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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 07:01 PM
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Question about truth/virginity.

Alright folks, there is a good chance at this tonight, but I don't want to jinx it. (knock on wood) I have done everything else, but its been a long time (like 8 months or more) since I last had someone other than myself touch....well...myself...down there...

The last time this girl I plan on seeing tonight hung out, it would have happened, but she ended up having a little too much to drink. Long story short, I think tonight is a good chance for it, she's coming over to my place to party, and she will likely end up staying here for the night. The place is already clean yadda yadda, what I want to know is...if it does happen, do I mention that its my frist time, or do I mention that it has been a long time since my last bit of head, or do I just STFU and think of baseball?

Any advice is welcome.

If I get a chance, I'll bust out the phone and try to snap a pic early in the evening, since I know this is coming...

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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 07:10 PM
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just STFU and go with the flow. You wont be able to get it up if you think too much about it.


Good luck btw. Oh and have you two talked about having sex before? Just wondering why you assume she will give it up right away.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 07:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
just STFU and go with the flow. You wont be able to get it up if you think too much about it.


Good luck btw. Oh and have you two talked about having sex before? Just wondering why you assume she will give it up right away.

We have not yet, no, BUT the last 3 times we have hung out on weekends, I ended up spending the night at her place, in her bed. By the way things were going the last time, I think it would have just progressed from what we were doing.

Maybe we could talk about it, I just don't know if she is the type of girl that would want to talk about those types of things. It just seems like it would go there, maybe its a feeling, maybe its something else, I do know that she is still into me, (see my keeping the mystery alive thread)

Also, during some of our nights spent together, she has 'grabbed', but never made good on those actions, if you know what I mean.

Thanks for the well wishes.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 07:21 PM
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Alright folks, there is a good chance at this tonight, but I don't want to jinx it. (knock on wood) I have done everything else, but its been a long time (like 8 months or more) since I last had someone other than myself touch....well...myself...down there...
Couldnt think of a more appropriate line comming out of Utah.

In all seriousness, think of baseball. Better yet, think of getting beaned in the nuts if you want it to last longer Utah's last trip to the playoffs. IMO you shouldnt feel obligated to tell her its your first time, or has been a long time etc. That kind of conversation will only add to the awkwardness you may already feel in your first time at bat. (ok, no more sports analogies)

You want to make her and this situation as comfortable as possible so dont feel obligated to corrupt it with unneccessary honesty. IMO, its your responsibility to give your virginity to the right person, not their responisbility to take it from the right person. So the only obligation you really have is to yourself. ie: if this is the big one, make sure your ready as you will remember this day for the rest of your life.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 07:57 PM
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dont talk about it, just go with the flow.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 08:30 PM
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zip it and hit it
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 08:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
just STFU and go with the flow. You wont be able to get it up if you think too much about it.
haha, yeah, don't worry too much or you won't be able to ge tit up. happened to me a few nights ago, but after a alittle "self motivation" I got ready adn got to it.

She has since been back.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 09:48 PM
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Getting it up should be no problem...or else I'll punch it Family Guy style

"wake up damnit!!"
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 09:59 PM
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good luck gilla but just go with what happens and dont stress over it.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 10:09 PM
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Originally Posted by UNCTYPE-S
zip it and hit it
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 10:27 PM
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i suggest you talk about it briefly and make sure it's what you both want.. is she a virgin too? because that does make a difference.

but then again, this is a girl's perspective, guys usually just wanna jump right in.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 11:10 PM
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
i suggest you talk about it briefly and make sure it's what you both want.. is she a virgin too? because that does make a difference.

but then again, this is a girl's perspective, guys usually just wanna jump right in.
He is the virgin.
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Old Nov 12, 2004 | 11:23 PM
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Originally Posted by thatguy
He is the virgin.
Superglossy has a point though...She may be the big V too...that'd be a twist, huh.

let's see how things go & hope he does well. for Gilgamashizzle.
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 12:23 AM
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Shes a virgin, but in a fucking drunken stupor, I just noe said something that 3will kep me from ever getting wither her...that I dislke her,...WAT is wrong with me.!!! FUCKL IW ANNA DIE
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 12:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Gilgamesh
Shes a virgin, but in a fucking drunken stupor, I just noe said something that 3will kep me from ever getting wither her...that I dislke her,...WAT is wrong with me.!!! FUCKL IW ANNA DIE

