Okay! Thank you for all of your thoughts. Neurotically, I try to find a meaning behind everything. I litterally have to go take relatives out. Thanks again! Mo' comments later!...

 

Ugly is one thing. I wasn't talking about ugly. I'll admit to being shallow in that regard. If a girl is just hard to look at she can find some other guy that's hard to look at . Plenty of them out there. I have a low water mark that i won't delve below in terms of looks. Anything above that water mark is fair game. If a girl has a reasonably cute face, decent body etc then I would start looking at personality etc. For me though, I've found that the if a girl is too pretty, she is lacking in other areas. They are usually prone to being self centered because they've been coddled and had the attention of a lot of guys their whole life. I've found the girls with the best, most well rounded personalities (i.e the one's I'd bring home to meet mom) are the ones that hover around the average to slightly above average in terms of looks.

 

And I would be inclined to agree with that 100%!!!

Not that there aren't any gorgeous, intelligent, down to earth women out there. They are just the exception, not the rule. For the women that are attractive like that, yes, they have focused on their looks because that is what got them to the dance. They have not groomed their spirit and their mind properly enough to know that they are their greatest assets as far as staying power. I won't blame it on mentoring, because you can lead the horse to the water, but you can't make them drink! Women that are very attractive have high turnover ratios (and are very thirsty)!

When I was an adolescent, and I saw guys kicking pretty girls to the curb, I thought they must be insane! Now I do it with ease because I found out why...

 

I am going to asume that means they are in wheelchairs, not that you are going to "merc" 'em! Hahahahaha!

 

no pic, this thread blows

 

 

Not the worst thing in the world to say, at least he's honest. So be honest with him because i'm sure you've dated someone else that was richer, bigger, hotter, etc.

 

Fixed...

From personal experience...
I think getting to know the person comes first in some occasions... and how you two interact and communicate with one another... Getting to know the person more before you even know whats under all the clothing... that's how I met my girlfriend... she was wearing a white lab coat and a hair net underneath a hard hat...

She knew how I looked since i was always dressed in my slacks and polo type shirts... but I didn't even know how she looked at all until I asked her out to grab a cup of coffee... with Ken... looks are the icing on the cake...

But all this is off topic...

If he thinks your aren't the prettiest girl he's been with... i'm sure you aren't the ugliest either... especially since its been 6 years...

just as a reminder...

 

if she does actually post pics here, she would then most likely be the stupidest girl her boyfriend has been with.

 

hqahahahahahaha that was great

 

 

Where the fuck do ya'll find these cool ass gifs at??? I can use some of these when I'm bashing WDPs!!

Hahahahaha...just fucking with you Gus!

 

But you're logical and rational. Too many chicks I know fall for the idiots because they're good looking and/or dangerous. No matter how bad they're treated, they stick with it.

How've you been, btw? Long time no talk...

 

NM. Finishing up the semester, taking Physics II then the new job hunt begins. Then theres the planning...

Email me sometime when youre bored Mr. Hotshot Bossman.

 

maybe a boob job would help

 

maybe posting pics will help...we will photoshop you sexy :P then you can post on myspace and be like look! i got a make over

LOL

 

You guys are too funny! I have heard about many guys with nosy gfs that snoop in their stuff. This thread for one, WILL BE WORTHLESS cuz by no means do I have access to pics of the ex. Quite frankly, my man was doing all the talking that night during dinner. After the comment he said, it got me thinking about what attracts men to women IN GENERAL. Which will be hard for most of you to believe. I had this thinking face which was interpreted as being pissed. While I go have that 'surgically corrected', along with what most of you think I need, I'll be living happily ever after
LOVE ALWAYS, NOT THE PRETTY GIRLFRIEND!!

 

at least hes honest.

 

I don't get it... most of us are men so we should know what attracts us to women.

 

Wait, in the OP you stated that he said you weren't the prettiest gf he's had. He didn't say you were ugly, plain, or average. You're twisting his words and inferring a meaning that probably wasn't there.

 

Yes. I hope men do. What I was Generalizing: Looks Personality brains etc.

 

im confused.

 

I'm not sure if it was my bad but I just wanted to see what other people thought about the statement. Lots of people agreed maybe it should not have been said. Others think I have no self esteem and one thought that I should give him no dinner. Just wanted to start a discussion. I would never want to infere anything. My apologies if it seemed that way

 

oh ok now i understand.

 

No matter how pretty you are, there is always someone prettier. His defination of pretty might be different than mine, or any other guy in the world. So only you and him together can decide what that meant.

