I have this friend who visits me once a year from New York (when he is in HI on vacation, he doesn't come especially for me or anything). Last year we went to dinner and he said he'd pick up the check and I told him that I'd pick it up the next time around. So this year he comes back to HI with his gf and contacts me asking me to buy him and his girl a steak. First of all I thought it was rude that he called me to bring up the subject of money, he could have at least waited until I offered to take him out which I would have, and then goes ahead and says that I have to buy him AND his girl a steak. The last time I checked he didn't invite my man to come have dinner with us or pay for him, so why should this time include an extra person?

I am not a stingy person by nature, but the way he went about it was just plain rude. I never gave him confirmation that I'd pay for his gf at dinner, nor did I imply I would. We somehow ended up going to dinner and when the check came it was really awkward. He grabs the check and then looks at me and goes, are you going to get this? In front of his gf and my friend. Before I can answer he asks if he should get it, obviously making a big deal out of the situation. My friend steps in and suggests that we half it, so I get my friend and myself and he gets his girl, problem solved. It wasn't the classiest way to handle it I know, but there was no way in hell I was going to pick up the entire check after being treated so rudely.

Anyway, after that sends me this email about how he thinks I should have handled the situation better and how we looked stupid in front of his girl. He also brought up the fact that I spend insane amounts of money on clothings, purses, etc but can't buy him and his gf a steak. I thought that would be the end of it but he has sent a few more emails/394839483 IMs basically trying to rehash the situation. And today he called 5x in a row and left 4 messages telling me he'd be in town soon and if I want to take him to dinner Its been almost 2 months since that happened, shouldnt this bastard have let it go by now? Am I taking the situation too lightly?

 

He should be killed.

 

Sounds like an assclown who has a little bit of crazy going on. Give him the cash next time you see him for the amount of your first dinner and tell him that's it.

 

holy fuck.........I can't STAND cheap-asses. Get him a few drinks, Seduce him into having sex with you, videotape it, and send it to his girlfriend. What a peice of shit.

 

He'd probably charge her for making the video, or call complaining he didn't get paid to do it, because he is such a cheap SOB.

 

Wow. He has no shame at all. Social graces do encourage paying for a guest's dinner if he's from out of town visiting you. But for him not to wait for your offer and to actually demand it is very tactless.

 

post his number so all of us can ask him to take us out to dinner

 

His name isn't George Costanza by any chance?

 

he sounds like an asshat

 

What a cheap bastard! This idiot wants to impress his girl by having you pay?

 

you already know my feelings on this Noriko.

I still think you should tell him to blow it out his ass.

 

what a dick. tell him to stop being such a cheap ass and pay for his own date. If you pay then she better be dining at the Y later that night to pay you back.

Is there a reason he is still your friend?

 

Thanks for the feedback everyone I have no idea what his problem is. Ever since I figured out about a month and a half ago that he wouldn't let it go, I've just been ignoring him. So now he is angry that I'm ignoring him AND that I didn't pay for dinner. I've pretty much told him all that I needed to tell him about why it went down that way, but he just doesn't get it.

Whats sad is that he even got some people to CALL my cell phone harassing me. At first I didn't know it was him, but then I got some IMs of the same nature directly related to him. I got a new cell/new # yesterday and he obviously isn't getting it, but I just wonder what made him take this thing so seriously? I guess it is just the fact that he is a greedy cheap bastard

 

Man, that guy has the worst manners i have ever seen.... and how is this guy going to bring up something that happened a year ago....???? When you said that you'd pick up the tab the next time, any normal guy (your dating or not) should just dismiss this as just a conversation filler.... that guy actually took you seriously???? That guy probably programmed that shit in his PDA and had it alert him on the debt.... what a :ghey: ass.....

And then he calls you and harrasses you about it?? and he tells you that you made him look bad in front of his girl; man, his girl should be embarrased for him.... if it was me and I was your friend and I went out with you and my girl, I would pick up the tab for all ya'll.... that makes me look like a baller.... your friend has issues and oh yeah, he is cheap.....

