I was looking for something in my closet in my old room at my parents how and I found a bunch of picture of my ex GF that I took for a photography calss in college! AND...as much as I hate her now....I remember taking the pictures and how we used to be.....and maybe....for a spilt second...I kind of missed her I'm sure it has alot to do with the fact that she was my first long term GF, and she was there for alot of important things in my life....but shit like this just re-assures me that I don't think I'll ever wanna get married!

 

^ I think it's natural to have a moment reminiscing of a previous ex (despite some of the weird sh*t that happened with her). You had something good (at one point) -- you thought about the good times ... it's natural to have a moment of feeling like you were 'missing' her (ie more like missing that feeling you once had).

Well ... that's how I see it.

As for not the marrying thing ... it's not for everyone. Or maybe you're a late bloomer (relatively speaking) on the whole idea of getting married. Just hypothetically speaking, of course.

 

Maybe you dont miss her but the idea of her. I've gone through similiar things and that makes me thank god that I myself DO NOT EVER want to get married

 

I remember my last relationship and thank god I'm single.

 

Until you find "the one" that changes your mind.

Oh wait... the soulmate thing is another thread.

 

As of right now I DO NOT want to get married. I see no point to it. But then again, I very well could have my mind changed. Stranger things have happened

 

1/2 of marriges end in devorce. To quote Bill Burr...."would you go skydyving if the told you that only HALF of the shoots will open....FUCK THAT...I'M NOT DOING THAT!"

 

plus im afraid of heights and standing on that aisle will only give me a panic attack

 

speaking of panic attacks and marriage etc, i definitely had a panic attack in babys r us buying a friend gifts for a shower. it was an ephiphany. i was like "wow i sure as hell do not want this to be my life. and if i marry this guy that im with he'd want kids. most guys would. so 86 the baby and double 86 the marriage bs"

 

I love you... wanna get married?

 

do you promise to love and use
cherish and abuse me, both verbally and physically. in bad times and really bad times?

 

Just marry a rich oil baron in his 70s or 80s. If you don't like marriage, it won't last that long anyway. As for kids, he'll probably already have kids and grandkids that you can screw out of their inheritance.

 

ew wrinkly droopy balls. dude i dont want anyone's money. i have my own and enjoy spending it on ME lol. i hate when people buy me shit

 

Yes, as long as you promise to get along nicely with my other wife.

 

to making your own money
to wrinkly droopy balls

 

Anyway, I'm not as extreme as Nicky in my hatred for marriage but I have a negative view on it But I do acknowledge that things change.

Nick- did you tell the gf that you dont want to get married?

 

No, he's not telling her. He doesn't want to do anything that will jeporodize the first five letters of his Avatar...

 

What is it about marriage that makes people freak out so much?

 

Rocky has gone soft?

 

I don't want to get married either. unless it makes business or financial sense, it's not even a consideration for me.

 

That's the problem nowadays. Marriage shouldn't be about business... those 2 words shouldn't even be used in the same sentence.
I guess Love is a thing of the past..

 

Well look at how many marriages fail. I'm terrified of being cheated on. I cant imagine that someone would "love" me that much to want to spend the rest of their life with me

 

Maybe it is who knows. Someone might be able to change my mind. I once was anxious to be married and now I've very happy with the idea of being unmarried and content

 

There's also a car accident about every 10 seconds in America... does that stop you from driving?

 

Well then maybe people just need to slow down

 

Yes many marriages fail but what about those that don't?
I don't even have to look far. My parents have been together for over 30 yrs and my grandparents recently celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary....

 

my parents were married up until july of this year, married 26 yrs together 30. my dad is now fucking some redheaded slut from michigan. he says he never cheated (met her on a trip to ireland last year at the same time she was conviently married also). anyway, who knows if he really did or not.

ive had other great examples but if you think i feel this way in light of recent events...nah. this started awhile ago. do i hate men? no not at all. i dont think i love much more in the world then the company of a man. but i dont think i could commit my life to him because of my personal overthought paranoia. id rather stay true to myself and take care of me first (conceited? maybe) rather than worry about blowing my husband while i grill a steak and pour him a beer just to ensure that some other chick isnt doing it instead.

weddings cost alot. divorce costs alot more.

edit: i meant great examples as in very successful marriages

 

That 50% stat was proven to be BS on this very board not too long ago.

https://acurazine.com/forums/showpos...1&postcount=24

 

I believe you've just described the perfect marriage

But on a serious note, if there's mutual trust you wouldn't have to worry about him running off to screw someone every time you're not around.

 

Everyone should have that attitude. My sister was the same way... she was independent, confident, and didn't really look to be getting married. Our family figured she never would, but we were all fine with it (ie. no pressure from Mom). Then in her mid 30s, "the one" fell out of nowhere and marriage all of a sudden wasn't surprising. They've been really happy.

Bottom line: don't be desperate for it, and don't be completely closed to it. If anything happens, you'll know.

 

Agreed.
Marriage is not something that should be rushed.
Then again, if you feel strongly against marriage, chances are you just haven't met the right person yet.

 

Marrige isn't final, but if you do get married, then devorced...its like the fuckin' scarlet latter...you're branded!

 

Lots of people get divorced....

 

^^
You don't have to admit to any future partners that you were once married...or does that shit have to come up legally?

 

Not all guys would require you to do all of this just to keep them happy and faithful. There are good guys still around that treat women right

 

well, this is just 1 person that has been down that married road. We were married 16+ years and she decided she wanted to see other men, so the D word happened. Well, when you get to a certain age (like me), it gets hard. Everyone has their 'previous life' and I am very protective of my assets. I already lost a shit load 6 years ago and I will not/cannot lose again if I marry again/divorce. I am on track to stop working when I am 60 and enjoy life. See too many people worrying about money and their retirement.... I do not want to be in that group.

And, oh yeah! I think about my first g/f but she was 16 and a real hottie!!!
I can still see her in her white bikini....

 

sweetheart, how long have you acknowledged my presence and its accompanying sarcasm? i didnt mean that but you got the idea with a chuckle

 

I knew you weren't serious, but I was just saying there are still guys around that I think are worth marrying..yet we all know there are a lot that aren't.

 

call this cynical, but here is my take.

6 out of 10 marriages sooner or later wind up in divorce. Of the remaining 4, I figuure at least 2 are miserable but keep it together for the kids. The remaining 2 are the lucky ones.

 

marriage hasnt even crossed my mind yet. Whats the divorce rate in america up to? 70-80% ......me thinks prenump when it marriage eventually comes around with those percentages