I will try and keep this as brief as possible:
I dated this girl just out of high school for about 2 months. We both were young, and it ended pretty badly. Jump ahead to this summer. She needs a place to stay, I have a big house, so I rented her a room. We flirt a little, and hit it off. We are both very different from when we dated several years ago, at least, so I thought.
She has been "wandering around" for the last two years, not ready to commit to a relationship. As I said, we hit it off, she breaks it off with her recent attraction, and we fall for each other. I don't know what happened, but we both just "clicked" if you may. We fell in love.
Jump to this weekend. We had been going awesome-life was just about perfect. My sister, who was friends with her, invited her out this past weekend to have a ladies' night out. Now, I have been overly jealous in past relationships, but have managed to controll it within this relatioship-it was never really a problem-I fully trusted her and was fine with her partying with her guy friends.
Anyways, this weekend-she gets drunk and starts hanging on one of the guys that they met downtown. Turns out, she is all over the guy all night-dances with him, hangs on him, etc. The girls start kissing each other in a playful way and then she and the dude get within inches of touching tounges. At the end of the night, the dude takes them all home. My sister and her friends out of the car and leave my girl and the dud in the car. No telling what happens. When she finally does get out of the car, she gives her number to the guy, and he gives his to her. She goes up to my sister's place and tells my sister and her friends that she is not sure if she wants to be in a relationship with me. I pick her up and take her home.
At home, all she tells me is that they talked, and that they weren't all over each other-just a new friend. I learned all of the above from my sister.
What the hell do I do? I do love her, really do. But I have now lost trust, and she flat out lied to me. I want to be with her, but now don't know. What do I do?

 

How old are you? I don't mean to be disrespectful, but it soulds like you guys are late teens, early 20's.

I would as fast as I can. If she is hooking up with other guys and exchanging numbers then referring to her as "you're girl" is a gross mis-calculation on your part. It seems to me that she ain't ready to be in a committed relationship.

So....yeh....

 

A relationship will not last if one party is unsure of her commitment and is not even honest about it. The fact that your gf flirted and exchanged number with another guy should be enough reason to forget her. Yes, you love her and you want things to work. But does she really love and respect you?

 

confront her about it. if she lies again, kick her outta ur house

 

You need to get out of that thing fast. She sounds like trouble. lol...just a friend.

 

give her the boot...

 

You dont want to know what I think G..

I wouldnt kiss her, thats for sure. You have no idea where that mouth went in that car.

 

Tell me about it, I was just as much the sucker for beleiving her. I am mid 20's, so no teenage romance story here. Yes, the relationship developed quickly, but it was honest and true up until this weekend.

 

Fuckin Skirts man.

 

Im really sorry G, you're a good guy. Dump that bitch and move on...

 

+1


there's nothing worse than a liar, cuz if she's lying now it's only gonna get worse...

 

AMEN!!! the reverand has spoken...

 

Move on.

 

Yeah ... bad news. Your sis wouldn't lie to you (right?) but your love interest not being up front with you ... passing her digits to a guy she met at a club? What kind of people do you meet at a club? Church group people? Sorry -- trust is what makes a relationship works and what she did is grounds to nullify any trust you had.

 

:surrender
If all it takes is a couple drinks to get her in that flirtatious mindset and you know she wasn't thinking about you at the time... Get rid of her man! Why even think about it? From what you described; the only way that type of behavior is excusable is if shes a teenager. A grown woman acting like that has other things on her mind than being in a serious relationship with you.

 

I would never lie to my brother... Telling him this was the hardest thing i could have done. A sister is supposed to protect her brother from being hurt and it kills me to know that i am the one that told him and made him hurt. But i figured he deserved to know what happened. He deserves a girl that will be with him and with him only!! My brother is an amazing guy!

 

^ Hey ... I didn't mean to say you in particular would lie to your brother. I just know of some siblings who do stuff like that to get at one another. Or ... the sibling didn't like who the other sibling was dating.

