This cashier always gives me the googly eyes, I dunno how to do this, first I'm not some super suave guy and cold approaching women isn't my thing. So how do I do this, the one time I was about to her coworker wasn't there but then a damn customer walks up and stands right behind me. Other times there are 2 cashiers/pc terminals next to her and people are always there.

 

"When do you have your next break?"

"Can I buy you a condom...uh,...coffee?"
"Want to share a piece of pie?"

Keep the discussion short and focused on giving her a chance to talk to you privately at a break-- she might take the opportunity to invite you out for an evening.

G/L.

 

"Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

 

If she turns you down make sure that you buy a box of Magnums the next time you are there.

 

I love Ramblings!

.357 or .44, and what does ammo have to do with dating anyway?

 

You're probably going to get a lot of aggressive advice, which is not your style, nor is it mine. So how often do you see her? Frequent enough to establish a casual rapport if you don't have one already? If so, I'd take my time. You say she's smitten, which means you are in the position of power as long as you exude confidence and an air of detachment.

If you have a rapport, you can start flirting and see how she responds. Comment how great the weather will be this weekend and ask if she's doing anything. If she says no, suggest some possibility with a knowing "I seee..." or other statement that telegraphs your interest. If she says yes, you have the option of learning more about her with a followup question or giving a genuine "have fun" comment as you go.

You shouldn't need to flirt a second time, because she should know you are interested. That is the time you change your response to either "would you like to do something" or "maybe next week, then". Or you can have fun and see just how interested she is with more questions.

disclaimer: You shouldn't take any relationship advice from me because I suck at relationships.

 

^very nice. but instead of asking, it should be an invitation.
have something already planned.

"hey, my friends and I are going to be at this place on friday, you're welcome to come" or end it with "see ya there"

the place should be fun and exciting.

disclaimer: You shouldn't take any relationship advice from me because I suck at relationships.

 

yes he does suck @ relationships

 

why dont you hand her a note??? Remember the "girl at the bank thread?"

 

girl at bank, cashier girl, what's next?!!!

 

pay with a $100 bill and write your phone # on it? we tried that with my buddy and a waitress, but she shot him down, LOL.

 

I know I'm way too old and way too married to have a lot of current advice, but I was always very shy about this kind of thing.

What I would do: go to the card section and pick out an invitation. Write in the card, "Would you like to meet for coffee some time?" (or whatever you want to set up). Put your contact info in there. Go buy the card, and when she rings it up just say, "that's for you". That way you avoid having to put on a show for everyone in line, it doesn't put her on the spot, and she knows how to get back to you.

Or if the place doesn't sell cards, pick something else you can write on.

 

I think "caveat emptor" applies to the foregoing advice.

OP: I've been married 15+ years, so I haven't had to approach a woman for a date since before then.

I do suggest inviting the cashier to a coffee (or a smoothie or juice) during a work break because it's less threatening to her and doesn't commit either of you to a long awkward day, but gives you the opportunity to see if there is enough spark for a longer date/relationship.

FWIW, my wife started with the googly eyes and interest when we first met, so I asked her out right then and there.

 

That one always works. Ask her if she has any heart conditions first.

Good luck.

 

Waitress, pizza deliverygirl, librarian, lady in the Minnie Mouse costume

The possibilities are endless for you guys!

 

I did something like that as a random act of kindness. The cashier was obviously having a bad day and it showed on her face. I took my stuff to the car, went back in, bought a card, filled it out with some caring words, made her ring it up and gave it to her. Walked out and never looked back.

I have no idea what the end result of it was.

 

Believe it or not, women are everywhere!

 

That thread was a classic...

 

That's awesome! Bet she still remembers that day. Nicely done. The world can use more of that.

 

Just to show I practice what I preach, I just tried this myself on a co-worker today. I emailed her and asked her what she was doing for the weekend. That in itself could be taken as an innocent question or an invitation, however she wants to take it.

She said she was going to be going to a baseball game with family. She also returned the question "You?", which put the ball back in my court. That is a positive sign.

Regardless of whether she returned the question or not, I was prepared to express my intent. So I said that I was going to be out her way in the morning on an errand and wondered if she was available to go and do something afterwards. She responded with a thank you and said she'd be busy with family.

This isn't a flat-out "no", so I responded again. In my first response, I commented that I knew it was short notice, so I sort of referenced that by asking if maybe we could plan on a later date.

