My girlfriend sends me an email and says if I dont buy her a ring we are through..needless to say I started laughing...whateva..

 

Moved to D&R.

I presume she was serious?

 

 

sup bro! I thought you were married...... you brought your son and I assumed the lady you brought was your wife at the last BBQ.

I assume you two have been dating for awhile? Otherwise, she wouldn't be demanding a ring like that

 

Why'd she send it in an email?

 

 

Inspired by Homer...?

 

Maybe he IS married but his GIRLFRIEND sent him the e-mail which explains why he was laughing.

 

Or maybe he's 34 she's 30+, they have a kid, yet he still doesn't want to get married?

In that case, she may have a point here.

 

Jack..I didnt bring a girl to the meet that was someone else's girl just holding my son. I been with my girl for 2+ years and we live together but I told her from day 1 , I'M NOT GETTING MARRIED...I guess she sent it in an email so I wouldn't laugh hysterically in her face.

 

i dont know why people give dating ultimatums it just never works like they planned either bluffs get called and people get hurt or someone caves in end up resenting. how long have you been together? it is redicuasly long or she is getting old me im getting the "baby" preasure wife says in 5 yrs or so if im not ready she is going to stop taking the pill sorry to take your thread reading your "ring" pressure made me think about it

 

pretty much the scenario is what Dom said to the tee, I'm beginning to think he is a private investigator

 

It didn't take much to figure out.

If you told her no marriage from the beggining than that changes things. She probly agreed to it then thinking she could change your mind later on. Having a baby didn't seem to change your mind so now she's trying to force it on you. Sounds like a good time to remind her marraige was never in the cards.

But are you worried about losing you son? If she leaves I presume the son goes with her?

 

I can see both sides of the story. My brother has NO desire to get married, his gf of 7 years is just starting to grasp this concept. I can understand where she is coming from too, woman want things in a certain order and marriage is one thing woman typically want so they don't feel like a failure. Doesn't sound like everyone is going to win in this situation, someone will get hurt and I just hope the child does not suffer because of the parents ego's.

IMO when a child is involved, the child comes first, then the spouse and lastly your want's - its part of being a good father/husband, i.e. man.

 

Nope..I told her my son comes with me no matter what. I covered that before he was born, and let her know I'd fight that kicking and screaming so don't try it. I have a stepson who is a 10 yr old whiney brat and always told her there is no way in hell my son is gonna end up like him.

 

CL Platano: How come you don't want to get married? Is there a reasons why you think this way? I am just curious.

Thanks

 

Marriage is only a piece of paper..If you already live with someone and have a family why spend thousands of dollars for 1 day just to say youre married. My last name is boring I don't know why she would want it anyway

 

I see, thanks

 

True. But, what's not important to you is perhaps important to her.

She is obviously a big part of your life...so, perhaps the importance of this "paper" and event is a huge thing for her? I'm not saying you're off to orbit or wrong about it (I think weddings are overrated too ), but maybe her request is worth noting and consideration if she's important and means enough to you?

 

If money is really the issue you can always have an inexpensive marraige. Besides it's not really the marraige that hurts your wallet so much as the reception.

Since you've only been with her for two years it's not a huge deal to put off getting married for another year or two.

I guess you'll find out if she's right for you based on whether or not she pushes you into an ultimatum.

 

Maybe if I don't say anything else she'll forget about it

 

Good luck

 

u two could just go to city hall and get married in front of a judge... done...

 

I dunno but I have to chuckle...

My lady I've been with for a bit over 2.5 years that I lived with (past tense) also bugs me about getting married. But then again I'm 24 and shes 21 and I'm nowhere near ready to stop chasing skirts and being a typical 20 sumthing year old. Goodluck dude!

 

Unlikely.

 

Women NEVER forget.

 

There are a lot of benefits of marriage....I can't think of any of them, but Im sure there are....


Also, don't loose your kid you putz, get married if she wants to.....

 

Are you willing to share with us why you don't want to get married?

EDIT: nevermind I just learned how to read

 

Nope she always mentioned she wants a church wedding, and I keep reminding her I'm the devil and I'm not allowed in church.

 

So, are you against getting married at all or just spending a lot of money to get married in a church?

 

All of the above To me marriage is like being someone's property and then to relinquish yourself from this property is a huge ordeal.

 

Women think about marriage TOTALLY different from Men. If you been dating her for 2 yrs+ you need to man up shortly and put a ring on her finger or tell her that you will not get married so she can do what she wants.

It took me just a little over 2 yrs to ask my wife. And when I did she asked me what took so long. She said she about to put it out there either marry her or she's gone, 10 years now. A friend of mine was told after dating his girlfriend one year, you either marry me or I'm gone. They got married, been together 13 years.

 

So you willing to lose her over this? hmm....

 

She's full of crap, she aint going nowhere. If she does oh well, can't force me to do something I don't want to.

 

Dude, you're fucked. This will come up again and again.

 

so she'll stick around for another 10+ years without any commitment from you what-so-ever?
If getting married is best for your family, I suggest you at least consider it.

 

I can see where she is coming from though. I mean, you two have a kid together. Im sure she does not like telling people that she has a kid with her "boyfriend"....

It just sounds to me like your not wanting to get married for the wrong reasons. If its "just a piece of paper", then what do you care if your married or not. At least you would be making her happy. And when mama's happy, everyones happy...

 

you made my day with that comment.

 

Getting married is one of the best things you can ever do in your life.
Make sure she's your soul mate though.

 

Women are never happy, they always fine something to bitch about.