Okay, so I have a long distnace gf....i'm a senior at Rice U in Houston, and she goes to school in the northeast. Lately i've been getting a little bored of the regular crowd here at school, and there's this freshman girl who is pretty cool who i hang out with. Its completely platonic, first cause im not a cheater and second i'm really not attracted to her. but shes fun to hang out with...like today she was the only one i could convince to go to the baseball game with me and i didnt just want to go by myself.

anyways, if you're in this sort of situation and you hang out with the girl a bunch, you cross this platonic line....like everyone assumes you're togehter or cheating on your girlfriend, and you find yourslef leaving out who you went to things with in your convos with your gf becuase she'll most likely think that something's wrong. That's fucked up. Why can't i just enjoy chilling with someone without the bullshit? It's kinda like this situation in a Curb your Enthusiasm episode where Larry's manager called a platonic friend who was a girl at 2 am when his wife was out of town. When his wife, after seeing that the call was made at 2 am, asked whose number was on the long distance bill, he asked larry to say he did it. Even though nothing was up, he still didnt want to tell his wife becuase he crossed the platonic line.

All i'm saying is that sucks. doea anyone else feel this way, or am i being :ghey:?

 

well, i think this is quite normal...

women tend to feel jealous/insecure about situations like this...even though there may be no harm intended, but from all the women that i've spoken to, or hung out with, tend to feel the same way...however, there are some girls that are kewl with this type of situation...they don't mind/care....

you just really have to ask yourself how you feel for both of those girls...you have a girl in the north east, who you don't see that often, so it does get quite difficult because it's fun to just go hang out with your girl, but in your case, you can't do that...and this new girl is there so you do have the opportunity to go with someone...

i've been in a long distance relationship for like 3 years and it's tough....really tough...in the end, it didn't work out, but i know what you are going through...you really need to ask yourself whether you want to continue the long distance relationship, because trust me, now that i look back upon my life, i tell myself that "gosh, i wasted sooooo much time by being in that long distance relationship...i could have done soo much more with my life if i was not committed...(not fuck around with other girls, but maybe go to another country to study there or go travel more often)...

so you really need to sit down and ask yourself several questions as to where this long distance relationship is going...becuase if this new girl is fun to hang out with, then there is some attraction...whether you admit it or not...it's there lol...otherwise you wouldn't be posting something like that here hahahaha...but it's kewl...it's human nature...but you need to make a decision...

also, do you know whether your girl in the north east encounters similar situations? does she hang out with guys? is she telling u about it / not telling you about it? consider that also....two-way street in everything....

 

spending time with a TRG, are you?

 

she tends to hang out with other guys, but as far as I know it's not consistantly with one person. This is my second long-distance relationship. I still did stuff like go abroad and whatnot...i try not to let it hold me back. But yes, long distnace sucks, and its really hard. But i think that in my scenario it's totaly worth it. Plus this semester i'll be seeing her a lot, so that helps. I'm just worried about the next two years becuase i have a job in houston. I guess i'll just take it one step at a time

 

If you know shes worth it stick with her I'm in a long distance relationship now also and my bf tends to hang out with chicks pretty often as well. It helps that I have met them and its not really a one on one situation, but it does involve trust.

Most of the time when a woman gets insecure about her man hanging out with another female its irrational. Not saying all the time because sometimes there really is something to worry about, but most times there is really no reason to worry. It could also involve jealousy since she is not the one there having fun with you. I know I've been jealous on occasion but its not because I don't trust him, its because I'm not the one there with him.

IMO its probably best to be open with your gf about your friendship with this chick so she knows whats going on. Problems usually start when there is a lack of communication and she has to start piecing things together for herself, such who the voice in the background always is. Or why you don't answer your phone when you're hanging with some mystery person. I'm sure she wouldn't mind that you made a new friend and wanted to hang with her often as FRIENDS, nothing romantic involved. Now if you had a history with this chick, that would be another situation. Good luck!

 

If you're a senior, wgaf about what others think. There ought to be any number of places on campus where you can hang without causing a scandal, and even if you do, so what? You know what's going on, so does the young frosh, and that's all that matters

I have several adult friendships with women, including a coworker who was, untill recently, unmarried. I suppose people talked, but I really don't care. When she did get engaged to an incredibly nice young man, my wife and I threw them a champagne and caviar coctail reception.............

Ric, for whom a reference to Rice brings back fond memories of the monsoon season, the migratory birds and the frog population, along with the efforts to place a pumpkin on the head of WR in the quadrangle on Halloween.

 

with ric, :whocares: what other people think. Some of my closest friends are female and my gf has no problems with me hanging out with them and she doesn't care if people say things either since she knows I'm loyal to her. As long as you and your gf understand the situation, there shouldn't be any issues.

 

most of my friends have always been females. my gf has never had a issue with it. and i dont have a problem telling her i went out with a female friend. at the end of the day its all about the trust.

BTW, i hate RICE U. i lost lots of money cus they didnt cover the other day

 

Your g/f is getting stuck by some other dude...might as well get you some with this broad.