Ok, so I've met this great girl. Actually I've known her for a while, but just recently in the last few months started actually seeing her lots, and we've been dating so to speak for the last month or so.

I really like her, she's great looking, great personality, etc. She's really into me too.

Problem is like most, she wants to yak it up on the phone alot, esp since we can't see each other much at all during the week b/c of schedules. Lately I've been having trouble coming up with stuff to talk about, and it ends up with some akward silence b/c apparently neither can she. I've never had this problem before, I kinda feel stupid.

Is this a sign it's just not meant to be? Or is it something else? I really don't want to let her go, we have soooo damn much fun when we are together

 

Chicks like to talk on the phone....Deal with it.....It will get you in her pants.

 

just say anything that pops into your mind. It doesn't mean that you 2 are not meant to be.

 

I know chicks dig the tele and I've never had a prob with any other girl. Its like I ask question after question, but there is no long drawn out answer like I'm used to. Just the basic facts. What the heck else am I supposed to ask?

I don't have a prob with her pants - shes def into me. I mean if she wasn't and this akward silence thing was going on, she'd prob be gone.

Thats the thing, nothing pops in there! It's like blank! What makes it odd is before we were really dating, we could talk about anything, anywhere, anytime.

 

You should trying stopping the phone call before it gets awkward. Know what you're going to talk about before you even talk to her, and keep it rolling. Be proactive and stop the phone call on a high-note so that she's itching for more -> and then turn that positive note into something fun when you do see her.

You can even tell her that you have to get off the phone because you're too busy... Are you always available? I've always found that being too available can tend cause boredom and situations where you have nothing to say...

 

i hate talking on the phone with a guy i like. i don't know how these girls do it. i'd soon just go out with him. why don't you plan stuff... that requires talking.

 

When i met my girl we had silences too,but once you know eachother better theres more to talk about, and you will catch on. just find random things to talk about, and you will be able to tell if she is into it or not.

 

But you said on the Birth Control page - what type of BC so you use? And you know about getting into pants?

(hahaha j/k)

 

Like amis said, if it starts to slow down, say "well i have to go eat dinner/take a shower/pet my dog," whatever just get off the phone and it'll make her want you even more because you'll look mysterious. Better yet do that before it starts to slow down and you'll have even better results. Yes chicks do like to talk on the phone, but don't become just a shoulder to cry on, actually plan shit to do.

 

Ok, I'm doing better today. Why do women always require another 2-3 mins to hang up? Gotta talk about when who is callign next, what who is doing later, blah blah.

 

To feel secure - connected?

 

it means you talk on the phone too damn much. tell your bitch its ok not to talk on the phone every freakin day

 

dump her ass@ kthx

 

stop talking on the phone with her. just keep it to what you want to say to each other and then say bye and that you'll see her. going a day or two w/o talking to each other is fine if both sides understand it's not a bad thing. sounds like a hs problem.

 

I know exactly what you mean about awkward phone silence. First of all, she's worried that you might not keep her. Girls need assurance. So use the time she calls to plan something on the weekend as soon as you run out of stuff to talk about. Sometimes the silence is okay in person, especially if you're looking at the night sky. Nothing better than making out under the stars and looking at the constellations.

 

Ask her how her day was. That will be good for about 20 minutes.

The one thing I learned about this problem is that they really don't care what you talk about as long as they have an opinion on the topic. Talk about work/school/weekend/news/TV/etc. They don't really care. It does not have to be about your relationship.

 

This is whats killing me. I've NEVER had a problem wasting time on the phone before, just THIS time. Thing is, I ask every opened ended question known to man kind and she just doesn't give the typical female answers, she just cuts right to the chase. So them I'm left with no material. She's just different, and honestly thats one thing I like about her - just the phone thing is killing me. Not talking on the phone as suggested above is just not possible as we just don't get to do much during the week and she has to at least talk to me then - I think its a comfort thing.

I've gotten better, I was used to just asking all sorts of questions and doing lots of listening. Now I've got to cough up stuff to talk about, but I'm getting there. You are totally correct, she doesn't care what it is - and it works 100x better if she can tell me what she thinks about it. I've just been spouting off anything that comes to mind like mentioned by others, and it works great.

I've been out of a real relationship for a while, I've just got to get with it.

 

Yea silence in person def isn't a bad thing all the time.

Thing is, we've already planned something the first time we talk during the week usually so the rest of the week thats no good. However, I've been stretching it out so that I add details everytime we talk. Like Monday, yea ok we can do Fri night this week but have to see what time n stuff. Then Wed or so decide what n when, etc. Works great.

Only thing I hate is girls always know where they want to go eat, etc but won't tell you a damn thing - it's your job to friggin guess where.

 

Hasn't anybody hear heard of phone sex

 

Just do what we all do...

Let her blabbity, blab, blab, blabbity all the time and throw in some "uh-huh", "hmmm", "really?", "that's interesting", "gee, I never thought of that"

golden. Be ready for the occasional "of course I'm listening"

 

Like I said above, doesn't work with her. Crazy...