 

 

i am sorry i wasnt meaning it a mean way. just letting everyone know i wouldnt.

 

 

my sister is an amazing women, and if someone ever f's with her, they better hope to hell that they can disapear

Just the fact that she did this IN FRONT of my sister, it just makes it all that much worse.

Just sucks, I really love her-and I know thta she is a better person than that.

 

Cool. Sounds a lot like my sis.

More and more it sounds like you really need to kick her to the curb. I know how hard it is to love someone and be treated with disrespect. Let her do that. If you stick with her than you are also disrespecting yourself.

 

I think you know the answer....Especially when your sis gives it straight to ya. Save yourself even more heartache and end it. Try to end it as civil as possible, because she is still residing in your house, and you don't want her messing with any of your stuff.

 

G let me tell you something. Drunk or not it doesnt matter at this point, once a cheater always a cheater. I dont care what happened in the car. She gave another guy her phone number??? You think shes a better person than that?

She may only be your girlfriend, but you say you love her so its much more deeper than that, at least in your eyes. So cut your losses and dump her now. You let this shit slide theres no telling what she'll do next time, once she knows she can get away with it...

 

I know E. It's just, well damnit, you know how it is. I don't know if I was blind, or what, but I could have sworn that she felt the same towards me as I her.

 

G as hard as it may be to do it, kick her to the curb, b/c if you dont you're only setting yourself up for a harder fall later

 

Sorry man, this sounds like a no brainer to me. Who has the time to put up with this kind of behavior? And who deserve's to be treated like that? I would've been done the second I heard all that stuff from your sis.

 

It sucks G I know.. If she was just dancing with another guy Id understand that. But dude, she took it to a level that she shouldnt have, not if she truley loves you...

Shes knows damn well what she was doing. All it does is proove how she really feels about you...

 

There are two issues - she was incredibly indiscreet, albiet under the influence of 'girl/girl' dare stuff and booze, and then she lied about her indiscretion. Somewhere this young woman has a real sense of low self-esteem..... which hardly bodes well.

Personally, I think folks are human, and slips occur, and booze is a notorious inhibition releaser. That said, when one screws up, one's sense of integrity suggests that one own the behavior. Her not being able to fess up that she really went way out there is a challenge.


The other alternative is that she has been quietly chafing in her relationship with you, has been unable to articulate that, and set out to conduct herself in a way so egregiously offensive that it would drive you away without her having to have a serious discussion with her. Some folks "pick a fight' or do some other outrageous behavior in order to call a halt by forcing the other person to move in a retaliatory way. Manipulative, tiresome, and quite hurtful and - not very honest

It didn't work out the first time, and clearly - I'd lick my wounds and move on the second time as well.

 

I dunno if I'd kick her out - how about jacking up the rent on her?

Seriously though, you said you were charging her rent. How much do you think that factored into the equation? Do you think she could have been using the relationship as a method for a cheap place to stay?

Anyway, aside from the living situation, considering she moved on from some guy to get to you, this just tells me she won't ever settle down. Forget her.

 

You failed.

 

G, E, Z, K, L what the fuck are u guys talking about. what the hell is this G shit every 2 posts? do you go around calling everyone G? I once had a friend like that and he drove me up the fucking wall. Please stop, or get help.

 

ATXCLS: A relationship will fail if one is unsure of commitment. Your gf flirts with other guy and possibly lie about it is even worse. It seems like she just want a fling rather than a relationship and she even said it herself. I understand you love her, but the fact is, can you really trust her, does she really have the love and respect for you?

I cannot tell you what to do, but I would suggest you think twice before you fall deeper inlove with this woman.

 

you go girl

 

^ go away retard

 

His name is Grayson...G for short...does that help

 

 

I'd give her another oppurtinity to explain herself, though that may be a bit generous. Afterall, from what it sounds like they didn't even get as far as kissing. Though it will always come back to the car...

Mike

 

damn dude, why dont you calm the fuck down...

 

Give her the goddamn


she aint worth it brotha