Ok I'm dating this woman who is divorced for over 7 months and was seperated 1.5 years before that. My problem is that she has 2 kids and needs to have some interaction with the ex-husband. This dude is crazy tho and feels he can call and text her anytime he wants. He texted her the other night at 12:01 on her Bday and said he loves her. He texts/calls at 11:45 pm to ask about the kids. This is really pissing me off. She has told him from what she has told me to stop but he dont listen. This is putting a strain on things. I don't know what to do.

Would apperciate any advice.....

 

If they have kids together, then he has a "right" to call her. I'm sure he'll say it's to talk about the kids. You might have her attorney draft up something that limits the times that he can call. Stopping the text msgs may be tough. If I were you, I'd let this go (anger towards the ex) cause it ain't gonna do you any good. You're with her and he's not. Good luck.

 

Pack up the TL and drive to another city, far away.

Other than that, I see no connection between this post and the TL.

 

hahahha i thought this was a different forum for a second there.

 

It will be in about 10 seconds. Moving to Dating and Relationships

 

You are in trouble on 2 accounts:

1. He is the father of the children and will be in the picture at least until they are 18 years old.

2. You are asking for relationship advice in an Automotive Forum. (I know there is a Dating and Relationships section, but I bet you don't see a Mods Section on Dr Phil.com...there's a reason for this).

 

Hey man get use to it or get out the man is going to be in her life untill he's
done paying for his kids. Another bit of advice don't get to attched she might
just say she wants him back. Only reason i know is b/c my mother was
divorced. Hey man GOOD LUCK

 

Another thing is that it's hard to tell whether she "likes it" or not. Does she answer the call? I mean, fuck, the kids are asleep at 1201 right,,so what is there to talk about. He gets his visitation, so they can catch up then. No reason for this guy to have regular contact unless he's still "changing the oil", or she likes the attention. Anything that's done with this problem needs to be done by her and her alone. It'll mean nothing coming from you. Also, make sure SHE wants to stop it. IF she doesn't , you're doomed; move on. As for the "she's with you not with him" stuff, she only needs to be with him for 15 minutes, so don't believe that bull. Again, YOU can't have her attorney draw up crap. IF she wants it stopped, she'll stop it. I've tried this before. You can't want it FOR her. She has to want for herself. Be careful; what woman doens't like "options"?

 

Kill him and make it look like an accident.

 

have her change her number

 

If she wanted to, she would've by now, plus it's the kids' dad, so she can't just disappear. Beside the original poster hasn't bveen back to this thread it looks like, so problem solved, perhaps?

 

Well of course he's not back he must have taken my advice.

 

Dayum, and to think I never even knew this section of the forum was here...

Aight, so as the resident divorced female parent, I feel obligated to add my worthless two cents...

One, if he calls and she takes it, she doesnt mind talking to him. If you told her it bothers you, and she still does it at odd times (midnight? who the fawk isn't sleeping at that time? ) then you might need to rethink this. I have interaction with my ex but not at midnight unless he is calling cuz he is stuck at some girls house after a night of binge drinking and needs my ass to come rescue him.

Two, have you talked to her about this? Where are you two taking this relationship? Because if you marry this lady, you are a part of the relationship too... if you don't plan on being married, then don't take it so personal. He might just be doing it to piss you off. If you don't get pissed, the game ends.

Three, why the hell is there a relationship section on a car site? As a woman I don't log in here to find out how messed up you guys think we are. And trust me, we are. But hell boys, if you want advice, ask a woman, YOUR woman. That is all we want.