I finally banged that young chick the other day, but I have very mixed feelings about it. For one, I felt like I obligated her into it; we were kissing and I mentioned to her that I never got a chance to be "inside her" so we got it on that day. I was saying and doing all kinds of things to make her feel guilty and while I would never force a girl to have sex, my manipulation of her young mind makes me feel almost as though I forced her. I know I wanted to bang her badly, but now that it's happened, I'm not sure it was the right way to go about it. Did I do the right thing by making her feel guilty enough to bang? Part of me feels like I did because the teasing is out of the way, but another part of me says "you just blew it" and it's time to move on...yet again.

 

You probably shouldn't have, but with her teasing you so much I can understand it. Them young'uns are hard to pass up when they present themselves like that, maybe a little guiilty?

 

More than a little guilty. After we finished the deed, she wasn't showing me the usual kind of loving she shows me and I had a bad feeling. I took a shower alone, she said she'd take one later, and after I came out, she was on her computer. I took her back to the bed and started making out with her, but I noticed that if I didn't start the action, she never would. We were 50/50 on starting kisses before that. I just get a bad feeling right now.

 

umm i think she felt pressured into doing it and now its prob gunna back fire on you.

 

I got mixed signals from her too. Even though she didn't initiate the kissing afterwards, she was staring into my face and playing with my hair. The only difference between that day and others was that she would have planted a kiss on me. I don't know, maybe she was tired.

 

That sucks, My gf is the same way someway sometimes...but if it was jst a one night thing...then forget her and move on...

 

I've known her for a month now and that's easier said than done. I'm not apologizing for anything because that would mean I did something wrong, but I can't shake this feeling that she doesn't like me as much as she did before.

 

sounds to me like she was just doing it for the sake of shutting you up!!! been there done that. and afterwards if she seemed cold about it she prob regrets doing it with you. i mean i wasnt there so i cant say for sure. but i dont think it is heading down a good path. usally if the girl really wanted to sleep with you and it was good their happy after wards and the last thing they wanna do is jump on the comp. their more likely to bat their eyes at you and tell you to come back to bed. as for the shower maybe she isnt comfy taking a shower with you. and besides 2 people in the shower sucks we the guys alwasy freeze our ass off sitting out side the hot water.

 

Yup, she was just trying to please me. As for the shower, we were about to take it together, but she wanted to jump on the computer so that's why she didn't come in with me. She probably had some private shit to tell her friends about me, hopefully not bad things.

 

glad that Dr EvIL could help lil buddy

 

i think u should stick around. young girls never forget their "older" men. you will be in her thoughts for the next 5 years. anyway, why don't you talk to her and ask her how she feels, maybe she's a little freaked out and needs a little comforting. don't just leave dude.

 

you should ask dr. love for advice... err, nevermind.

 

maybe she had higher expectations?

 

As a girl, I would not really like it if the guy pressured me to have sex. When I do it the first time with the guy, it's because I'm really dying to do it.

Don't think it's totally your fault. You are both equally responsible for the current situation. For her part, she should have been more firm about not giving in if she was indeed not ready yet.

As for the way she is acting now, perhaps she feels vulnerable now that she has allowed herself to be that intimate with you? Maybe she wants more than the casual banging but she gets the vibe from you that that's the only thing you can give for now?

You guys need to talk.

 

WWJBD?

What Would James Bond Do?

Why can't you cut it off and move on? Aw, Batin's a sweety pie, lolz. But seriously, why not?

 

classic

 

I did, and he says it's time to move on.

 

The fact that you call it a "LAY" makes me wonder where you recieved your PHD ....Dr. Love.:gheylaugh:

 

yea... u fucked up, shouldn't have urged her into it. Just be extra nice to her now, and treat her with the utmost respect

 

She probably did feel a significant amount of pressure, but in the end it was her choice whether or not to let you. Its not like you raped her or anything and if she feels used its her own fault for letting it happen. Were you guys together? If you were looking for something long term you probably should have waited, but I don't think you have much to feel bad about otherwise.

 

If she really didnt want u to do it, would she let you ??? so i think ur set...
But then again, dam u cud be manipulative.....

LOL