View Poll Results: who would you rather ask out?
the "old fashioned" girl who lets you do all the calling
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the "modern" girl who calls you without any reservation
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old fashioned girls or modern day sluts?
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old fashioned girls or modern day sluts?
I've had some heated debates with my so called "christian" friend about girls who are "old fashioned" and girls who are considered modern and "slutty". My buddy feels that girls who call guys are just sluts with no self respect, while the "old fashioned" girls who let guys do all the calling, are more respectable nice girls. I told him he has it the other way around because if a girl feels that she's too good to call you, she's just plain rude, but if a girl can pick up the phone and call you, she shows confidence. What's your opinion? You already know my stance on this matter. In reality, a girl who never calls guys can be the biggest slut out there or she can be a virgin who's never even kissed a guy, and the girl who calls guys can be the nicest person or the biggest ho. Phone calls don't make the person a slut, but a lack of calls does make the person rude in my opinion, so the girl who calls gets my vote every time.
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Well, it seems like I'm an old fashoned guy, which really blows in a college setting, I mean I'd love to meet a nice slut to hang out with ( ), but it seems like that isn't going to happen any time soon.
That being said, I like a girl to call. I get tired of calling every single time.
That being said, I like a girl to call. I get tired of calling every single time.
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I look at it this way, if a girl is gonna be old fashioned and shy, she should be OFAS all the time. These fake "old fashioned" girls have enough balls to ask you to call, even begging at times, yet they don't have the courage to pick up the phone and call guys? We've all heard the expression, if you can dish it out, you should be able to take it. Well if a girl can ask me for a phone call, she can do the calling as well.
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I voted modern day girl.... I like it when a woman asks me out
I don't really think it has anything to do with whether the girl puts out (slutty) or not. It has more to do with their personality (being foward or shy). Shy girls can be slutty too...
I don't really think it has anything to do with whether the girl puts out (slutty) or not. It has more to do with their personality (being foward or shy). Shy girls can be slutty too...
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Originally Posted by GreenMonster
I voted modern day girl.... I like it when a woman asks me out
I don't really think it has anything to do with whether the girl puts out (slutty) or not. It has more to do with their personality (being foward or shy). Shy girls can be slutty too...
I don't really think it has anything to do with whether the girl puts out (slutty) or not. It has more to do with their personality (being foward or shy). Shy girls can be slutty too...
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Originally Posted by fdl
I'm a little confused by the poll. I'd like a girl to call too, but I dont want her to be slutty
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Originally Posted by Batin Dean
Then you should pick the modern girl option. It was the opinion of my christian friend that girls who call are sluts, but girls who like getting chased and only receive phone calls from guys were nice, old fashioned girls. The girls who call need not be slutty, just considerate, and the girls who don't call aren't necessarily "nice" girls, just rude and inconsiderate.
Ahh, I see. So do you think him being a Christian is the reason he feels this way?
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Originally Posted by Batin Dean
Then you should pick the modern girl option. It was the opinion of my christian friend that girls who call are sluts, but girls who like getting chased and only receive phone calls from guys were nice, old fashioned girls. The girls who call need not be slutty, just considerate, and the girls who don't call aren't necessarily "nice" girls, just rude and inconsiderate.
My wife reached out to me (with great risk) to tell me that she had feelings for me; that marked the change of a magnificant friendship to a wonderful love affair. I would love for your Christian friend to tell my wife to her face that she was being slutty.
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My wife reached out to me (with great risk) to tell me that she had feelings for me; that marked the change of a magnificant friendship to a wonderful love affair. I would love for your Christian friend to tell my wife to her face that she was being slutty.
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Originally Posted by Batin Dean
Your wife sounds like a confident woman and that's what I love in a woman, confidence. There is absolutely nothing wrong with how your wife approached you, but my buddy believes in a long courtship, which to me is a bunch of garbage. I'm not gonna waste my time and money on multiple dates just to start holding hands 6 months down the road. I believe that the girl should not only express her feelings early on in the courting process, she should be calling the guy as well. If the guy is doing all the work, the relationship will never work. I've seen some of my sucker friends fall for that courting bullshit and they either wound up divorced or being used big time before they got dumped. Ric, you met a smart woman and as for my buddy, he wouldn't call your wife a slut to your face, but he is a believer in that courting nonsense.
We had been colleagues and friends at work (same company, different division) but we used the same coffee machine at night, both compulsive workers. The romance started when I moved away, and she realized - and then I realized - and then we simply started to "be" together every chance we could. I eventually returned to the east coast so that geography would not figure into the custody battle, and when I got married, I had the bonus of having a great stepson in my life.