I was with a girl for 5.5 years and yes in my opinion I dated girls much prettier than her, but I loved her and it meant more to me than just her looks. Don't get me wrong I found her very attractive, but if you put her next to the "hotter one" I'm sure most guys wold pick the other.

So I wouldn't let that bother me too much if I were you.

 

Couple observations:

- Being in a relationship or married does not mean everyone else suddenly becomes uglier than the one your with.

- Saying that out loud to your g/f or wife has to be one of the dumbest things a man can do. Even if it's true, it's tactless.

- You can't have a relationship if you're not attracted to that person physically. So initially, yes, physical attraction matters as much as personality.

- In the long run however, personality is the most important thing because no matter how attrative you are at 20, you won't be at 60. If you fall in love with beauty, you've put a time clock on when your relationship will end. If you want a lifetime relationship, better love the person, because everyone will get old one day.

Peace.

 

Very good read and it echoes my thoughts and sentiments on this situation.

But a word of caution: You came dangerously close to plagiarism at the end, of my patented "Peace2fingaz ".

 

and how the hell did you stumble into the D&R section of Ramblings in ACURAZINE just to post this shizznit?

can I be the first to call ? I smell bustedjack!

 

i hate that about girls.

 

No need to apologize. You have started a discussion. I don't see that any of the answers are really offensive. If some are, either ignore them or respond back. That's kinda what we do here.

I don't think it's a self esteem issue. I think you reacted and didn't allow yourself to think about what he said. I'm sure that if you had said something like that to him, you would think it was no big deal.

 

Yeh. But their boobs make it all better.

 

tru dat.

 

Thanks! I'll watch the plagiarism too!

 

LOL... I spent almost 2 months talking with my wife on the phone, before we traded pictures...then when she did I thought she was joking, because she was and still is drop dead gorgeous... when I finally met her in person, I was like wow! I must say that her beautiful spirit and relationship with God was 1st on my list of things I wanted in a wife, but God also knew that I am still a guy...

So, I know I was blessed, but I am really glad I got to know and love her first, before her physical appearance became an isssue...

 

Interesting discussion and I agree with a lot of the observations. Looks definately come first, but you can run into people anywhere and in any situation.

How many people here are married to the person they were actually "looking" for when they met? Probably not many.

While looks are important, they are only part of the package. A perfect 10 with the mind of a gnat would do NOTHING for me. I've had it and it sucked. So did the relationship. Sorry, had to throw that in there. I am and always will be a smart-ass.
Attraction to another person, for me anyway, is based on so many different aspects and parameters. Appearance alone won't do it.

 

To me appearance is just the lure. It's the first thing that draws your attention. It's the first filter for taking the next step, which is actually getting to know them. That's when you find out the important stuff.

WAY back in my dating days, I had situations where the more I got to know a girl, the more attractive she got. Now this was not a "2" moving up the ladder because she was sweet - that's too much to overcome. But a "7" maybe got more attractive because who she was. Bummer is by the time you figure that out, you're usually on the friends list not the "potential boyfriend" list.

But I'd take a 7 or 8 who was a fantastic person over a 10 who was irritating, self absorbed, high maintenance,...

 

Example: I see that you live in "East L.A." Do you only go around in that area or have you to been to other parts of Cali?

Give me a break! I came to AZ cuz I had a car problem. There had to be more to AZ that freakin car mumbo jumbo. So one was only left to venture and find out.

 

As others have said, you have been together for six years. That must mean that he sees something in you, so try not to take his comment as an insult.

Another thing is, he was honest. I think that is a great sign of how good your relationship is...I've noticed that the longest lasting relationships are the ones where the guy and girl are honest most of the time(I know, that sounds obvious). What I mean by that is that there are guys that consistently compliment their girls, even if they don't believe what they say to be true, they say it anyways. Sure, at times it's okay to say a white lie but at other times the truth it better, it all just depends on the situation and the question at hand. I'm not too sure if what I said makes sense, I'm kinda tired...but basically what I mean is that it's good for the guy not to constantly smother his girl with compliments.

I'm pretty sure that what he said was not meant to be a negative about you.

 

break given. now posts pics kuz

 

You know some people are going to give you shit about this post. Don't take it so personal. I think it's cool that a woman will venture into the lion's den and take on the pride. But if you do that, you have to be ready for "sudden impact".

I too am curious though...can we see what you look like? I mean, it doesn't have to be something for the local leg-humpers to beat off to...just for the sake of it all. Hope it's not a problem.