Kissed my friend! Now what?
01-04-2006, 01:45 PM
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Kissed my friend! Now what?
On NYE, I kissed one of my good friends. At first, I was thinking it was just a spur-of-the-moment New Years thing. However, it turned more into a let's-hold-hands-and-kiss-even-more-evening.
I'm interested in pursuing this further actually. So, my question is: what do I do next? What do I not do? Thanks in advance and I'm looking forward to your input.
I'm interested in pursuing this further actually. So, my question is: what do I do next? What do I not do? Thanks in advance and I'm looking forward to your input.
01-04-2006, 02:12 PM
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Did you enjoy it as much as he did? 
If this is someone you do things with regularly, just make plans to do something and see where it goes. Try to get a read on her, but don't force the issue. Hopefully you'll get a clear sign about what her intentions are fairly quickly.
If this is someone you do things with regularly, just make plans to do something and see where it goes. Try to get a read on her, but don't force the issue. Hopefully you'll get a clear sign about what her intentions are fairly quickly.
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01-04-2006, 02:23 PM
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Originally Posted by ccarbajal08
yes, hopefully. she did invite me over for dinner the next night. however, she wasn't all over me or anything.
01-04-2006, 02:25 PM
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most important thing, don't just play it off like nothing happened. you have to discuss this with her asap and make sure everyones true feelings / intentions are known. that is, if she's a good friend that you don't want to risk losing. if that's the case, what better than dating a good friend...you already know your compatible, and now the physical part is just a bonus.
and if she's not such a great friend yet, then just
and share pics.
and if she's not such a great friend yet, then just
and share pics.
Umbrella or rain coat?
01-04-2006, 02:30 PM
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Originally Posted by SwervinCL
Your best bet is just to talk to her about it. Take your time. And most importantly, dont get mad if she feels that she wants to just remain friends.
Just ask her out and get "friendly
" again. If she doesn't like it, stop talking to her.
01-04-2006, 02:35 PM
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then talk about it. Talk about it first = no
Now I get it.
01-04-2006, 02:58 PM
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Think about the situation you guys were in. Its New Years Eve, both of you were drinking probably, tipsy and didn't have a significant other. When New Years hits, of course you're going to find someone to jump on.
I'd seriously not think too much of it unless she gives you signs that she's interested in going further. I'd rather keep the friendship than chance losing her.
I'd seriously not think too much of it unless she gives you signs that she's interested in going further. I'd rather keep the friendship than chance losing her.
01-04-2006, 03:02 PM
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Originally Posted by SwervinCL
Your best bet is just to talk to her about it. Take your time. And most importantly, dont get mad if she feels that she wants to just remain friends.
01-04-2006, 03:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
I still dont know how people get to 25 and still not know how to deal with stuff like this.
01-04-2006, 04:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Crazy Sellout
I still dont know how people get to 25 and still not know how to deal with stuff like this.
Its people like him that make me feel like a relationship whore...lol.
This is what it basically boils down to. You have to ask yourself this question
1. Do you value her friendship. (if yes, then keep it as friends, if no. go for it)
You know that once you cross that line, your friendship is pretty much toast.
01-04-2006, 04:21 PM
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Originally Posted by SwervinCL
Its people like him that make me feel like a relationship whore...lol.
This is what it basically boils down to. You have to ask yourself this question
1. Do you value her friendship. (if yes, then keep it as friends, if no. go for it)
You know that once you cross that line, your friendship is pretty much toast.
This is what it basically boils down to. You have to ask yourself this question
1. Do you value her friendship. (if yes, then keep it as friends, if no. go for it)
You know that once you cross that line, your friendship is pretty much toast.
01-04-2006, 04:32 PM
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Somebody post the ladder theory link
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Originally Posted by SwervinCL
Its people like him that make me feel like a relationship whore...lol.
This is what it basically boils down to. You have to ask yourself this question
1. Do you value her friendship. (if yes, then keep it as friends, if no. go for it)
You know that once you cross that line, your friendship is pretty much toast.
This is what it basically boils down to. You have to ask yourself this question
1. Do you value her friendship. (if yes, then keep it as friends, if no. go for it)
You know that once you cross that line, your friendship is pretty much toast.
01-04-2006, 04:52 PM
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Originally Posted by ABreece
This is true. However, if you have feelings for this girl and she doesn't feel the same way, you'll only be hurting yourself by keeping in touch with her. If you wanna make it something more, go for it now and don't look back.
If you don't try, you will always question yourself later in life. The relationship you had with her will never be the same. It will either progress into something more, or it will die an agonizing death.
01-04-2006, 04:59 PM
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I'll ask her out to dinner tomorrow night then. Ya, I know it can hurt the friendship. However, I'm not comfortable with leaving it alone. I'll always wonder if anything could have happened, you know? I guess I'll just have to take that risk.
01-04-2006, 05:22 PM
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Originally Posted by ccarbajal08
I'll ask her out to dinner tomorrow night then. Ya, I know it can hurt the friendship. However, I'm not comfortable with leaving it alone. I'll always wonder if anything could have happened, you know? I guess I'll just have to take that risk.
01-04-2006, 05:31 PM
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Originally Posted by ccarbajal08
I'll ask him out to dinner tomorrow night then. Ya, I know it can hurt the friendship. However, I'm not comfortable with leaving it alone. I'll always wonder if anything could have happened, you know? I guess I'll just have to take that risk.
and besides, bros before hos right?
j/k
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01-04-2006, 09:01 PM
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Seeing someone after a drunk kiss/mash/hook-up is always awkward, even if you like them. That might be the reason for her not being "all over you" the day after. She might not want you to think she was easy-because if she liked you, she wouldn't want you to lose interest too quickly either. 
Good luck!
Good luck!