Dude... maybe you should post when you are sober enough to type...
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 12:37 AM
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Dude... maybe you should post when you are sober enough to type...
LOL

As others have mentioned, go with the flow and try not to think about it. Try not to bust too early...I did that my very first time like an idiot. Now, I can pretty much control whenever I want to bust. Anyhow, thinking of something else during the 'festivities' can help somewhat...but not a shit load, you know what I mean? You must remember, when it comes to sex, EVERYTHING is mental my friend. Just keep it cool, and good luck
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 12:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Dem1K
LOL

As others have mentioned, go with the flow and try not to think about it. Try not to bust too early...I did that my very first time like an idiot. Now, I can pretty much control whenever I want to bust. Anyhow, thinking of something else during the 'festivities' can help somewhat...but not a shit load, you know what I mean? You must remember, when it comes to sex, EVERYTHING is mental my friend. Just keep it cool, and good luck
You might be too late with the advice, Dem1k... It sounds like he already screwed it up
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 12:57 AM
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Fuck...I meant to say she's not a virgin...but ah...I think it may be ok...

Hopefully the last drunk post...
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 12:57 AM
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...yeah, true

For some reason I didn't catch on. Hopefully nothing too bad happened man. Get back to us when your eyes regain focus.

EDIT: so what happened?
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 01:22 AM
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 02:18 AM
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Jager mang.g......and Killians holy shit am I plastered...

High life mang...
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 02:21 AM
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so did you get your dick wet? And i aint talking about pissing on yourself .
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 03:06 AM
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I want a status report!











BTW, I hope you're too busy to let us know until tomorrow sometime LATE
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 03:36 AM
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We're stil partyin....I'll let oyu know
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 03:37 AM
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 03:44 AM
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 10:45 AM
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we need update and also picture to proof it.
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 11:33 AM
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ack, if she's not a virgin, then don't tell her you are.

and don't be timid about it. just stick it in there so she doesn't know you don't have any experience.
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 11:34 AM
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I say watch porn and learn. Doesn't hurt to be a pro the first time.
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 12:44 PM
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Originally Posted by supermegaglossy
ack, if she's not a virgin, then don't tell her you are.

and don't be timid about it. just stick it in there so she doesn't know you don't have any experience.

oh my gosh, this little child is quite the agressive one.

Between the pulling your hair and wanting to be fucked hard.
The guy you met with your group
And now this little tidbit of information to just stick it in

I'm starting to get a clearer picture here, you mam have a freaky side.
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 01:33 PM
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 03:25 PM
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Originally Posted by circuitcah
Dude... maybe you should post when you are sober enough to type...




but seriously, have confidence and it'll happen naturally. just try not to scare her off with ackwardness
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 03:34 PM
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So what happened? Update?
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 04:41 PM
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yea seriously...you got me all antsy
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by Gilgamesh
We're stil partyin....I'll let oyu know


That's ACL dedication!!!







BTW... What the fuck happened???
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 05:58 PM
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Ohhhh GOD was the end of the evening rough and this morning as well. Though the interim was SWEET

Things went great, and I stopped where they naturally did, which was me getting a handy, and my fingers getting all wet.

After about 2.5 hours of that stuff, we both kinda got tired and crashed, but I'm happy with where things ended, she is the type to take it slow, and I don't mind that at all.

And Eric, you of all people should know...ACL is high up on the prioritites list for me.

Now, for tonight, its back into loser mode...Halo 2 party

Unless of course I get some phone calls or maybe a text
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 05:59 PM
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Originally Posted by Gilgamesh
Unless of course I get some phone calls or maybe a text
Good Luck
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 06:00 PM
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Originally Posted by mystikk
I say watch porn and learn. Doesn't hurt to be a pro the first time.

I watch lotsa porn...

Based on her breathing rhythms...I muast have at least made her a little happy...not a lot happy mind you, but a little. Though I have lotsa practice at that from my mormon years... :P
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 06:55 PM
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im a virgin too, no shame. im not waiting for the right girl. though i would prefer for it to be someone i have interest in as opposed to a drunk fuck
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Old Nov 13, 2004 | 07:01 PM
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Now, for tonight, its back into loser mode...Halo 2 party
Ouch. Really, you're shunned by both sides of the fence there: Nobody cool likes video games, and none of the hardcore gamers think Halo is worth 2 shits. You're going to be laughed at by both sides.
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