You all remember the stupid coworker who cancelled our hangout last Saturday. Well, I was so disgusted by her actions that I made a stupid decision of my own although I don't regret all of what happened last night. The coworker is not a part of the following story so please bare with me. A couple of years ago, I met a really cute Irish girl through another female friend. The Irish girl and I only met up a few times, but we had a lot of fun together. The Irish girl and I never fooled around at the time because believe it or not, I thought she was too young for me back then because she was only 19 and I was 34. Well she's 21 now, I'll fuck any girl over 17 now, and the Irish girl and I have had sex on 2 different occasions. What's the problem, you ask? Remember, I hadn't seen this girl in over 2 years before last month. My friend, Lisa, gave Heather (Irish girl) my number and she called me. We hung out, we had sex, but ah, something was fishy. Heather always had great tits, even at 19. Her tits were noticeable droopier when I saw her with her clothes off so I had to ask; do you have a baby? a lot can happen in 2 years you know. Bad news number 1 - Heather has a baby. Then I asked her, you don't have a man do you? You guessed it. That was last month when I decided not to call her even though she made the initial phone call. I don't like messing around with other men's women. Anyway, after the stupid actions of my coworker last Saturday, I called Heather last night, banged the shit out of her, and even videotaped the 2 of us making out. I know I should stop seeing Heather, but she's so much prettier than my coworker, Solange, who I'm supposed to meet for dinner tomorrow (gave her a 2nd chance). My moral dilemma is not about how I banged another girl before I even gave Solange a chance, that's not even an issue with me. My dilemma is about seeing a girl (Heather) who has a man. I don't want any problems in the near future and although I like Heather a lot, I have to stop seeing her. What if Solange (coworker) does some stupid shit again tomorrow? That's gonna send me right back to Heather. How am I gonna stay strong and keep away from Heather?

 

Time to drop Heather. Last thing you want is some angry boyfriend/husband coming after you. Best to end things now before they get uglier. And perhaps next time, if you find out about the girl having a man, just don't bother tapping that one. It's more trouble than it's worth.

And if you're worried about her getting upset, just remember that sticking to good moral principles might be better for you in the long run.

 

Batin, I can't wait to see you on the next episode of "Cheaters"

 

you lead a complex life, not the least of which is that you seem to be growing younger, not older. Wish I could replciate that trick

 

I can't figure out why it is that when I was 19, I couldn't get with 19 year old girls, yet older women were so in love with me. Now that I'm 36, 19 year olds are so easy to get with, and as for older women, trust me, you don't want them older than you when you're 36.

 

I am not down with the cheating. Maybe it is time to walk away from both.

BTW,

 

Good advice, CGTSX2004. My fear is not so much keeping up a low key relationship with Heather, it's more like I'm worried I'll take the easy way out with her again, if things don't work out with Solange. Honestly, Solange is not as pretty as Heather, but she is single. The truly right thing to do is to forget about both of them, but I'm not thinking with the right head at the moment. I need to find another prospect, one who's single, and one who doesn't play stupid games.

 

I see we think alike. I just might leave them both alone, I just might.

 

You say one is prettier than the other one...but what about something that really counts at the end of the day...umm....PERSONALITY???

are you looking at long term relationships or just fucking these girls and that's it?

if you are looking for long term relationship then you will have to drop heather and start focusing/concentraing on solange...

if you are just into fucking the girls then be a player...do both girls lol

i just can't seem to see your priority...what is the PURPOSE of all this...are you looking to hook up with someone for a long time...possibly marriage? or you just want to feel young and have fun?

there are more important things in life than just sex...

 

for a guy who calls himself "The Love Doctor" you sure have alot of problems with the bishes...

