Well as the title says I need some advice. I was dating this girl for a little while and everything was going great, well until yesterday. We had spent the afternoon together and I was on my way to take her home. We pass one of my ex's, which hates me with a passion, on the way. It just so happens that they are friends. I drop her off kiss her bye and everything is fine. Later that night I get a text saying that I am a great guy but she doesn't want a relationship right now. I knew immediately that my ex had something to do with this. I talk to a mutual friend of our and sure enough the girl talked to my ex, she didn't say what about though. I really like this girl and want to be with her, but how do I tell her my ex is a liar and that she is a evil bitch?


Cliffs:
-I dated a girl for a while, everything was great
-pass one of my ex's who she is friends with
-she talks to me ex, which hates me, and tells me she just wants to be friends now
-I need to know how to tell her my ex is a liar

 

That sucks man.

IMO, if she is going to end a relationship over an ex of yours that you are definitely no longer into, then she has some growing up to do. And that is not a knock on your ages. I think she needs to be more mature.

I think you should give her some space and see what happens. Keep in touch with her, but not too much. See what she does with some time apart.

This is why I didn't stay too close to any of my ex's.

 

considering she is friends with your ex it was bound to happen sooner or later

 

Oh yeah, I have to take her to prom Saturday because we have bought all of this shit. It is going to suck.

 

slip her a roofy and leave her with the football team

 

If you knew her and your ex were good friends prior to you dating her, that was your biggest mistake right there.


You NEVER, EVER, date a girl that's good friends with a previous ex. That's just asking for trouble.

 

Well my assumption was correct, my evil ex told the girl that I was a piece of shit and all kinds of stuff.

 

They aren't good friends, I never see them talk. Payback is a bitch, that's all I have to say.

 

roofy time? lol

 

Stop dreading over it. If you knew they were friends, you should've known better than to date a friend of your ex who hates your guts.

Trust me, I've had this happen to me before. It's not pretty, and it makes you want to seperate yourself from your group of friends, because somewhere, and somehow, someone knows someone somehow from someplace.

Sorry buddy, better luck next time, and don't ever date someone that's friends with a ex that hates you.

 

Good friends or not, they know of each other. That's good enough reason for your ex to tell your gf her opinion about you. Rule of thumb, a good majority of the women will side with women's opinion. Always been like that, always will, especially in high school.

 

Well, how should I pay the bitch back?

 

For revenge?

I though we have been over this.

 

 

Why bother.....it won't help the situation. I say play it cool dude.

 

Grow up.

Be the man in the situation, ignore it, and move on with your life. What are you 10? Revenge? You think that'll make girls think better of you?

 

 

Thanks guys, I'm getting ready to call the girl and discuss everything with her and see if I can work it all out.

 

I think you should wait another day or 2. Trust me on this. Give her some time. Even if you have to go to prom alone. Give her some time and space.

 

In some instances, it won't just happen. You can try it if you want. It can backfire, it could make you look desperate, or it might work.

That's a risk you gotta make your decision on.

 

Aight guys, thanks for the help. I'm new at this.

 

No problem. That's why you have this thread. When you get the urge to call her, post a comment. I know it's hard, but she seems to need her space right now.

 

Experience will help you grow into a stronger person. Things like this hurt, but it'll make you into a better person as long as you make the RIGHT decisions. Don't be a backpedaler.

 

I'm trying to make it to where I don't have to take her. My mom is being well, my mom. She is like you ARE taking her. I would rather go by myself, make an appearance, leave, and hang with friends. I'll let you know how everything works out.

 

look man. just take her to prom and do not- i repeat do not- kiss, finagle, or any sexual contact with her. she wants to be friends, take her to prom as a friend. youre a good guy, so be a gentleman and take her.

revenge is never a good idea. after you take her to prom then let her know that you are willing to talk when she is ready to listen to you.

make sure you let her know that you dont agree with her listening to an ex girlfriend without consulting you first. IMO a good girl always believes her man over an outside party.

 

Thank you Phee, I have decided to be the gentleman and take her as FRIENDS. That way I can prove the other bitch wrong and still go to prom and not waste all of the money I have spent. Thanks for all of the help guys, you made this easier.

 

That's nice to do....but does that mean you called her?

 

Nope, haven't talked to her since this morning when she texted me to see if I was feeling better and why I wasn't at school. I guess we will discuss the plans for Saturday tomorrow morning at school. I don't plan on calling, I'm going to give her her space.

 

whats her facebook info? ill write her a real meaningful message

 

Girl just text me. Let's see what she has to say.

 

phee gave you good advice...update on text?

 

She asked me how I was feeling (I've been really sick this week) and told me that she wasn't ready to get into a serious relationship. After that she sent me an almost illegible message saying something along the lines of I was a great guy or something. More to come later...

 

stick with the plan and all will be well...good luck dude

 

Thanks man!

 

Everything has been resolved. We are going as friends and going to have a good time. She apologized for everything so I'm fine.

 

Mutual friend talked to the girl and we are back together so everything worked out. I gave her space and she came back to me. Thanks for everything guys!

 

good to see that worked out for you

 

Glad it worked out.

Let me ask you. Do you guys spend time apart? You guys need to find the time to spend apart from each other. Not talking about school and home time that you are forced not to spend apart.

I think you should both talk about having "alone" time that you can spend with your friends and her with her friends. Make sure she knows that you mean not dating other people. I think it will improve the quality of the time you spend together and will prevent her from feeling smothered.

 

Taken care of that all ready. When we first started dating we discussed doing things with our own friends at least one night on the weekends and she agreed. She says spending time with each other non-stop is too much. I also told her to be straightforward with me. If she wants to do something with her friends that night, tell me. I'm hoping it all works out. Oh, I'll post pics from prom if your guys want Saturday night.

 

glad it worked out dude, now