 

that guy really is an asshole...good for you geisha for ignoring him and not taking him and his girl to dinner

 

fuck that shit. don't pay!! that is SO rude, esp since it was "uninvited" and presumptuous of him to expect his gf is part of the deal.

LAME... tell him to get a clue. you're not a doormat, you're a friend, and if he's not going to respect your friendship, then screw him.

 

you should have told him to meet you some place far and hard to get to so he ehtier spends a shitload in a cab or gets lost and then dont show up.... cheap bastereds must

 

she's on an island, it can't be THAT far...

 

Hahahahah.

 

shitty thing was I had to pick the bastard up too!

 

Anyone who travels from NYC to Hawaii once a year with his g/f can afford to buy his own fucking steak.

If he doesn't like it, tell him

 

He sounds like a schmuck who has no idea of courtesy or etiquette involving money.

You sound like you havent bothered standing up for yourself and telling him what you typed here.

 

did

 

damn geisha some people are just naturally assholes if i ever drop into Hawaii Steak and Shrimp is on the Snaps

 

awwwww

 

tell him to go fuck himself and never talk to you again. End of story.

 

The guy is an idiot, you don't get into arguments or hold grudges with "friends" over a dinner check. He shouldn't have even expected it in the first friggin place, much less be mad when you declined to pay for him and his woman. He was the one that looked stupid in front of his girl not you.

 

damn he should be buying you dinner for picking him up! thats what i usually do with my friends, you save money on the cab fare but you buy the friend that picked you up dinner!!!!

what a cheap fing ahole!!!

 

That guy is a jerk.


Don't girls like jerks?

 

That's pretty f-u-c-k-e-d up. First things first, men should never "ask" a woman to pay for dinner, let alone buy dinner for him and his woman, call me old fashioned. You have every right to be pissed off and ignore his cheap ass. Second, who the hell actually remembers a year later a conversation about who's turn it is to buy dinner, what a fuking geek for even keeping tabs. When my friends and I go out for dim sum we each take turns paying for the whole group, and no one ever keeps tabs. Let me reiterate......WHAT A CHEAP BASTARD!

Hey Chad, we're taking this girl out to Fogo De Chao and have all you can eat steak if she ever comes to Houston.

 

BTW, if he had friends harrasing you, I think its only fair that you return the favor. I say post that cheap, pathetic bastards number on here. I bet you within the hour 50 cl-ers are on the horn asking this fuk to buy dinner. That would be some funny shit, but you know what they say..........


PAYBACK IS A BITCH!

 

Oh mos def, we gotta show her how real men treat women over here in H-Town.

 

i'd call and fuck with him. I say we do that, who's in?

 

he's stealing my original idea :ripped:

 

If she looking to buy dinner, I'm sure a few of us would go with her!

 

Not stealing your idea bro. Just reiterating it and supporting it.

 

damn i dont get it when girls think it's ok for them to pay. i'm not down with that. whenever i take out my girl, i have always paid, and her friends too. i'm 16 so i dont have a ton of money to waste on dinner and clothes etc, but she's worth it. guys who dont pay are fucking losers, and that guy can even offord a trip to HI

 

how much did he pay last time? I can understand depending on how much it was last time. IF it's less than $100 then eh can fuck off.

 

It was > $100. I don't really think it was the amount that made the difference though since he doesn't have a money shortage and we always go to classy places together. Its not like he offered to pay and then I took him to the most expensive place in town, it was a normal place and he offered only when the check came.

On a positive note the calls are stopping, probably because I got a new phone/number. He used to call my old phone almost daily and leave messages, but he didn't yesterday I hope he is finally getting the message.

 

sounds like an idiot.... just tell him your busy and lose his number....

yeah... hes a nutcase....

drop that shyt...

kumar