Need some advice...
04-15-2009, 03:55 PM
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Need some advice...
Well as the title says I need some advice. I was dating this girl for a little while and everything was going great, well until yesterday. We had spent the afternoon together and I was on my way to take her home. We pass one of my ex's, which hates me with a passion, on the way. It just so happens that they are friends. I drop her off kiss her bye and everything is fine. Later that night I get a text saying that I am a great guy but she doesn't want a relationship right now. I knew immediately that my ex had something to do with this. I talk to a mutual friend of our and sure enough the girl talked to my ex, she didn't say what about though. I really like this girl and want to be with her, but how do I tell her my ex is a liar and that she is a evil bitch?
Cliffs:
-I dated a girl for a while, everything was great
-pass one of my ex's who she is friends with
-she talks to me ex, which hates me, and tells me she just wants to be friends now
-I need to know how to tell her my ex is a liar
Cliffs:
-I dated a girl for a while, everything was great
-pass one of my ex's who she is friends with
-she talks to me ex, which hates me, and tells me she just wants to be friends now
-I need to know how to tell her my ex is a liar
04-15-2009, 04:04 PM
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That sucks man.
IMO, if she is going to end a relationship over an ex of yours that you are definitely no longer into, then she has some growing up to do. And that is not a knock on your ages. I think she needs to be more mature.
I think you should give her some space and see what happens. Keep in touch with her, but not too much. See what she does with some time apart.
This is why I didn't stay too close to any of my ex's.
IMO, if she is going to end a relationship over an ex of yours that you are definitely no longer into, then she has some growing up to do. And that is not a knock on your ages. I think she needs to be more mature.
I think you should give her some space and see what happens. Keep in touch with her, but not too much. See what she does with some time apart.
This is why I didn't stay too close to any of my ex's.
04-15-2009, 04:13 PM
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That sucks man.
IMO, if she is going to end a relationship over an ex of yours that you are definitely no longer into, then she has some growing up to do. And that is not a knock on your ages. I think she needs to be more mature.
I think you should give her some space and see what happens. Keep in touch with her, but not too much. See what she does with some time apart.
This is why I didn't stay too close to any of my ex's.
IMO, if she is going to end a relationship over an ex of yours that you are definitely no longer into, then she has some growing up to do. And that is not a knock on your ages. I think she needs to be more mature.
I think you should give her some space and see what happens. Keep in touch with her, but not too much. See what she does with some time apart.
This is why I didn't stay too close to any of my ex's.
04-15-2009, 04:21 PM
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If you knew her and your ex were good friends prior to you dating her, that was your biggest mistake right there.
You NEVER, EVER, date a girl that's good friends with a previous ex. That's just asking for trouble.
You NEVER, EVER, date a girl that's good friends with a previous ex. That's just asking for trouble.
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04-15-2009, 04:24 PM
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Trust me, I've had this happen to me before. It's not pretty, and it makes you want to seperate yourself from your group of friends, because somewhere, and somehow, someone knows someone somehow from someplace.
Sorry buddy, better luck next time, and don't ever date someone that's friends with a ex that hates you.
04-15-2009, 04:26 PM
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Good friends or not, they know of each other. That's good enough reason for your ex to tell your gf her opinion about you. Rule of thumb, a good majority of the women will side with women's opinion. Always been like that, always will, especially in high school.
04-15-2009, 05:11 PM
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In some instances, it won't just happen. You can try it if you want. It can backfire, it could make you look desperate, or it might work.
That's a risk you gotta make your decision on.
04-15-2009, 08:08 PM
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I'm trying to make it to where I don't have to take her. My mom is being well, my mom. She is like you ARE taking her. I would rather go by myself, make an appearance, leave, and hang with friends. I'll let you know how everything works out.
04-15-2009, 08:50 PM
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look man. just take her to prom and do not- i repeat do not- kiss, finagle, or any sexual contact with her. she wants to be friends, take her to prom as a friend. youre a good guy, so be a gentleman and take her.
revenge is never a good idea. after you take her to prom then let her know that you are willing to talk when she is ready to listen to you.
make sure you let her know that you dont agree with her listening to an ex girlfriend without consulting you first. IMO a good girl always believes her man over an outside party.
revenge is never a good idea. after you take her to prom then let her know that you are willing to talk when she is ready to listen to you.
make sure you let her know that you dont agree with her listening to an ex girlfriend without consulting you first. IMO a good girl always believes her man over an outside party.
04-15-2009, 08:53 PM
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look man. just take her to prom and do not- i repeat do not- kiss, finagle, or any sexual contact with her. she wants to be friends, take her to prom as a friend. youre a good guy, so be a gentleman and take her.
revenge is never a good idea. after you take her to prom then let her know that you are willing to talk when she is ready to listen to you.
make sure you let her know that you dont agree with her listening to an ex girlfriend without consulting you first. IMO a good girl always believes her man over an outside party.
revenge is never a good idea. after you take her to prom then let her know that you are willing to talk when she is ready to listen to you.
make sure you let her know that you dont agree with her listening to an ex girlfriend without consulting you first. IMO a good girl always believes her man over an outside party.
04-15-2009, 09:20 PM
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Nope, haven't talked to her since this morning when she texted me to see if I was feeling better and why I wasn't at school. I guess we will discuss the plans for Saturday tomorrow morning at school. I don't plan on calling, I'm going to give her her space.
04-15-2009, 09:57 PM
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She asked me how I was feeling (I've been really sick this week) and told me that she wasn't ready to get into a serious relationship. After that she sent me an almost illegible message saying something along the lines of I was a great guy or something. More to come later...
good to see that worked out for you
04-16-2009, 06:39 PM
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Let me ask you. Do you guys spend time apart? You guys need to find the time to spend apart from each other. Not talking about school and home time that you are forced not to spend apart.
I think you should both talk about having "alone" time that you can spend with your friends and her with her friends. Make sure she knows that you mean not dating other people. I think it will improve the quality of the time you spend together and will prevent her from feeling smothered.
04-16-2009, 09:06 PM
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Glad it worked out.
Let me ask you. Do you guys spend time apart? You guys need to find the time to spend apart from each other. Not talking about school and home time that you are forced not to spend apart.
I think you should both talk about having "alone" time that you can spend with your friends and her with her friends. Make sure she knows that you mean not dating other people. I think it will improve the quality of the time you spend together and will prevent her from feeling smothered.
Let me ask you. Do you guys spend time apart? You guys need to find the time to spend apart from each other. Not talking about school and home time that you are forced not to spend apart.
I think you should both talk about having "alone" time that you can spend with your friends and her with her friends. Make sure she knows that you mean not dating other people. I think it will improve the quality of the time you spend together and will prevent her from feeling smothered.
Taken care of that all ready. When we first started dating we discussed doing things with our own friends at least one night on the weekends and she agreed. She says spending time with each other non-stop is too much. I also told her to be straightforward with me. If she wants to do something with her friends that night, tell me. I'm hoping it all works out. Oh, I'll post pics from prom if your guys want Saturday night.
