On NYE, I kissed one of my good friends. At first, I was thinking it was just a spur-of-the-moment New Years thing. However, it turned more into a let's-hold-hands-and-kiss-even-more-evening.

I'm interested in pursuing this further actually. So, my question is: what do I do next? What do I not do? Thanks in advance and I'm looking forward to your input.

 

Your best bet is just to talk to her about it. Take your time. And most importantly, dont get mad if she feels that she wants to just remain friends.

 

buy her a purse

 

There goes another good friend...

 

Did you enjoy it as much as he did?

If this is someone you do things with regularly, just make plans to do something and see where it goes. Try to get a read on her, but don't force the issue. Hopefully you'll get a clear sign about what her intentions are fairly quickly.

 

you're a gay

 

yes, hopefully. she did invite me over for dinner the next night. however, she wasn't all over me or anything.

 

 

haha, no, i'm not a gay. she's a girl, i'm a guy.

 

ladies, any input?

 

dude go do whatever you want.... go ask her out or somethng then

 

and don't forget to post pics if you really want our "inputs"

 

Well, don't expect her to just jump you. You're going to have to check for more subtle clues. How does she look at you? Is she acting any different - esp more bashful or playful? If you move close to her, does she back off? If she is standoffish, then New Years Eve was probably it. If she is showing interest, then you're going to have to act on it - and soon. If you wait too long, then you will miss your chance and will probably not get another one

 

most important thing, don't just play it off like nothing happened. you have to discuss this with her asap and make sure everyones true feelings / intentions are known. that is, if she's a good friend that you don't want to risk losing. if that's the case, what better than dating a good friend...you already know your compatible, and now the physical part is just a bonus.

and if she's not such a great friend yet, then just and share pics.

 

keep your umbrella handy

 

Umbrella or rain coat?

 

Talking to her about it is a good way to convince her to NOT touch his penis.

Just ask her out and get "friendly " again. If she doesn't like it, stop talking to her.

 

then talk about it. Talk about it first = no

 

Ok, so you got to first base. Steal second, third and run for home.....

 

She'll probably get more pleasure out of the umbrella

 

...cuz the shit's about to hit the fan

 

Now I get it.

 

Think about the situation you guys were in. Its New Years Eve, both of you were drinking probably, tipsy and didn't have a significant other. When New Years hits, of course you're going to find someone to jump on.

I'd seriously not think too much of it unless she gives you signs that she's interested in going further. I'd rather keep the friendship than chance losing her.

 

 

Somebody post the ladder theory link

 

ASk her how drunk she was first. She might not remember

 

interesting...some people say i not think anything of it. some say talk first; others say hook up again. we should make a poll.

 

I still dont know how people get to 25 and still not know how to deal with stuff like this.

 

ya, i feel bad

 

Its people like him that make me feel like a relationship whore...lol.


This is what it basically boils down to. You have to ask yourself this question

1. Do you value her friendship. (if yes, then keep it as friends, if no. go for it)

You know that once you cross that line, your friendship is pretty much toast.

 

 

 

Gladly.

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This is true. However, if you have feelings for this girl and she doesn't feel the same way, you'll only be hurting yourself by keeping in touch with her. If you wanna make it something more, go for it now and don't look back.

 

I think I saw a porno that started this way before...

 

If you don't try, you will always question yourself later in life. The relationship you had with her will never be the same. It will either progress into something more, or it will die an agonizing death.

 

I'll ask her out to dinner tomorrow night then. Ya, I know it can hurt the friendship. However, I'm not comfortable with leaving it alone. I'll always wonder if anything could have happened, you know? I guess I'll just have to take that risk.

 

This is the proper attitude to have.

 

and besides, bros before hos right?



j/k

 

Was this supposed to be relevant?

Edit: nm, i just noticed the white text

 

Seeing someone after a drunk kiss/mash/hook-up is always awkward, even if you like them. That might be the reason for her not being "all over you" the day after. She might not want you to think she was easy-because if she liked you, she wouldn't want you to lose interest too quickly either. Good luck!