Ok - so here is the story. One of my friends - I have known him for 8 or so years. He was dating this girl for about 3 years - they brokeup about 6 months ago. He started dating a new girl, but apparently he was screwing his ex-gf also the last few weeks. Well - she is pregnant now - she doesn't want an abortion, but will probably have one anyways. He doesn't want to tell the ex gf.

I know all three - and have been friends all three for a long time. The pregnant girl and the guy want me to be in the middle of it - I want to have no part of their stupidity here. I am more concerned about the current GF because she has no clue whats going on - and I am her friend also.

Should I stay out of it completely - or what?
TIA

 

This post hurts my brain, re-read and edit please.

 

stay out of it. it's not your business nor should it be. send them to springer.

 

There is a lot of math here, but I think you are really "the friend".....

 

yeah i had to read it 4 times to figure out exactly what was going on.

 

Okay...wait. His ex-GF is preggers and does not want an abortion. She will have one anyways...

But, he doesn't want to tell her about it that she's pregnant and wants an abortion?

 

Ha. Sorry guys.

1. Guy
2. Ex-gf
3. current gf
4. Me

The guy screwed the ex-gf and got her pregnant. The current GF has no idea whats going on.

I am friends with the all three of them. I assume I should stay out of the entire thing? That is my point from all the rambling in my first post.

 

Is this chinese arithmetic?? That really hurt

 

Well, you should tell your friend that he's an idiot for cheating on his current GF with his ex. And honestly, what CAN you do even if you got involved other than an absolute mess of a situation?

Try to be a good friend to lend an ear to any of the involved I suppose...but, I don't think there's much you can do. The only one who's innocent in this situation probably is the Person #3 (and possibly Person #2 if she had no idea that Person #1 has a GF)...

 

stay as far away from it as possible. why should you be in the middle? did you fuck one of them too?

the only concern of yours should be the current gf if she is one of your friends, she's the one who's going to get hurt. the other two need to take care of the responsibility they just created.

 

gotcha...clearly you should adopt the child and raise it as a jehovah witness.

 

I did tell him that he's an idiot. I told him multiple times actually.

The only one that is innocent is person 3, the current gf. The ex-gf knew about the current gf.

 

I didn't do any of the fucking here. I guess I am worried about the current GF. Should I just let her find out when she does or should I flat out tell her?

 

lol

 

1+2 = 5 (baby) ^ 3 - 4 = True

 

Okay then...so, really, you can only lend a sympathetic ear to Person #3 if she ever found out. The rest are idiots and kinda had this coming to them.

You should tell Idiot #1 that he should tell Person #3...he owes her that.

 

 

I have done that. He still refuses saying "I don't want to lose what I have with her (the current gf)"

This morning he told the ex-gf "Don't tell anybody because I don't want the current gf to find out" That was pretty stupid and selfish IMO.

 

You idiot. You forgot to work in pi into your equation...

 

Oof. Well, stay out of it. Opening your mouth and telling Person #3 is just going to make your life suddenly complicated...

The best you can do is continue to try to get Idiot #1 to grow up and own up to his cheating ways...

 

Kudos to you for using paragraphs in a D&R post

 

The current girlfriend will find out somehow, and it doesn't have to be anytime soon. He is going to screw it up either way, may as well do it sooner than later. She's wonder what else he has lied about, why he has done it, and will leave him anyway.

 

He bf should tell the gf, now rather than have her find out later. There is no way this will stay under wraps forever and the relationship is now doomed.

One question you're going to need to ask yourself is which friend(s) you care about more and don't want to lose. You have been put into this situation and will eventually need to choose sides.

 

the only issue is that when the new gf finds out, and she founds out you knew earlier, you're going to get shit for that.

just gotta decide for yourself if you care about her enough to let her in on this secret, even though that may get you in trouble with the other two.

 

of course the ex got pregnant. She wanted him back. Probably told him she was on the pill and wasn't. Sucker.

 

Well, it depends on where your allegiance is? Are you a really good friend of the current gf, or are you more of a friend to the fuck-up guy?

 

I'd stay plenty far away from this. Act like you never knew. Messed up situation though. Definitely one for Springer.

 

stay out of it. sounds like your friend is getting all the ass there. be a sport and take one off his hands.

 

And oh: of the girls involved...!!!

 

sucks to be your friend.

Oh, and stay as far away from this as possible.

 

Stay out of it.....walk away.

 

if this isn't your problem, why make it your problem?

 

Your gonna lose a friend no matter what you do.
If you dont tell the GF then she is gonna get mad at you for not telling her and in turn wont let him hang out with you if they stay together.
If you tell his GF then your gonna lose him as a friend. So since you know, its really a no win situation.

 

According to Dr. Dre, this is called a "keep a n**** baby"

 

Nope. They are stupider than that - she was never on the pill. He assumed that oh, well she didn't get pregnant the last three years why would hse now.

 

Yeah, I guess as everybody else says - it ocmes down to this. I guess I could always tell the current gf and just say make sure you didn't hear it from me. The desi community spreads rumors like wildfire.

 

Your Friend should have the balls to tell his current GF whats going on.. after all if the EX decides to have the baby, he is going to be fucked anyways... Personally i'd stay out of it, its not your problem

 

Dont do it.....just stay out and act stupid.

 

Sounds good to me. Thanks everybody.

 

yeah man just stay out. Talk to your boy and the 2 girls, well just avoid them.

Like doop said, your boy got owned by the "i'm on the pill"

He has officially LOST