Process to get engaged?
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Originally Posted by Whiskers
Can you make that run smile run faster?
Originally Posted by Street Spirit
For Dan's health, safety, and sanity, I think he's probably opting to stay out of the rest of this thread 
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Originally Posted by moeronn
- Talking to the mom is a good idea.
- Talking to the siblings isn't the greatest idea (especially talking to the twin sister)
- engagement of about 12 months is usually good.
As NSX mentioned, make sure you know what the woman wants/likes. Perhaps do some window shopping with her while running other errands. Tell her you want to look at watches or something then follow her as she gravitates to the diamonds
Good luck.
- Talking to the siblings isn't the greatest idea (especially talking to the twin sister)
- engagement of about 12 months is usually good.
As NSX mentioned, make sure you know what the woman wants/likes. Perhaps do some window shopping with her while running other errands. Tell her you want to look at watches or something then follow her as she gravitates to the diamonds
Good luck.
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Originally Posted by cTLgo
yeah where in Chicago!?
I am thinking of going to James & Williams in Berwyn, IL. My family has used them for over 35 years and we have a good relationship with them. I can get some money off the ring that way too.
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Originally Posted by jlukja
We were engaged for about 14 months. We spent the first few months just enjoying being engaged and then got into the wedding planning.
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Originally Posted by bgsm1th
I'm in a very similar situation, been with my gf for 3.5 years.
Just last week, I asked my gf's Dad to meet me for dinner (I had his cell #) and said I would love to have her mom there as well if she'd like to join us, knowing that he knew what this was all about...
Well, I took them out for a very nice dinner, talked with the front desk to make SURE that the bill was put on my credit card before it even reached the table so as to avoid the awkard "I'll pay", "no, I'll pay" deal...Asked for their blessing and it was easy as pie. Defintely a way to win points with your future in-laws.
Just last week, I asked my gf's Dad to meet me for dinner (I had his cell #) and said I would love to have her mom there as well if she'd like to join us, knowing that he knew what this was all about...
Well, I took them out for a very nice dinner, talked with the front desk to make SURE that the bill was put on my credit card before it even reached the table so as to avoid the awkard "I'll pay", "no, I'll pay" deal...Asked for their blessing and it was easy as pie. Defintely a way to win points with your future in-laws.
I'll be planning that soon with her mom, but probably in about 2 months. I have to order the ring soon.
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Originally Posted by soopa
My jeweler (Scrib's jeweler actually) got me the ring I wanted + custom setting in about 3 days.
Originally Posted by Street Spirit
What's the name of the jeweler?
And to Scrib: How did you come to find this jeweler?
And to Scrib: How did you come to find this jeweler?
Originally Posted by cTLgo
yeah where in Chicago!?
Originally Posted by RyanDe680
+1
I am thinking of going to James & Williams in Berwyn, IL. My family has used them for over 35 years and we have a good relationship with them. I can get some money off the ring that way too.
I am thinking of going to James & Williams in Berwyn, IL. My family has used them for over 35 years and we have a good relationship with them. I can get some money off the ring that way too.
Soopa? Scrib?
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Originally Posted by RyanDe680
How far in advance before the proposal did you guys talk to the parent(s)?
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Originally Posted by Street Spirit
We pretty much knew from Day 1 that we would end up marrying, so it's never been much of a secret or surprise to anyone close to us.
Although Dan did let on how he felt about you when he came to meet Adam.
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Originally Posted by Astroboy
Even i knew, and I don't think i've seen you since the Woodbine meet
Although Dan did let on how he felt about you when he came to meet Adam.
Although Dan did let on how he felt about you when he came to meet Adam.
You've seen me twice since Woodbine! Everything Dan told people after the Woodbine Meet was not known to me... We didn't even meet up again until August, although we'd been chatting online a lot.
I remember being so excited about checking out his "camera"
(okay, no really, it was his camera) since he brought a DigiSLR to the Meet and I was still using film.
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Originally Posted by crazymjb
Why can't chicks just want an engagement car, something that actually is useful(my grandmother just got a 40K 2 karat diamond, this was after she decided 10s were too big, no joke. Whiskey. Tango. Foxtrot. This is why I wan't to mary a race car driver, I 'd rather not spend my money on a rock that is spontaneously decomposing into graphite. end rant)
I'd "ask" her mother first, not the siblings.
Congradulations and good luck,
Mike
I'd "ask" her mother first, not the siblings.
Congradulations and good luck,
Mike
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Originally Posted by SilviaGTO
I completely agree with you. Automobiles are much wiser investments, they dont lose their value at all and they will be in the same great condition years later as when they rolled off the factory line.
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oh that question. My husband didnt ask my parents.
But women arent good at keeping secrets, so If you dont want your gf knowing, dont mention it to the mom until close before you pop the question.
Seriously. Its not hard. ask the mom for the blessing a couple days in advance, pop the ring, pop the question
But women arent good at keeping secrets, so If you dont want your gf knowing, dont mention it to the mom until close before you pop the question.
Seriously. Its not hard. ask the mom for the blessing a couple days in advance, pop the ring, pop the question
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From: Chicago Burbs
Originally Posted by RyanDe680
How far in advance before the proposal did you guys talk to the parent(s)?
I would just the week of before asking. You already know her mom will say yes so whats the big deal.
Give her as little time to not be able to tell her daughter. IMO
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
No one is helping him with his question he just asked.
It probably wasn't so much a surprise to them, as it was excitement that it was happening now. They already knew it was set to happen sometime before the end of the year anyway.
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Originally Posted by RyanDe680
How far in advance before the proposal did you guys talk to the parent(s)?
So unless you're planning on including her mom in on the process, a couple of days will more than suffice.
Just make sure you know the kind of ring she wants. We were in the same boat you are, in thinking that this is going to be the only ring. That way she'll be excited to be engaged and happy with the ring she gets to wear for the rest of her life.
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Well, I am planning the engagement for October 28th. My girlfriend is running the marathon on October 22nd, or else I would have done it this weekend.
I mentioned dinner to her mom this weekend and why, and her mom was super excited. She was very, very happy and cried too, but all this was while my girlfriend was downstairs, so I had to cut it short.
Her mom and I are going to dinner tomorrow evening to go over some of the details and also I need her help for the brunch that I am planning the day after for her family and mine.
I mentioned dinner to her mom this weekend and why, and her mom was super excited. She was very, very happy and cried too, but all this was while my girlfriend was downstairs, so I had to cut it short.
Her mom and I are going to dinner tomorrow evening to go over some of the details and also I need her help for the brunch that I am planning the day after for her family and mine.
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Originally Posted by RyanDe680
Her mom and I are going to dinner tomorrow evening to go over some of the details and also I need her help for the brunch that I am planning the day after for her family and mine.
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From: Chicago
Originally Posted by RyanDe680
Well, I am planning the engagement for October 28th. My girlfriend is running the marathon on October 22nd, or else I would have done it this weekend.
I mentioned dinner to her mom this weekend and why, and her mom was super excited. She was very, very happy and cried too, but all this was while my girlfriend was downstairs, so I had to cut it short.
Her mom and I are going to dinner tomorrow evening to go over some of the details and also I need her help for the brunch that I am planning the day after for her family and mine.
I mentioned dinner to her mom this weekend and why, and her mom was super excited. She was very, very happy and cried too, but all this was while my girlfriend was downstairs, so I had to cut it short.
Her mom and I are going to dinner tomorrow evening to go over some of the details and also I need her help for the brunch that I am planning the day after for her family and mine.
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