Alright, my best friend of 12 years is seriously pissing me off lately...

He's like never had much standards at all, but lately he's adopted some quanity vs. quality thing and has started "seeing" more chicks, etc. He's even got a few online g/fs...two that he's traveled hours to see. I wouldn't touch any of them with a 10ft pole. Like, I don't wanna be mean but seriously. It's gotten to the point where I'll avoid him if I know he's with some girl, b/c I don't wanna lok bad - know what I mean? I'll avoid riding with him around school, b/c he'll wanna pick up some girl he knows and give her a ride, where as I wouldn't let her ride in my trunk. One girl I know asked me what the hell I was doing hanging around chicks like that when she saw my say hey to him one day while he was talking to some girls. This sux, it's like making a choice btn my friend and other (hot) girls. He's a cool guy and all, but...

The other thing...he's been blowing off shit we always do to hang out with these hoes. He'll make up shit he's gotta go, and I find out later he was w/ some girl. AND: Dude complains all the damn time about money, and how we wants to turbo his Accord, blah blah and then he just spends all her gets on these chicks. He spent $400 this last weekend going to see some chick across the state.

It's pissing me off to see him going is some other direction, when I know he can do better. He just has no game, and he's just wanting to get laid or w/e. Money isn't really a problem, his grandparents are basically millionares, and his parents are pretty loaded themselves. He doesn't pay any of his car payment or insurance or cell phone bill. All the money he makes where we work (same DJ company) he could do w/e he wanted with, but it all seems to disappear.

 

Shit, I forgot the question.

SOOOOOOOO.........

Do I say fuck it, and just tell him to do w/e (and basically quit hangin with him)...OR...Do I just hang with him like normal and hope all of my other friends don't say anything?

All that shit prob sounds retarted...oh well it's 2:30am...

 

sounds like you already answered yer own question

 

Here's my take...

He's been your friend for 12 years, and you sound like you can just drop him like it's no big deal.

Don't take this personally, but what kind of a friend does that make you?

If I ever saw my buddy going in a direction that I didn't really think was best for him, I'd TALK to him about it. Afterall, that's what friends do, right?

Just because he hangs around people you don't 'approve" of doesn't mean he's a bad person, does it? Don't judge a book by its cover...

 

Well it's not like the above is the whole story. I've talking to him about stuff like this for years. He just won't listen. It's just gotten to the point where he'd rather go hang with some hoes than go do the shit we normally do (clubs, etc). So it's almost like he can just put me in the trunk and say hey every once in a while. So if anything, to him - he can just drop me like it's nothing. If I could do that, I wouldn't be all bent out of shape over it.

I'm not judging a book by it's cover, I mean I know the man better than almost anyone...but I'm in college - that's basically how shit works. I don't think he's a bad person, just making some bad decisions and he doesn't see anything wrong with it and won't listen. Even his mom realizes it. She wanted me to talk to him. She doesn't like the fact that he's got like 4 g/fs at the same damn time. I'm just worried about other people doing judging by the cover. It's already happened.

 

Kill him.

 

If you have talked to him, let him learn on his own. He's living life the way he wants to, let him.

 

I'm with ya now...

If you've shared with him how you feel and what he's doing is still making you uncomfortable, then you gotta do what you gotta do.

 

Sorry dude, shit happens

friends for life are rare, and 12 years is a good run (hell youve been friends for most of my life, im 17) but people grow older and go in there own directions.

I say go in your own direction, if you mean something to him hopefully he'll follow, and after 12 years if he doesn't, he couldn't have valued you as a friend all that much anyway

 

Hell we've been friends for most of my life - i'm only 18.

I appreciate the opinions everyone, sorry if I sound like an idiot...

 

Just back off and let him take his own road.

He'll either come around or he wont. Shit happens like that, sucks, but not much you can do.

 

 

It could just be a phase. Let your friend get it out of his system, give some space. Geez, you guys sound like your dating or something!!!

 

he's just trying to get some poon man, let him be. But if he keeps it up, like eclipse said......kill him.





j/k

 

Yeah, people really start going their own ways around 18 and it sucks when you start to lose a friend. It sounds like he's trying to see what's out there for himself and not giving a damn about his friends. Maybe he'll come around but you can't force him cause he'll resent you even more for it. Give him some time but dont wait around. I met some of the coolest people I knew when I turned 18 and 19 when my old friends grew apart from me. It'll be his own fault when he figures out his acting like a douchebag drove you away

 

bros before hoes man.... no matter what... tell him that

 

Yea...I found out like a week ago he's been "talking" to one of my exes...he was like "dude she's hot" I was like yea so what? W/e...thanks for all the opinions, at least you guys are kewl.

 

tell him that his aol ass isnt gunna be around for the rest of his life and stop being a worthless faggot hang out when you want to little bitch queeeer flame bag fuckstick.

 

 

thats what happens when ya think w/ your dick