A few months ago i was dating Jessica, 18 year old from VA beach (15 mins away). until thanksgiving when i went home (Louisville, KY 10.5 hours away) my best friend of four years (Laura, 22) told me she wanted me. So i broke up with Jess and got with Laura. i went home on leave for Christmas and Laura and i had a great time. I have not seen her since. it had been going alright the past month or so until lately. two weeks ago our conversations seem distant, like i'm disconnected. the last time i talked to her on the phone was saturday morning (feb. 3rd). i sent her a txt message that night and she still has yet to reply to it. she got on her s/n the other night and i sent her an IM, she didn't reply either. i'm calling her later tonite to wish her happy bday. but i really don't like this disconnected feeling. i mean, i know she's busy, she's a junior in college and has a job, but i see her on aim and myspace every now and then. too busy to reply to me, but have enough time to sign into myspace?? jess and i have been friends since the breakup, but i have always still wanted her. and she still wants me. it makes me think, what's better a long distance relationship or a relationship that it is possible to see each other as often as the schedule permits? i have no idea what to do.

just for shits and giggles, here are pics...

Jessica



Laura

 

Whats the question?

 

If she doesn't acknowledge you on IM, she's not into you. Go back to Jessica, if she'll have you.

And I can't see the pics, not everyone has a myspace account, host em somewhere.

 

i'll try this ....


Jess



Laura

 

How much can you really care about Jessica if you were non-chalant enough to break up with her at the drop of a dime for an opportunity with someone else? Seriously. Think about that. Also, your decision should be based 100% on WHO you like, not based on who lives where, to a detriment of if you actually like her. You could date your next door neighbour for location convenience for all we cared, but what's the point, if you don't like her?!. Personally, it doesn't sound like you really want to be with either woman, so why not find someone you're actually into?

 

Jess - 5/10
Laura - 2/10

 

Go with the 22 year old...

 

after a better look at Jess I'm raising her score to 6/10

 

Jessica scares me.

Go wit the older one.

 

Post a pic of yourself and we can determine if you should settle for those two, or move onto greener pastures.

Looks aside, I think you need to find someone else. You don't seem to be into her as much as you want yourself to be. Why waste the time on her?

 

I vote for the right hand.

 

I might consider changing your name to at least "Ass Hat" vs "Ass Clown." Clowns tend to scare people.


Seriously though, why cant you just be single? If you really gave two shats about the younger one you wouldnt have dumped her in the first place. Dip your stick somewhere else for a change.

 

i am really into both of them. i'm just trying to figure out what i REALLY want.

me:



laura and i:



another of laura:



others of jess

 

jess fo sho man. Damn homie you ok?

 

1. You're in school. Don't bother with long distance relationships.
2. Laura is avoiding you - she is either losing interest or did something she is ashamed of.
3. Jess is cuter and looks like she aims to please.

For those keeping score, its:
Jess - 3
Laura - 0

 

I couldn't have put it better myself

 

Neither

Start fresh and stick with the new girl

 

As one of many people who asked about long term relationships on this board, let me tell you, from experience now, that its ALOT harder and takes ALOT more work than you ever think it will. Keep hooking up with laura and stay friends with jess and just hook up with her next time you see her. bam, best of both worlds.

 

bingo! give this man a cigar

 

do you have some sexy pix.... LOL ... answer is NEW GIRL ...wtf look around... everithing on sale LOL

 

time to go out more and find someone new, im sure you can do better

 

Jess, a long distance relationship is a relationship between 4 people

 

Just keep in mind that there are more woman than 'Jess & Laura' in the world.

Let the cards fall where they may. Laura is hiding/distancing from a reason. Jess is too young and has some growing to do.

 

Going off my looks and the distance I would have to go with Jess. She knows you broke up with her because wanted to get with another girl so you dont have to explain this to her. She also wants to be with you again. Laura on the other hand is advoiding you when she clearly has time to drop a line or 2.

+1 for Jess

But you can all date both of em =) Jess on the weekdays ( being she is closer ) and Laura on the weekends ( if the distance is not so far away )

 

Laura was being female. In other words, she was just using you to check if she was good enough to get you. Now that she's proved that to herself, she's done with you.

Best friend, my ass!