwardly because you don't know what to say anymore. Skip any cheesy pick up lines and don't try too hard to be over the top -- just talk to her as you would anyone else.
Just start a casual conversation... Say stuff like: You're on your way to class....you think you've seen her around before - does she take classes in the same building? What is she taking? Etc... Build it from there. You can even make it a short convo so it ends on a good vibe, and then you have somewhere to start if you see her again another day. A short conversation that ends well will leave her with a good impression (perhaps pondering if she'll see you again) compared to a long, drawn out convo that ends awkwardly because you don't know what to say anymore. Skip any cheesy pick up lines and don't try too hard to be over the top -- just talk to her as you would anyone else.
10-09-2009, 05:10 PM
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10-09-2009, 07:57 PM
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well, "hi" would break the ice.
just start a casual conversation... Say stuff like: You're on your way to class....you think you've seen her around before - does she take classes in the same building? What is she taking? Etc... Build it from there. You can even make it a short convo so it ends on a good vibe, and then you have somewhere to start if you see her again another day. A short conversation that ends well will leave her with a good impression (perhaps pondering if she'll see you again) compared to a long, drawn out convo that ends awkwardly because you don't know what to say anymore. Skip any cheesy pick up lines and don't try too hard to be over the top -- just talk to her as you would anyone else.
just start a casual conversation... Say stuff like: You're on your way to class....you think you've seen her around before - does she take classes in the same building? What is she taking? Etc... Build it from there. You can even make it a short convo so it ends on a good vibe, and then you have somewhere to start if you see her again another day. A short conversation that ends well will leave her with a good impression (perhaps pondering if she'll see you again) compared to a long, drawn out convo that ends awkwardly because you don't know what to say anymore. Skip any cheesy pick up lines and don't try too hard to be over the top -- just talk to her as you would anyone else.
10-10-2009, 12:48 AM
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If they are at parties - ask if they are in your class. If they are on the street - if they are window shopping or looking at a car, say something that relates to what they are looking at.
10-10-2009, 08:01 AM
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You're in college - you should have this down. Like street spirit says, those are pretty much the standard openers in college. There's a list of things you've already got in common because you're there - these are all starting points to a conversation. What classes she's taking, what's her major, etc. Once you get her attention sometime after the first encounter and the timing is right to "hey do you want to meet up for lunch after class?", you can take it from there. Even if she can't, it'll show you're interested.
10-10-2009, 10:25 AM
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And the more you wait and agonize whether or not to do something, the greater the likelihood that you'll eventually do nothing.
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10-10-2009, 02:32 PM
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"Excuse me, hi, my name is ____________, and this may sound kind of random, but would you like to grab a cup of coffee with me?"
if answer is yes: find nearest coffee shop.
if not: "alright. Take care then."
Simple. straight forward. Don't need to get fancy. Nothing gained, nothing lost like Dom said.
if answer is yes: find nearest coffee shop.
if not: "alright. Take care then."
Simple. straight forward. Don't need to get fancy. Nothing gained, nothing lost like Dom said.
10-10-2009, 06:15 PM
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which girl? the one that ive had problems with and has countlessly blamed me for dumb nonsense, if thats the one then i dont think i need to go any further explaining what happened hahaha
but yeah ive always been bad with approaching the ladies. ive always met girls through mutual friends
but yeah ive always been bad with approaching the ladies. ive always met girls through mutual friends
10-10-2009, 08:04 PM
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I'm just finally beginning to talk/hit on other girls for the first time in like a year. Gah.
10-11-2009, 10:28 AM
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which girl? the one that ive had problems with and has countlessly blamed me for dumb nonsense, if thats the one then i dont think i need to go any further explaining what happened hahaha
but yeah ive always been bad with approaching the ladies. ive always met girls through mutual friends
but yeah ive always been bad with approaching the ladies. ive always met girls through mutual friends
she was pretty though, but if she had to go, then she had to go......
btw. thats your angle..... befriend one of her friends and you're in.
theres plenty of pretty women
10-11-2009, 10:49 PM
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I always see cute chicks at work, but i only get like 5 seconds to talk with them, im a cashier. So its hella hard for me.
but some real good advice here about starting something from nothing. give it a shot, i may just say fudge it cause theres not much you can lose.
but some real good advice here about starting something from nothing. give it a shot, i may just say fudge it cause theres not much you can lose.
10-13-2009, 12:28 AM
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First, I must ask, did she at least looked at you regardless of where you're at? Did she smile or give a look " you scare me"?
Women will sometimes give cues for men to come without saying anything, it's for us men to figure out which cues. Here's a couple for you and hope it helps.
- If she's on the cell phone, forget about it...bottom line.
- If she looks at you, smile and pulls her hair over one of her ears, just go over and give her a compliment but be honest about it. Women's hearing is more acute than men and can tell by the pitch in your voice.
- If you're in line and she is behind you and start gingling keys, not like santa trying to get money at walmart. Ever notice they usually have about two to three keys and a bunch of other stuff on it? Hmmm.
- If she is in front of you and she already checked you out and like what she see, she will give that look over to the left or right. Look at her eyes when she does this... is she looking at something else or using her periferal vision to see if you're checking her out. Go in on this one trust me it works!
