Hey guys, haven't posted in a long time sorry! So i thought i would come back with my first post in dating in relationships. Heres my situation I've liked this girl for quite a while now (some number of months) and my friends know i like her, so i finally tell her the deal, and she says she doesnt like me. I'm pretty sad, but it gets worse. The next week my friend begins to hit on her, and both start liking eachother and he just now tells me. I don't know wat to say to him or how to act towards him after this. ugghh thanks for all the help sorry if this didnt make any sense or i sound like a loser, cuz thats how i feel right now.

 

Unless you're a politician, this is in the wrong section.

Moving to D&R...

 

drop her like she has the crabs. And your boy should have more respect for you as a friend. But if he is shady like that don't trust him either.

 

sorry to hear man. reminds me of back in the day. i hate to say it, but get used to it. this shit's gonna happen every now and then. you just gotta move on with both of them. if you and your friend are close, deal with him then and forget the girl. remeber, there's plenty of women out there. she knows you like her, and maybe one day she'll come around looking for a "friend." in spite of you inclination, play it cool.

it's a game. i wish we didn't have to play it, but sometimes we need to.

 

Yup, sleeper is right. She's playing games and that's weak. Your friend is now caught up in her game and he'll be the loser in the end because he won't have the girl or his good friend anymore. IMO, it takes a long time to heal wounds between friends, and girl-related wounds are the hardest to get over.

 

This girl's not worth the time. Drop her and move on. There are plenty of good women and she definitely isn't one of them.

 

Drop them both.

 

and as they say on honda-tech... PTDTS.

 

There are lots of girls. Forget about it... Just because she doesn't want a relationship doesn't mean you have to hate her. Respect her decision. As for your friend, it sounds like he waited for you. She's not intersted in you. Why should he or any other friend be limited because you like her? Get over it, move on. In four years if you're in KC PM me, i'll buy you a beer.

 

Ahhh.. teenage years..

Dude, you'll be fine in short time.. You'll look back and laugh about it too in few years.

 

You didn't indicate whether or not you told your friend that you liked this girl and she dissed you.

If you did tell him: your friend's being a dick.
If you didn't: how can you expect him to know what feelings you had for this girl?

As for the girl, don't worry too much about it. Look at the bright side: at least you had the balls to tell her how you felt about her. Most guys won't even do that and will regret it forever. Anyway, there's WAY too many women out there to get hung up over just one. Try to resolve the issue with your friend in whatever way is appropriate, and go from there.

 

That's what I was thinking...

You're 17...you'll become smitten by another girl in your road of life.

 

I did tell him, oh well... I will be up in Lawrence in fall KC hehe so just a half hour away

 

Walk tall brah, walk tall. I had this situation happen to me. Turns out later she wanted to get with me and I showed her the door and the bottom foot. There are more fishes in the sea. When you get to college, there will be plenty of girls. Freshmen are the easiest!

 

I mean the bottom of my foot.

 

I had a fraternity brother who always went after the girls I turned down. He was a dick and I didn't like him or the girls, they were hoes. But it just pissed me off that he would get with them when these chics were drunk and were vulnerable. What a looser. I guess he had no game and had to pick up my trash. Oh well....

 

forget her, and that sucks about your buddy, but all's fair in love and war, right? And by "all's fair" what is meant is: "you're going to get screwed over many times in your life, so just adapt".

 

Hey, she doesn't want to date you. Like it or not, 99% of the women you meet in life won't want to date you.

Sounds like your buddy waited for you to have your chance before he went for it. Seems reasonable. You may not like seeing your buddy with her, but it's not really reasonable for you to expect that he'll avoid every woman you like, regardless of whether anything's going on between you.

Deal with it and move on. Don't worry about her, and don't lose a friend over it either.

 

You will find all the girls you want at KU. Lawrence is a great town. Yep, you'll be just a few miles away.

 

thanks for all the replies guys, lotsa help!

 

 

Guess some guys must just like sloppy seconds.

 

ewww

 

Ho's before bro's huh...Nice friend.

But hey if she dosent like you, oh well. At least you found out this way instead of finding out from your friend that he's been playing doctor with her.

 

move from your friend. Youll meet another chick and forget about the old one in no time