No response to that one yet, but what's the worst she can say? No. What did I lose by trying? Nothing.

Always, always, always be positive with every single sentence.

 

^
This guy is good. As a sort of "cashier", I'll throw in my 2 cents. I've had people just flat out ask me for my cell number. I've also had them ask me if I had a Facebook, and how they could find me. It's short and simple, and if the cashier doesn't want to take it any farther, they don't have to.

 

Be yourself. Talk to her as you would a good friend. Start up a conversation. After a few conversations, you will be more confident and she will trust you.

 

Uh, yeah, don't ask if she has a Facebook account. :ghey: I know teens and young adults these days do everything electronically, including asking someone out on a date ( also :ghey: ) --- be personable, show some social skills and do it in person. Even the idea of writing her a little note in a neutral greeting card is a great idea. But don't text her, do it via Facebook, etc....not to someone you don't know.

 

So...... wanna fuck?

 

Be careful at work. If she keeps telling you that she is busy and you keep asking to go out you will get an unfriendly visit from HR. If she blows you off this time you need to drop it.

 

Don't steal mizouse's mojo

This is my brand, I definitely get interesting looks when i buy them

 

" you must be tired because you have been running in my head"

 

I still think giving girls an option without building any kind of rapport will have negative results.....

it should be an invite, as the girl doesnt know you.
posing a yes or no question will net you 99% of the time a no.

if you see the cashier on a daily basis, build rapport!!!!!!!

 

Yes, getting to know her first will be very beneficial and can give you lots of info --- like if she's even someone you want to pursue! So far, you've probably only seen her for no more than 60 seconds at a time and haven't held much of a conversation. You might find she's not someone you'd actually want to get to know further (despite her being cute and eyeing you) or you might find that you're a great match and do want to take her out. After a few conversations, asking her out is the obvious next step and might not catch her as off-guard. But if you just want to cut to the chase and skip the casual convo, just chance it and see what she says.

 

Definitely build up some rapport first but sounds like you're already getting "read" from her so she's obviously interested. Stay confident and chill, you need to convey interest without coming across as some crazy stalker or psycho. If she's fine she's prolly getting hit on by douches all day long. You need to separate yourself from the douches.

Absolutely. There's way less pressure on her if it's not just a "one on one" event. Just say your friends are going out for happy hour, does she want to come with? Or you're going to be studying at the coffee shop if she wants to join you. You don't want to do the dinner and movie thing right off that bat, she's gonna freak if you ask to pick her up at her place when she doesn't know you too well. She'll be more comfortable meeting in a public place.

QFT. But don't get in the friend zone by squandering the next 4 weeks with small-talk. It's a tough situation because you need to get some read from her on what she's thinking, no offense but it's easy to misinterpret harmless flirting with her being interested in you so make sure that's straight before inviting her out.

 

Earlier I stated 99% of the time you will get a no.....
There is a 1% chance that this will work.

 

I like the idea of inviting her to somewhere public, where she can bail if she feels she needs to. I don't like the idea of inviting her to hang with a bunch of your friends. If meeting one-on-one is hard, imagine the pressure of meeting a bunch of strangers at once.

The better first dates start unassuming and last long into the night.

 

she doesnt know you.
you're at a store, buying deodorant, shoe "stankbegone" powder, and a coke.
you could be a serial killer for all she knows.
She will always say no to a "yes or no" date question.

 

Ok, it is time for "update" requests.

Update?

 

i say the op chickened out

 

IDK, I think there's less pressure in a group than one-on-one, even if she doesn't know all the OP's friends. Sure, if it was dinner or something it might be sketch but if a crew was at Dave and Buster's or shooting pool or something it might be cool. I see where you're coming from though, like all OP's friends are hounding cashier chick with questions and asking how long they've been going out and sh-t. Coffee or the park or something is chill and she won't have to freak that OP is a serial rapist.

 

Damn so harsh Justin, maybe he doesn't run game like you LOL. I patiently await an update, this better not be disappointing like the girl at the bank thread.

 

Rick, you know you're the biggest mack of all macaroni's.
I'm just trying to be like you

 

The force is strong with you young Padawan

 

So if I ask 100 hot wiminz every day, I get some?

I wonder if Miz will try this at middle schools... there should be 100 girls there.