- If she "lightly brushes against you" its like saying "talk to me idiot". Do so.
Ladies, I didn't intend to offend any of you and I apologize if I did. Just from noticing a few body language they gave off and acting on them, I've usually tell them one or two compliments and they usually give me their number without asking for it. No I'm not a playa or anything, just respect them as well. Either they will say yes or no in a polite way. At the least you gained a friend who could possibly have more friends and give you kudos. Good luck!
Women will sometimes give cues for men to come without saying anything, it's for us men to figure out which cues. Here's a couple for you and hope it helps.
- If she's on the cell phone, forget about it...bottom line.
- If she looks at you, smile and pulls her hair over one of her ears, just go over and give her a compliment but be honest about it. Women's hearing is more acute than men and can tell by the pitch in your voice.
- If you're in line and she is behind you and start gingling keys, not like santa trying to get money at walmart. Ever notice they usually have about two to three keys and a bunch of other stuff on it? Hmmm.
- If she is in front of you and she already checked you out and like what she see, she will give that look over to the left or right. Look at her eyes when she does this... is she looking at something else or using her periferal vision to see if you're checking her out. Go in on this one trust me it works!
- If she "lightly brushes against you" its like saying "talk to me idiot". Do so.
Ladies, I didn't intend to offend any of you and I apologize if I did. Just from noticing a few body language they gave off and acting on them, I've usually tell them one or two compliments and they usually give me their number without asking for it. No I'm not a playa or anything, just respect them as well. Either they will say yes or no in a polite way. At the least you gained a friend who could possibly have more friends and give you kudos. Good luck!
10-13-2009, 12:31 PM
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First, I must ask, did she at least looked at you regardless of where you're at? Did she smile or give a look " you scare me"?
Women will sometimes give cues for men to come without saying anything, it's for us men to figure out which cues. Here's a couple for you and hope it helps.
- If she's on the cell phone, forget about it...bottom line.
- If she looks at you, smile and pulls her hair over one of her ears, just go over and give her a compliment but be honest about it. Women's hearing is more acute than men and can tell by the pitch in your voice.
- If you're in line and she is behind you and start gingling keys, not like santa trying to get money at walmart. Ever notice they usually have about two to three keys and a bunch of other stuff on it? Hmmm.
- If she is in front of you and she already checked you out and like what she see, she will give that look over to the left or right. Look at her eyes when she does this... is she looking at something else or using her periferal vision to see if you're checking her out. Go in on this one trust me it works!
- If she "lightly brushes against you" its like saying "talk to me idiot". Do so.
Ladies, I didn't intend to offend any of you and I apologize if I did. Just from noticing a few body language they gave off and acting on them, I've usually tell them one or two compliments and they usually give me their number without asking for it. No I'm not a playa or anything, just respect them as well. Either they will say yes or no in a polite way. At the least you gained a friend who could possibly have more friends and give you kudos. Good luck!
Women will sometimes give cues for men to come without saying anything, it's for us men to figure out which cues. Here's a couple for you and hope it helps.
- If she's on the cell phone, forget about it...bottom line.
- If she looks at you, smile and pulls her hair over one of her ears, just go over and give her a compliment but be honest about it. Women's hearing is more acute than men and can tell by the pitch in your voice.
- If you're in line and she is behind you and start gingling keys, not like santa trying to get money at walmart. Ever notice they usually have about two to three keys and a bunch of other stuff on it? Hmmm.
- If she is in front of you and she already checked you out and like what she see, she will give that look over to the left or right. Look at her eyes when she does this... is she looking at something else or using her periferal vision to see if you're checking her out. Go in on this one trust me it works!
- If she "lightly brushes against you" its like saying "talk to me idiot". Do so.
Ladies, I didn't intend to offend any of you and I apologize if I did. Just from noticing a few body language they gave off and acting on them, I've usually tell them one or two compliments and they usually give me their number without asking for it. No I'm not a playa or anything, just respect them as well. Either they will say yes or no in a polite way. At the least you gained a friend who could possibly have more friends and give you kudos. Good luck!
The same thought was just going through my head.
10-13-2009, 03:38 PM
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You just have to get out there and talk to her. The longer you wait gives someone else who won't wuss out talk to her. Women know all the cheesy lines because they talk about it with their friends. Be honest. If your heart is racing and you're stumbling for words, tell her. Some women like the fact a guy actually tell them something like that. Guarantee you'll get a smile when you tell her that. Overall be honest from the get go. None of the typical BS she get approached and hear everyday. Since you're in college, don't get caught up on just trying to talk to her. I'm positive some over lady wants to holla at you and you probably ignored the cues she gave you, read above my previous post here.
10-13-2009, 03:40 PM
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10-14-2009, 01:39 AM
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No problem. I'm a bit surprised none of the lady members here haven't chimed in on this yet.
Here's another tip for you. If she looks at you from afar, meaning if the two of you have direct contact and she looks at you directly for more than the usuall glance... she's waiting for you to make the first move. Women always do things in a subtle/discreet way.
Here's another tip for you. If she looks at you from afar, meaning if the two of you have direct contact and she looks at you directly for more than the usuall glance... she's waiting for you to make the first move. Women always do things in a subtle/discreet way.
10-14-2009, 03:12 AM
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Just don't do this.