 

Here, dont meet both of them. time to find new girls

 

I thought Solange was a nice person until that stupid cancellation Saturday on my phone call, that changed my perception of her and her "personality". Now Solange is labelled a game player until she proves otherwise. Why am I mentioning Heather's looks? I asked out Solange because she was single and I thought if I kept my mind off the not so single Heather, I'd be ok. Solange's looks were never her strongsuit and I was just pointing out that had both girls been single, Heather would be my girl of choice hands down, but we know that's not the case so back to experimenting with the game playing Solange.

 

I personally think you should drop both of them. Solange because shes inconsiderate and Heather because she is involved in a family situation. If it were just her and a bf minus the child I'd say w/e its your life go for it, but there is a child involved here. There can't be anything long term that comes out of your relationship with Heather unless her baby's daddy disappears and/or you want a step-son sometime in the near future.

I know you can find some better ass out there LD

 

Personally, I believe that if you had strong feelings for a girl or if you were really into the girl, then you wouldn't be going through this dilemma...I just don't think that you truly care for either of these girls...one of them could be used for sex...the other one could be used for company/companionship...

if you really really really cared for solange, you wouldn't be asking yourself these questions about heather and you would just take heather out of the equation...and you really don't care about heather that much because if you did then it wouldn't matter whether she had a child or not or whether her titties were sagging or anything else...

as some people have mentioned above, it would be wise/best/practical for you to leave both of these girls since you don't want to be "that guy" who "ruined their lives"....keep one thing in mind that women are more emotional than men...most of them want to know whether there is potential for the future...the way you talk about these women, it really doesn't seem as if you are thinking about any potential...and that the goal is just short term benefit...

if you just want to have sex then stay with heather and do her whenever you want...and if solange is a "game player" then step outside of the game and see how she reacts...play a little "hard to get"...have her be the one who takes the initiative...let her be the one to call you and invite you to the movies/dinner...

another thing...if you really were hurt about solange cancelling on you then you could tell her about it...or you could give her a taste of her own medicine...if she decides to plan something for both of you, then cancel at the last minute like she did...and then the next day tell her that you did it purposely just to show her how you felt...now you should do this only if you don't plan on being with this girl and just want to teach her a lesson...it all depends on how you want things to be...if you care about her then you will just tell her and not teach her a lesson, but if you don't care about her then you should teach her a lesson to make her understand...sometimes it's important for people to teach you a lesson about something and there are times when it's important for you to teach someone a lesson...goes both ways...

so, you should just identify your needs and make moves according to that...if you want pussy, then go with heather...if you want a serious relationship that could have potential, then you need to decide whether solange is the right girl for that role...if not, then there are many fishes in the sea...

 

Send the tape to Heather's man, put Solange's return address on the package. Then move and change jobs

I always like to get even!

 

that will work until the bf notices solange doesnt look like the man making out with his woman.

 

omfg
dude you are getting in deep. Drop the chick with the kid and if rude chick screws up, to damn bad. move on, try living in a area that has few good women, if I was you in NYC I wouldn't worry one damn bit. There are so many fish in your tank, just be you kid. And keep it real, stop thinking with your dickeydo.

 

why does one have to send you to the arms of another?? that I don't understand...drop em both..

 

I like this kid. TRR, you'd make a good LD.

 

I was referencing your posting data, which notes your age at 28.............

aside from that, I had a couple of charmed affairs with women oler than me when I was in my early twenties. Then, somewhere, the balance does shift................

 

x 420,068

and learn to use a paragraph

 

I saw the commercial again this morning for the new Will Smith movie, Hitch, and I was reminded of this exact situation...

 

don't go with either. you're obviously having trouble accepting characteristics of both girls, so just move on.

you won't be happy with solange becuase you're not physically attracted to her and her rude episode.

you won't be happy with heather because she's 19 and has a baby, and a babydaddy. and saggy tits.

i don't know you, but i'd like to think you can do much better than either of those two.

 

Andrea, how could you say you don't know me? Heather is now 21, Solange is not very attractive that's true, and you can't hate on saggy tits just because she spit out a junior. I'll find someone else, but damn if I'm not having some fucked up luck lately.