I think the real question you're getting at is that women need to take responsibility for their actions in a relationship, including being honest about their sexual feelings; I agree completely. Then, if if the drive and the chemestry is right, the time you spend to gether just gets better. I think our culture is way, way too complicated to pay attention to a primer for dating that was cast aside in the 1920's.................. and women are entitled to own their own feelings and, at times, to be the assertive one.
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I don't have time to mess around with girls who want to be the center of attention. That shit is for the birds. I like modern girls because they are aggressive and know what they want, not necessarily what they need...which is some respects is a drawback. But, I like a girl who enough confidence to come talk to me. Its happened plenty of times to me. It strokes the male ego also...which is what the ladies are accustomed to.
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Originally Posted by fdl
I'm a little confused by the poll. I'd like a girl to call too, but I dont want her to be slutty
I just appreciate decent communication, regardless of who initiates it.
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Originally Posted by cTLgo
lady on the street but a freak in the bed
A man who appropriates a set of values based on the answer to a single seems too judgmental to me. If he wants to organize his perspective on relationships, fine. But I think he will be a very lonely guy. If I were single, I'd go ahead and call a guy in whom I was interested-I don't have time to pansy about with some game that has very little value except to confuse things.
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Originally Posted by ricecake
A man who appropriates a set of values based on the answer to a single seems too judgmental to me. If he wants to organize his perspective on relationships, fine. But I think he will be a very lonely guy. If I were single, I'd go ahead and call a guy in whom I was interested-I don't have time to pansy about with some game that has very little value except to confuse things.
I dont think "lady on the street" means a woman who doesnt call or is old fashioned. At least thats not my interpretation.
To me the ideal woman is classy, and respectible, and "nice" in most situations, but is an absolute whore behind closed doors
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Originally Posted by fdl
I dont think "lady on the street" means a woman who doesnt call or is old fashioned. At least thats not my interpretation.
To me the ideal woman is classy, and respectible, and "nice" in most situations, but is an absolute whore behind closed doors
To me the ideal woman is classy, and respectible, and "nice" in most situations, but is an absolute whore behind closed doors
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Originally Posted by ricecake
I wasn't casting doubt on cTLgo's post, just stating that it was a repost. The second paragraph has to do with Batin's friend's mindset.
ah. makes sense.
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Me likey da sluts....
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I don't see anything wrong with calling a guy, why play games? I also notice that girls who wait for calls usually go nuts while waiting for them. I don't see the big deal about picking up the phone to call him if waiting is going to cause so much agony
This is common thinking for the older generations though. For example an older female relative always tells me I shouldn't a guy, even now that I have a bf Its like hell no, hes my man and I'm going to call when I want damn it. Not in excess of course, but I don't see anything wrong with a little initiation on my part
This is common thinking for the older generations though. For example an older female relative always tells me I shouldn't a guy, even now that I have a bf Its like hell no, hes my man and I'm going to call when I want damn it. Not in excess of course, but I don't see anything wrong with a little initiation on my part
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
This is common thinking for the older generations though. For example an older female relative always tells me I shouldn't call a guy, even now that I have a bf Its like hell no, hes my man and I'm going to call when I want damn it. Not in excess of course, but I don't see anything wrong with a little initiation on my part
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my moms was like that--it was really weird because she was unusually progressive about a lot of things, but this was her big hang-up.
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a recent survey showed that 67% or all married women have cheated during their marraige. so IMHO call or wait for me to call your still a slut. and to be honest i would rather know your a slut than to find out after you cheat on me.
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
I don't understand it. Just the other day she was like don't call him and I'm like why? We aren't mad at each other And shes like, well you have to keep him guessing.
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Originally Posted by flexte
a recent survey showed that 67% or all married women have cheated during their marraige. so IMHO call or wait for me to call your still a slut. and to be honest i would rather know your a slut than to find out after you cheat on me.
67%? Link? That seems WAY too high.
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hmm..not sure thats an old fashioned thing. That there is a head game that guys and girls both like to play. Noone wants to seem overly anxious i think.
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Originally Posted by GeishaGirl
Of course not overly so, but I don't see the harm in giving him a call. I personally don't like games, if I want to call I'll call.
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Originally Posted by fdl
thats messed up! 67%?? What is the rate for men?
But like all "statistics" take it for what it is.
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Originally Posted by spidey07
I don't know. I generally see 50%.
But like all "statistics" take it for what it is.
But like all "statistics" take it for what it is.
Anyways, a link would be nice if you have one.